I'm an 18 year old male and have had a few relationships with girls and I'm talking to some at the moment and I only find girls physically attractive and definitely picture myself being with them.
However, back when I was around 13/14, me and another close male friend at the time used to talk quite sexually. I think we both confused but we talked about sex acts and even engaged in some smaller ones together. Looking back I would never want to do that now and was probably just curious but engaging in it in the first place has really made me wonder.
I wouldn't want to do anything sexual with a guy now and am not attracted to them but I guess that confused me. Can anyone help?
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- 14-02-2018 16:00
- 14-02-2018 16:06
It was in the past, so forget about it and focus on your life now.
- 14-02-2018 16:09
Maybe u were just experimenting back then. You gotta try it to know you don’t like it sometimes, you know? Just do you and see how it goes
- 14-02-2018 16:11
I think it helps to think of sexuality as a range, rather than a 100% solid definable thing. You might be 100% straight, or you might only be 98% straight, or 90%, or whatever. Ultimately it seems society forces us into making a definite decision, but in my experience it's much more complicated than that (for me, not necessarily everyone!)
Having said all that, i do think that experimenting with someone at the age of 13 isn't necessarily meaningful to anything you are experiencing today. You say you are not attracted to guys now and wouldn't want to do anything with them. To me that tells me you are not gay and you seem clear in your orientation from what you have posted. I wouldn't let something that happened when you were experimenting and discovering who you are affect and confuse the place you are at today and who you are as an adult... we do lots of things as children which might have no bearing at all on who we are now, to take another example - you might steal sweets but that doesn't make you contemplate being a burglar as an adult (well, it might in some i suppose!). Take it at face value and not an indepth insight into who you define yourself to be now (but by all means, if you are uncertain, experiment and see how you feel - safely!).
- 14-02-2018 16:24
When you’re a teenager everything’s a bit confused and you’re experimental and unsure about a lot of things so it’s not unusual for this sort of thing to happen in adolescence but then people decide later it’s not for them...