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    Back in 2015 I left my secondary school to go to another school's sixth form. I was so stressed about moving schools, not knowing anyone, and getting back into more studying (the jump from GCSE and A Level is tough). I didn't get chance to text them (I'm not a huge texter anyway), ask them how they were or how they were getting on with the sixth form at my previous school. A few months into sixthform, they were both hanging out at one friend's - lets call her A - house, and both friends A and B started texting me at the same time on their phones, in a forceful tone, about how I never spoke to them, never asked them how they were getting on etc. They never texted me either, so we both were in the same situation. I was close friends with friend A for 5 years, and friends with friend B for 4 years.

    Also in year 11, friend A got a boyfriend and would talk about him all the time. Everyday. She started to always hang out with him and basically forgot I existed outside of school. That's how I felt anyway. A's boyfriend went to another school. I think I became more distant when she talked about her boyfriend, but I would still respond in the conversation but friend B was more interested.

    So we had this big argument, and apparently I saw them in town the day before and ignored them - I didn't see them in town that day, but I was in town so they must have seen me. They didn't come to me though? They saw me, and didn't say hi and they're blaming me for ingoring them, when I didn't see them? I'm trying to understand that and failing.

    We haven't spoken since, because I unfollowed them because they were making me more stressed (My other friend who they don't know had passed away a few weeks before the argument). Yeserday, friend A followed me on Instagram. What should I do? I have made better, more positive friends since the argument and I do not miss her one bit. Shes the faketan-makeup-eyebrows-clubbing-alcohol-shortdresses-snapchateverything-drama type of girl and I'm the books-nerd-bigcardigans-hoodie-nevertouchedalcohol-studyoversocialising type of girl. Any advice on if I should follow her back, block her so she isn't following me, message her, apoligise? I have no clue what to do.
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    this sounds sooo dramatic! it's literally just a follow on insta

    if u are still angry; dont follow back
    if ur not; follow back

    she sounds really immature maybe the follow is just her growing up - it isnt necessarily a friendship proposal
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    (Original post by skittyjen)
    this sounds sooo dramatic! it's literally just a follow on insta

    if u are still angry; dont follow back
    if ur not; follow back

    she sounds really immature maybe the follow is just her growing up - it isnt necessarily a friendship proposal
    I literally worry about everything no matter how small. I kept asking myself Why has she followed me? Why now? Why is she interested? Is sh interested? What?
    I told my older sister- I tell her everything- and she says don't follow her because of the person Friend A was. Again, last time she was even mentioned was in 2015 or 2016. My sister didn't like her personality. So maybe she has changed. I have no clue of anything in A's life now. I'm not bothered because of how she treated me, so I could get annoyed if I see her posts on Instagram. I only follow/add people if I'm interested in their lives, so I literally only follow less than 100 people.
    I know it's petty and boring and 'girl drama' but oh well. I still have no clue what to do.
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    I literally worry about everything no matter how small. I kept asking myself Why has she followed me? Why now? Why is she interested? Is sh interested? What?
    I told my older sister- I tell her everything- and she says don't follow her because of the person Friend A was. Again, last time she was even mentioned was in 2015 or 2016. My sister didn't like her personality. So maybe she has changed. I have no clue of anything in A's life now. I'm not bothered because of how she treated me, so I could get annoyed if I see her posts on Instagram. I only follow/add people if I'm interested in their lives, so I literally only follow less than 100 people.
    I know it's petty and boring and 'girl drama' but oh well. I still have no clue what to do.

    honestly, i follow plenty of my old friends from 2015 ish just because i am not 15 anymore and dont dislike them, but then again i follow a fair few aquaintances also so
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    Back in 2015 I left my secondary school to go to another school's sixth form. I was so stressed about moving schools, not knowing anyone, and getting back into more studying (the jump from GCSE and A Level is tough). I didn't get chance to text them (I'm not a huge texter anyway), ask them how they were or how they were getting on with the sixth form at my previous school. A few months into sixthform, they were both hanging out at one friend's - lets call her A - house, and both friends A and B started texting me at the same time on their phones, in a forceful tone, about how I never spoke to them, never asked them how they were getting on etc. They never texted me either, so we both were in the same situation. I was close friends with friend A for 5 years, and friends with friend B for 4 years.

