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    I was talking to this guy for a few months and all of a sudden it stopped about a few weeks back. In the last few days we've been chatting again sort of as friends (idk its weird) and he keeps saying how he misses me but doesn't want a relationship for quite a few reasons. Mainly its because he thinks he is useless and that I deserve better and he doesn't want to hurt me again despite the fact we both miss each other tonnes. What can I say to persuade him to give it another shot? I keep telling him he is good enough & that I don't care if I get hurt but this doesn't seem to be working. What can I say to show him that its worth a try?
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    You would care if you got hurt though Maybe just carry on spending time together, the more time you spend together the more he may grow to want to be with you. As hard as it is, he does need to be aware that you can't wait forever, even if you would wait, its not fair on you. Spending as much time together as possible and getting to no each other better is a good start xx
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    Do you think you deserve someone better? Or do you think he's just saying that? In which case, what do you think of him for saying things that aren't true? Do you think you deserve someone that tells the truth?
    If he thinks he's not worthy of you, what's he doing to improve himself? Would you want to form a deeper relationship with someone that is aware of their weaknesses, who then does nothing to improve them?

    Are you attracted to him because you want to become his life-coach and you see him as a project?
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    You would care if you got hurt though Maybe just carry on spending time together, the more time you spend together the more he may grow to want to be with you. As hard as it is, he does need to be aware that you can't wait forever, even if you would wait, its not fair on you. Spending as much time together as possible and getting to no each other better is a good start xx
    I know I would care if I got hurt but It wouldnt be as bad as how I feel now. Ill let him know that I cant wait forever. We dont see eachother too often so the last part may be difficult but thanks so much for the help x
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    By all means speak to him about it but remember you can't force anyone to do something they don't want to do, you may have to just end up respecting his decisions
 
 
 
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