End of 5 year relationship; is there hope? Watch
I understand his reasons of course and see where he is coming from, and he even said that who knows maybe one day when we're in a better place we may have a chance, but that he is not trying to give me hope and doesn't want me to wait around for him. He also doesn't want me to be cut out of his life completely as he said he enjoys talking to me as a person and wishes to remain in contact, but for the time being I have initiated no contact just so I can work on myself and my feelings as well.
I am wondering, do you reckon we could one day have a future? We have been together so long, with one of those years travelling together which really was an incredible experience, and he has made it clear that it has nothing to do with me but with him and needed to work on himself to be a better person (although I do understand the role that I had to play in the breakup). Once I have ended no contact, should I be there as his friend? Should I try to get him back? We were very compatiable and complemented each other in many ways. We were very honest and open, had great communication skills, had lots of fun together and also a great sex life. We loved unconfitionally and were both very supportive of one another, emotionally and in our actions. We have grown together and I do not believe that I will ever find something like that again, and I have had time to think about this and truly believe that we may have a future.
Thoughts? Am I being too hopeful? I will note that I am a pessimist so I wouldn't be feeling hopeful unless I truly believed in it, and I will note that my gut instinct has never been wrong. I am taking the next few weeks to be alone and recover from the initial despair that I experienced, but would like some help on what to do then. Also his birthday is in a few weeks but I would like to refrain from contacting him for at least a month, so would it be rude for me to not wish him a happy birthday?
Anyway is he telling you the truth about why he broke up with you? Have you asked him if he is involved with anyone else?
I also think if he wanted a future with you he wouldn’t break up with you now!
How old are you guys?
Being alone will help you figure out what you want and maybe after he’s been alone for a while he might realise he made a big mistake by breaking up with you!
It's had it's time.