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    I’ve decided to bring my parents with me when I visit my girlfriend in the Philippines. It’ll be the first time they’ll be meeting her. I told my parents that I met my now girlfriend through a singles tour that I attended a year ago in Davao, Philippines held by A Foreign Affair. They never knew about this and just thought that I have only been going to the Philippines due to business related travels.



    When I told them about Janessa, they were questioning our relationship and the genuinity of it… so I’ve decided, it’ll be better for them to meet her and her family to make them feel at ease. It’s really not a pleasant feeling when your parents are questioning your relationship and of course, my girlfriend is feeling some pressure to an extent. I hope I won’t make her family feel offended for the reason of this meet-up. But at some point, they will end up a meeting, since I am dating her with intentions to marry.



    I just want to ask for advice… What should I do when they meet? I don’t want things to become awkward and I want both parties to feel that it’s a good thing to meet. Is there anything I should prepare for her family and should I talk to my parents how they should act around my girlfriend’s family? Help, please!!!
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    (Original post by yazzie1874)
    I’ve decided to bring my parents with me when I visit my girlfriend in the Philippines. It’ll be the first time they’ll be meeting her. I told my parents that I met my now girlfriend through a singles tour that I attended a year ago in Davao, Philippines held by A Foreign Affair. They never knew about this and just thought that I have only been going to the Philippines due to business related travels.



    When I told them about Janessa, they were questioning our relationship and the genuinity of it… so I’ve decided, it’ll be better for them to meet her and her family to make them feel at ease. It’s really not a pleasant feeling when your parents are questioning your relationship and of course, my girlfriend is feeling some pressure to an extent. I hope I won’t make her family feel offended for the reason of this meet-up. But at some point, they will end up a meeting, since I am dating her with intentions to marry.



    I just want to ask for advice… What should I do when they meet? I don’t want things to become awkward and I want both parties to feel that it’s a good thing to meet. Is there anything I should prepare for her family and should I talk to my parents how they should act around my girlfriend’s family? Help, please!!!
    I think the people you need to speak to are your parents.
    Presumably you are old enough and can afford it, but they are going to be sceptical and wary. Maybe your gf an her family are genuine, but I cnat help thinking your parents will feel awkward you met on an arranged dating tour and will be worried you are being taken advantage of.

    Perhaps time will help them feel its genune, but you should talk to them.
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    (Original post by yazzie1874)
    I’ve decided to bring my parents with me when I visit my girlfriend in the Philippines. It’ll be the first time they’ll be meeting her. I told my parents that I met my now girlfriend through a singles tour that I attended a year ago in Davao, Philippines held by A Foreign Affair. They never knew about this and just thought that I have only been going to the Philippines due to business related travels.



    When I told them about Janessa, they were questioning our relationship and the genuinity of it… so I’ve decided, it’ll be better for them to meet her and her family to make them feel at ease. It’s really not a pleasant feeling when your parents are questioning your relationship and of course, my girlfriend is feeling some pressure to an extent. I hope I won’t make her family feel offended for the reason of this meet-up. But at some point, they will end up a meeting, since I am dating her with intentions to marry.



    I just want to ask for advice… What should I do when they meet? I don’t want things to become awkward and I want both parties to feel that it’s a good thing to meet. Is there anything I should prepare for her family and should I talk to my parents how they should act around my girlfriend’s family? Help, please!!!

    Hi,
    I'm filipino so i know first hand how filipinos are. As long as her parents know of this relationship and approve then you're good, i assume you aren't filipino? Look, filipino families all tend to be very welcoming and joyful so i'm sure everything will be alright. Just be yourself and definitely discuss your worries with your gf so she can give you advice about her parents - who are probably most likely strict. But as long as you have good intentions and can provide like have a job and be stable in case of the future, they'll love you.
 
 
 
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