    Also in year 11, friend A got a boyfriend and would talk about him all the time. Everyday. She started to always hang out with him and basically forgot I existed outside of school. That's how I felt anyway. A's boyfriend went to another school. I think I became more distant when she talked about her boyfriend, but I would still respond in the conversation but friend B was more interested.

    So we had this big argument, and apparently I saw them in town the day before and ignored them - I didn't see them in town that day, but I was in town so they must have seen me. They didn't come to me though? They saw me, and didn't say hi and they're blaming me for ingoring them, when I didn't see them? I'm trying to understand that and failing.

    We haven't spoken since, because I unfollowed them because they were making me more stressed (My other friend who they don't know had passed away a few weeks before the argument). Yeserday, friend A followed me on Instagram. What should I do? I have made better, more positive friends since the argument and I do not miss her one bit. Shes the faketan-makeup-eyebrows-clubbing-alcohol-shortdresses-snapchateverything-drama type of girl and I'm the books-nerd-bigcardigans-hoodie-nevertouchedalcohol-studyoversocialising type of girl. Any advice on if I should follow her back, block her so she isn't following me, message her, apoligise? I have no clue what to do.
    Don't follow her back, if you're seeing her on your feed all the time then it'll just stress you out.
    I've actually been in their position before though. I was in a trio and one girl went off to uni and me and the other girl were on our gap years. The girl completely ditched us and we had to make all the effort. She changed a lot and basically didn't have time for us. We still wanted to be friends but she wasn't interested. She would only come to us when she had no one else. It made us think how can she just do a complete 180 on us when we were best friends? Did she always dislike us? How long has she had a problem with us. Since then we've been in contact a few times but we've drifted so much and become different people there's no saving the friendship. Anyway this girl who cut us out, ended up deleting us on facebook and unfollowing us on instagram. Seemed a bit petty but probably for the best that we're not in each others lives anymore.
    So yeah anyway you don't owe her anything, you don't need to be polite. If you feel uncomfortable with her following you then block her. If you feel like you do need to apologise then go ahead but I can't really tell who did wrong in your situation. Sometimes good to leave things in the past though
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    (Original post by skittyjen)
    honestly, i follow plenty of my old friends from 2015 ish just because i am not 15 anymore and dont dislike them, but then again i follow a fair few aquaintances also so
    But did you leave on good terms? I don't even follow aquaintances, only family, close friends, good friends, and few celebrities.
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    (Original post by AccioEchoes)
    But did you leave on good terms? I don't even follow aquaintances, only family, close friends, good friends, and few celebrities.
    no not really - probably fairly similar to the terms you and A left on.

    If you are this hesitant I would probably advise you just not to follow her, never feel pressured to do something you dont want to (even out of politeness)
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    Don't follow her back, if you're seeing her on your feed all the time then it'll just stress you out.
    I've actually been in their position before though. I was in a trio and one girl went off to uni and me and the other girl were on our gap years. The girl completely ditched us and we had to make all the effort. She changed a lot and basically didn't have time for us. We still wanted to be friends but she wasn't interested. She would only come to us when she had no one else. It made us think how can she just do a complete 180 on us when we were best friends? Did she always dislike us? How long has she had a problem with us. Since then we've been in contact a few times but we've drifted so much and become different people there's no saving the friendship. Anyway this girl who cut us out, ended up deleting us on facebook and unfollowing us on instagram. Seemed a bit petty but probably for the best that we're not in each others lives anymore.
    So yeah anyway you don't owe her anything, you don't need to be polite. If you feel uncomfortable with her following you then block her. If you feel like you do need to apologise then go ahead but I can't really tell who did wrong in your situation. Sometimes good to leave things in the past though
    The thing is, neither off us made an effort, we school on good terms (I think). A was apparently upset that I didn't go to prom in the July. It wasn't my thing though. We did speak over the summer, I asked about how prom went and how her holiday went. Then comes September, no messages. Then October/November, the argument happened. I don't think we 'ditched' each other, I didn't go off with some other friends and neither did they. I didn't know anyone and the new school. They had each other, so they didn't ditch me either. I only unfollowed them after the argument because of the stress was too much. Maybe it was just the wrong time for the argument if that makes sense? Maybe if it was a few months later, we could have stayed on good terms. Plus they didn't know about my other friend passing away, which probably made me become distant even more. Again, bad timing. So maybe I should have told them - but how do you tell someone that, at least straight away?
    Maybe both of us were in the wrong, maybe neither of us?
 
 
 
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