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    Ok so, as the title states there's this really cute cashier at a local grocery store I often go to buy my lunch. Since the place I volunteer at is there for the past month I've been going to this shop every day, but I've noticed him just recently (the last two/three weeks) and our interactions weren't very decisive so I need advice to what to do next. To make it clear, we had only two "proper" interactions that actually aren't that much. The first time was when I first noticed him, I was in his line, he seemed bored and didn't really look the costumers in the eyes for more than a millisecond, then it was my turn and while he was beeping my chocolate croissant he looked at me once, then he did a double take and like snapped, he brightened up and, without breaking eye contact, asked me how I was to which I said I was ok and he started to say like "ah you're alright okay okay" and it seemed to me like he was fidgeting processing my croissant on the till. After I finished paying he gave me my change and it appeared to me like everything froze and we just looked at each other for a lot of seconds.

    Then the second time, I was shopping w/ my mum and (again) in his line I was, when he saw me waiting it looked like he recognised me and then at the end he said goodbye to my mum and turned to me and said bye again looking at me in the eyes (maybe it was because I was staring at him I don’t know)

    All of this is what it seemed to me so I don't know if maybe he was just being friendly as he has to be for good customer service.... which is my biggest worry

    (Btw he's definitely older than me, more than 3 years for sure; and I'm afraid it's even more than that can't really tell)

    I have to add that I have no experience whatsoever with approaching people I like or to understand if someone likes me.

    My profile is something like this if it helps,
    I'm an introverted and quiet person but I'm confident and I think it shows, I'm not really shy as I'm more direct and straightforward, don’t know if it's true but I think I'm pretty enough and fit enough (I'm non binary but let's say I'm a girl, not many understand the other term and that's ok)

    To finish off, I'd like to get to know him (don't even know his name) better, then we'll see, I need advice help
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    Ok so, as the title states there's this really cute cashier at a local grocery store I often go to buy my lunch. Since the place I volunteer at is there for the past month I've been going to this shop every day, but I've noticed him just recently (the last two/three weeks) and our interactions weren't very decisive so I need advice to what to do next. To make it clear, we had only two "proper" interactions that actually aren't that much. The first time was when I first noticed him, I was in his line, he seemed bored and didn't really look the costumers in the eyes for more than a millisecond, then it was my turn and while he was beeping my chocolate croissant he looked at me once, then he did a double take and like snapped, he brightened up and, without breaking eye contact, asked me how I was to which I said I was ok and he started to say like "ah you're alright okay okay" and it seemed to me like he was fidgeting processing my croissant on the till. After I finished paying he gave me my change and it appeared to me like everything froze and we just looked at each other for a lot of seconds.

    Then the second time, I was shopping w/ my mum and (again) in his line I was, when he saw me waiting it looked like he recognised me and then at the end he said goodbye to my mum and turned to me and said bye again looking at me in the eyes (maybe it was because I was staring at him I don’t know)

    All of this is what it seemed to me so I don't know if maybe he was just being friendly as he has to be for good customer service.... which is my biggest worry

    (Btw he's definitely older than me, more than 3 years for sure; and I'm afraid it's even more than that can't really tell)

    I have to add that I have no experience whatsoever with approaching people I like or to understand if someone likes me.

    My profile is something like this if it helps,
    I'm an introverted and quiet person but I'm confident and I think it shows, I'm not really shy as I'm more direct and straightforward, don’t know if it's true but I think I'm pretty enough and fit enough (I'm non binary but let's say I'm a girl, not many understand the other term and that's ok)

    To finish off, I'd like to get to know him (don't even know his name) better, then we'll see, I need advice help
    Lol beeped your chocolate croissant? Might use that one myself.
    It sounds like he probably is interested in you. I reckon if you're confident enough, just ask him how his day is going or something or make a comment on something weird that you've bought. If you fancy it, don't bring enough change and then you can be all embarrassed and be like 'oops might have to leave the packet of crisps'. Just anything to get a conversation started. Or alternatively wear something eye catching that he can comment on.
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    I wouldn't hit on someone at work. It makes things really awkward and uncomfortable when they're paid to be nice to you.
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    (Original post by Zargabaath)
    I wouldn't hit on someone at work. It makes things really awkward and uncomfortable when they're paid to be nice to you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    he said goodbye to my mum and turned to me and said bye again looking at me in the eyes (maybe it was because I was staring at him I don’t know)

    definitely because you were staring at him
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    tell him u like him if dose not work then find some one else i wish that was my case but its not
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    (Original post by flamethrower)
    tell him u like him if dose not work then find some one else i wish that was my case but its not
    Wish that was your case? What?
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    (Original post by Bang Outta Order)
    definitely because you were staring at him
    thank you mr Spoilsport
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    Lol beeped your chocolate croissant? Might use that one myself.
    It sounds like he probably is interested in you. I reckon if you're confident enough, just ask him how his day is going or something or make a comment on something weird that you've bought. If you fancy it, don't bring enough change and then you can be all embarrassed and be like 'oops might have to leave the packet of crisps'. Just anything to get a conversation started. Or alternatively wear something eye catching that he can comment on.
    Thank you sweetie, at least there's someone that actually wants to help my poor soul. I'll try to follow your advice and see how it goes Ly xxx
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    (Original post by Zargabaath)
    I wouldn't hit on someone at work. It makes things really awkward and uncomfortable when they're paid to be nice to you.
    Wow man that totally solved All my problems! Thank you for giving me HOPE, this is exactly the advice I needed, to just give up, even though I can't do anything about the situation because that's the only place I can meet him. You were soo helpful
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wow man that totally solved All my problems! Thank you for giving me HOPE, this is exactly the advice I needed, to just give up, even though I can't do anything about the situation because that's the only place I can meet him. You were soo helpful
    Jesus Christ, he's really dodging a bullet if this is what you're like when you hear something you don't want to.
    Try to think of this from a perspective that isn't your own.

    He's at work, he acts friendly towards a customer he hasn't even had a proper conversation with, because that's literally what he's paid to do, she's now got a crush on him and goes to ask him out at his work and to top it off she's quite a bit younger then him.
    Now he's in the position where if he says no he's risking upsetting a customer and looking like a creep.

    It's no different when drunk guys at bars hit on the female bartender because they think she's "flirting" by doing her job.

    If you just wanted people to cheer you on, you should've specified that. You don't need hope here, moving on is exactly the advice you needed.
 
 
 
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