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    (Original post by livxwaterman)
    I'm sorry, what are you trying to say here?
    Maybe rephrase before I go off
    Sorry I should of been more specific I do apologise. What I meant was that my auntie meet my uncle about 3 years ago and when my uncle proposed he had to speak to his family to make sure they accepted this marriage. His family accepted the marriage but requested that they had an Indian wedding instead of an English wedding which my auntie agreed. My auntie was born in Wales but currently lives in England and my uncle was born in India but moved to England when he was a kid. I hope this clears up the confusion
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    (Original post by erratic_deus)
    I am black and I can never be racist!
    Only white people can be racist because only white people have shown that they think they are superior to all other races!

    Manifest Destiny! Remember what your ancestors believed in.
    Don’t be silly. Black people have also shown that they think they are superior to other races..have you not seen twitter? Anyone can be racist
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    (Original post by tiarichards16)
    I disagree many parents are very strict including my own and I'm not Asian as you can already tell by my photo lol. My mum makes me revise every day even on the weekend which is annoying as now I have no social life and she has taken all my technology even my phone!!! So maybe just maybe this girl`s parents might be not as strict as you believe.
    You said that he would be accepted into a Pakistani family very easily, I hate to be the pessimist here but they most likely won't take it well. There are cultural demands when it comes to dating in an Asian family, studying is another story. If her parents are conservative, he most likely would need to convert.

    If the girl is independent and isn't focused on appeasing her parents then that's fine. Sure, he can go for it and it *could* work out but don't give the impression that it's going to be easy.
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    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    Don’t be silly. Black people have also shown that they think they are superior to other races..have you not seen twitter? Anyone can be racist
    Are you threatened by black twitter?
    Black twitter only exposes whites who think they aren't racist but have an unconscious bias towards black people.
    E.g an tennis scholar (bc in America you get scholarships for uni for sports) who was kicked out of college (uni) and his tennis team for saying to a black person that "At least I have a dad"
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    (Original post by Ewok94)
    Surely as a fellow female you shouldn’t be advocating this
    I'm just trying to give some advice like everyone else. Yes I know I'm only 16 but I believe that my opinions should be valid. As I'm studying Health and Social Care I believe that it is part of my role/job as a person to help people form healthy relationships and help people making decisions when required which is within in a person's best interests.
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    (Original post by tiarichards16)
    Sorry I should of been more specific I do apologise. What I meant was that my auntie meet my uncle about 3 years ago and when my uncle proposed he had to speak to his family to make sure they accepted this marriage. His family accepted the marriage but requested that they had an Indian wedding instead of an English wedding which my auntie agreed. My auntie was born in Wales but currently lives in England and my uncle was born in India but moved to England when he was a kid. I hope this clears up the confusion
    What you said before suggested that you thought she was accepted easily into the family because she was white and implied that people who aren't white e.g a black girl wouldn't be accepted into the family.
    Can you please delete the comment?
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    Why do I keep commenting anony when I don't want to!
    I never ticked it!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What you said before suggested that you thought she was accepted easily into the family because she was white and implied that people who aren't white e.g a black girl wouldn't be accepted into the family.
    Can you please delete the comment?
    I was not implying that what I was trying to say that anyone would be accepted into the family no matter their skin colour, race or religion :ashamed2:
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    for me i feel like the better question is "will i ever date someone of my race"

    I mean it's not intentional there's just no other 1/4 Filipino 3/4 White people hanging around my area, and none of the full filipinos I've met are cute so the only people I've dated were white or half korean.
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    (Original post by tiarichards16)
    I was not implying that what I was trying to say that anyone would be accepted into the family no matter their skin colour, race or religion :ashamed2:
    Don’t worry about this girl, she twists and misinterprets everything as an attack on black people. Your point came across as your Aunt had no trouble being accepted by her Indian husband’s family, not that you thought black people wouldn’t be accepted.
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    Asians have an inferiority complex especially when it comes to white people. The imbalance in out marriage in the Asian American community is especially jarring. Asian women marry out at a higher rate then any other minority by at least 3 times the amount. They see white as marrying up. Its even stranger when you see how many White Supremacists have Asian wives.

    It is so so sad but they view marrying someone darker than them is to marry down.
    This girl (half black half Korean) is engaged to this (full Korean) man and the parents pretend to be sick because they don't want to accept her.
    They even say "Why don't you marry another white girl" in the clip.

    Not dating someone because it will be an inconvenience to your parents is allowing superiority to thrive and exist.
    This is why I don't get it when Muslim Asian people in the UK (Pakistani) say they'll only date Muslims. But I'm quite glad to see the rise in interracial and interreligion (is that a word) in England!

    I also understand that some cultures believe in being homogeneous but if your parents wanted to keep their bloodlines "purely" (arguable since I'm from about 12 countries yet my parents say I'm Hadramii) then they should not have come to Britain. Britain is a beautiful melting pot of cultures which is why I certainly disagree with the "ghettos" being formed by the south asian community in areas such as Tower Hamlets or the "white only" areas of London such as Kingston upon Thames.

    This video is really sad but you can watch it if you wish
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2DEjrrGkps
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Don’t worry about this girl, she twists and misinterprets everything as an attack on black people. Your point came across as your Aunt had no trouble being accepted by her Indian husband’s family, not that you thought black people wouldn’t be accepted.
    Thank you
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    (Original post by helpmepolice1)
    I thought social workers would encourage you to work on you’re relationship rather than leave your partner but maybe I’m looking at this the wrong way and I need to go wife this Pakistani girl provided she hasn’t yet had a marriage arranged
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    I'm not a racist but I won't be in an interracial relationship bc cultures are different. (just what I feel)
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    (Original post by Ewok94)
    I thought social workers would encourage you to work on you’re relationship rather than leave your partner but maybe I’m looking at this the wrong way and I need to go wife this Pakistani girl provided she hasn’t yet had a marriage arranged
    I believe that if you feel your relationship isn't working after talking to your partner, then its best to go different ways and move on with your life. But I advise you not to jump too quickly like you are going to (wife this girl) as it may not end well so just take this step by step.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As above.

    (Just so we’re clear - it’s not racist to say that you wouldn’t... What you’re attracted does not mean you’re discriminatory against people)
    Given every human on Earth is my race, yes. I'd need to find a homo sapien *not sapien* to have a relationship with somebody outside my race
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    (Original post by tiarichards16)
    I believe that if you feel your relationship isn't working after talking to your partner, then its best to go different ways and move on with your life. But I advise you not to jump too quickly like you are going to (wife this girl) as it may not end well so just take this step by step.
    Thank you for your advice, I probably should have made a move at the time but this is pie in the sky stuff now, whats done is done. I will die unhappy 😂
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Don’t worry about this girl, she twists and misinterprets everything as an attack on black people. Your point came across as your Aunt had no trouble being accepted by her Indian husband’s family, not that you thought black people wouldn’t be accepted.
    Wouldn’t be surprised if she actually turns out to be Salt Queen’s younger sister, all jokes aside.
 
 
 
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