Can I just say that I find it slightly sad that you’re the only one considering moving? If you guys want it to work you both need to compromise. Otherwise there will just be a lot of regret and if it doesn’t work out you’ll always be like “damn I left my family for you”.
I think the only solution is to find a place where you both would comprise something yet still have each other and that’s what matters?
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Long distance relationship problem watch
- 11-02-2018 18:21
- 11-02-2018 19:06
(Original post by rsmccune)
- 11-02-2018 19:21
I have a big family and we see each other almost everyday, his family is just his mum and sister so even though it may not sound it, when I’m over there it’s a massive difference. I know all the things I don’t want to leave he’d be missing too if he moved but he’s already made the decision not to for those reasons. The education system is very very different and results here are much higher than england every year and I’d rather my kids have a NI culture if possible rather than look down on NI like they would growing up in England. He’s very accepted over here, when I go over there people are quite condescending about the fact I’m from NI. You can get a nicer house here for the same money which would be a future consideration but right now we couldn’t afford anywhere at all over there as I can’t get a proper job yet and the difference in wage is nowhere near the difference in living costs (we’ve researched it all). He won’t come to Boston for the nine months because he’s started a new job before Christmas and wants to stay and work his way up even though Boston won’t be for another year anyway.
- 12-02-2018 00:19