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    A guy who I’ve not spoken to in years saw i had posted a photo on social media somewhere close by to him (we live in different cities). He started messaging me, mostly small talk but nothing flirty or anything - I’ve been replying to stay polite as I think it’s rude to just ignore.

    He asked me to go for coffee next time he’s in my city, and I don’t know how to politely decline without sounding like a **** - firstly I’m in a relationship, and secondly I’d feel weird meeting him as I was never particularly close to him before.

    He’s not been flirty or suggested that this might be a date, and I’m not sure
    If he even knows Im in a relationship, so if I randomly interject with “I have a boyfriend” I might end up embarrassing myself as he might not even be interested in that way.

    What do I say?? How do I politely decline and mention I’m seeing someone without embarrassing myself?
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    Just tell him you are in a relationship and cannot meet him.
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    block him
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    Just tell him you are in a relationship and cannot meet him.

    (Original post by LoneSurvivor)
    block him
    I don't want to be presumptuous though; there is a small chance he might just be trying to be friendly. How do I put it in a way that isn't rude?
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    Better to be presumptuous than end up on a date with him!

    Just say “sorry, I have a boyfriend and I don’t think he’d be comfortable with me being 1:1 with another guy!” Jealous boyfriend card works every time.
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    Say "Sure I'll come to the coffee shop at 12.30 pm Saturday. I'll be there with my gorgeous hunk of a boyfriend. We won;t be able to stay long as we;re going to the match / opera / ballet / organ recital / trainspotting / our wedding / his grandma's funeral / to get my teeth pulled - 3 pm kick off."
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    just tell him you're a swallow hoe and he could do better than you
 
 
 
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