i understand where you're coming from- clearly you are aware of the dangers surrounding the situation, so i guess i should take your advice, and just forget about it.(Original post by doodle_333)
You just don't realise how damaging accusations like this are for males working with young girls. You were clearly considering saying something to the school in your OP. And even if you didn't if another teacher or student overhears something you say to your friend you could really damage him.
Everyone had crushes on teachers growing up. I certainly did. And it's normal to analyse the every move of someone you fancy. But it's very important to rememebr that you overanalysing this and someone hearing it could ruin this guys life. Once someone decides you're a pedo then that's all people hear - it doesn't matter if you're proven innocent later on.
Also - on the harsh tone of my post: there are way too many people encouraging you on here which is total crap. I've worked with vulnerable people and if someone oversteps the boundaries of the relationship that line has to be VERY clearly drawn VERY quickly - I'm trying to help you do that before you make a serious mistake.
i have no intentions of making any damaging accusations, or of runining his reputatios- that's the last thing i want.
nonetheless, thank you for being honest, and for helping me not make a mistake.
thank you, again x
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- 14-02-2018 18:24
- 14-02-2018 19:33
(Original post by i386)
- 14-02-2018 19:50
Speaking from a male teacher's perspective, no I don't really think there's any special suggestion from him. You've developed a crush for him, which is perfectly normal. But it sounds like it's still an early crush that your teacher might not even have noticed (being male...). If he becomes aware I expect him to do something to avoid causing further misunderstanding from you. A teacher is like a mentor, and sometimes if it goes well between the pair s/he can be a formal friend of the student. Anything further would obscure the teacher/student relationship and would just be wrong...
thank you so much for taking the time out to read my essay, and to reply!
- 14-02-2018 20:41
- 15-02-2018 20:08
does anyone else have any opinions on this? x
- 16-02-2018 14:12
As other people have said, you like him so you're interpreting his normal actions and behaviour differently and making them out to be signs he likes you when they're not actually anything. You don't "need" to do anything as nothing is happening. It can be difficult getting over a crush but things will get better in time.Last edited by bones-mccoy; 16-02-2018 at 14:36.
- 16-02-2018 20:29
Personally it sounds to me like he knows what he’s doing. Possibly he finds you attractive and does like you, but is not doing anything about it because of the circumstances and so is acting like a teenage boy about it, trying to distract himself and conflictingly get your attention while trying to show no interest. Stay away. I had a guitar teacher try to flirt with me for 6 months then had me banned at the last second. That was when I was 15. Be careful
- 16-02-2018 20:41
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 16-02-2018 20:46
so, i am not making this thread to be lectured on how sutdent-teacher things are so terrible, and how he could lose his job, and be labelled a paedophile, etc.
i get all of that- i just need to know if he likes me or not, so i can decide what to next (and, no, i do not mean 'ask him out' or something like that).
so, this teacher has been at my school for 2 years now, and when he first came, everyone seemed to like him, but i didnt really see anything in him like that.
he was really nice to me, though- i remember once, my friend and i didn't do anything the whole p.e lesson, and he didn't say anything to us, but he did shout at everyone else who didn't do anything.
anyway, that's irrelevant, considering the fact that he does not speak to me at all anymore.
i began liking him, i'd say, in september (i'm in year 11, by the way), and i just thought it was something that would go away in a coupe of days- but it didn't.
i think i first began liking him because, when we went ice-skating for the first time (we go once every two weeks with school), i saw him looking at me, and it made me think 'maybe he likes me', and i would think about the whole situation for ages on end.
then, once i had to speak to my brother about something after school, and he was in the cricket club that the sir was in. i had to speak to sir (however much i was terrified to do so) about something concerning my brother, and he was really nice, and he was understanding of the whole situation, and his body language suggested that maybe he like-likes me. he also seemed to brighten up when i spoke to him (this makes me sound so conceited, i'm sorry, there's no other way to describe it). then i spent the whole week thinking about it.
but, whenever i saw him in the corridors after that, he didn't smile, and actually seemed like he was almost annoyed when he saw me.
i'm pretty sure he knows i like him- i try to hide it, but it probably makes it more obvious.
anyway, fast forward a couple of weeks, and another time we went skating. i was sitting out with one of my friends, just because we're lazy as anything, and he was standing at the side of the ice rink. he knew my friend and i were sitting out- he saw us beforehand. well, there's a female instructor there, who is actuallly quite pretty, and she went up to him and the other teacher that came. they seemed like they were almost flirting, and he turned around, and looked straight at me- obviously i looked away, but i think my face gave away the fact that i was actually quite upset, and jealous about it.
then, he came up to my friend and i, and asked why we weren't on the rink, and i couldn't look him in the eye. he then said 'you should skate, seeing as you paid for it, and have an amazing instructor'. i think i made it quite obvious that annoyed me as i rolled my eyes. i didn't say anything, but i was honestly on the verge of crying, because i felt like i wasn't good enough- i've been through this many times before (boys my age), and it's always ended up with me falling for them, because they played with my emotions, and gave me mixed signal, however stupid that sounds
after that incident, i tried to stop liking him, and it just didn't work. whenever i saw him in the corridors, wewould make eye contact, but i just couldn't hold it long enough to understand what he was thinking.
we had a mock exam, and the teachers of the lessons we have whilst we have the exam usually supervise us whilst we are being registered. he was standing at the front of the hall with two other teachers, and i was on the 'bleacher seating'. obviously, i glanced over a few times, and he looked at me a few times, whilst he was speaking to the other teachers.
there was a boy next to me, who asked me what the exam was about, and i explained it to him. subconciously, i looked to the front of the hall, and sir was looking at us, quite intently, and looked away when we made eye contact.
after we had done the register, and were being sent to the exam hall, he came up to our row, and stood right in front of me, and spoke to the boy i wa explaining the exam to. he then leant forwards, to speak to some boys behind us, and he was so close to me, and i can't help but think that he did that on purpose, and when i say i couldn't breathe, i actually mean it.
today, we had another ice-skating session,and whilst we were waiting to go in, i saw him look at me at least 3 times- we made eye contact, but i looked away too quickly. when we got in, and i was on the ice, i saw him look at me, like, twice. then, he got on to the ice, and i kid you not, i think he literally put his skates on to go and speak to that same pretty instructor. i didn't notice at first, but when i did, i had to get off the ice and sit out, because i was literally shaking, and on the verge of crying.
when i sat out, he was still skating, but no longer with the instructor, and i saw him look at me a couple of times. i was sitting with me friend, and i didn't want her to know that i was going to cry, so i played it off by acting really angry about something else. her boyfriend even let me punch his bag, and sir saw me do that. i don't think he took any notice of it, but after that, i made it quite obvious that i was 'annoyed' at him, and just gave him a couple scowls and eye rolls.
i know that was really long and stupid, and you probably think that all these signs are just tiny, and don't mean anything, but they do to me. i really don't know how to explain the situations properly, because they really don't sound like much.
also, again, please don't lecture me about the consequence of liking a teacher- i know them already.
but, if you're so amazing that you did manage to get through that load of waffle, what do you think?
do you think he likes me, and was trying to get me jealous, or do you think he hates me? i honestly have no clue, and it's really stressing me out.
thank you so, so much if you read that/left some advice- it is very, very much appreciated x
(Original post by bones-mccoy)
- 17-02-2018 17:46
As other people have said, you like him so you're interpreting his normal actions and behaviour differently and making them out to be signs he likes you when they're not actually anything. You don't "need" to do anything as nothing is happening. It can be difficult getting over a crush but things will get better in time.