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    (Original post by thomas1002)
    Long story short...I'm in love with an escort.

    We met last year during the summer in North Wales where she was on holiday with her family. I'm 23 years old and she's 25. I've dated quite a few women/girls in the past, but I never really felt anything for them. They were all loose relationships. With this woman, though, it was different from the beginning. There was a spark there that had never been present before. Skip forward 5 months and I'm considering asking her to marry me (intending for a lengthy engagement). I could tell she wasn't ready, though, because she kept saying that rushing things would be bad for both of us, so I never asked her... Then I found out she was an escort and confronted her about it by making a fake booking on the site (Adultwork) and turning up to meet her. She was devastated and practically ran away. I contacted her a few days later and asked her to quit if she wanted us to be together. She said it would be best if we just end it here, because if we carry on we'll both get hurt. She says she's planning to quit her job at the end of the year when she gets her Master's degree, but I'm not sure I believe her. We haven't contacted each other at all in 3 months now.

    The problem is...I can't move on. I just can't stop thinking about her. I know if it wasn't for her damn job they'd be no problem. My friends don't seem to understand. They think it's no big deal if she's just sleeping with men for money and nothing more, but I just can't accept it I don't think. My only female friend thinks I was wrong to ask her to quit... I just don't know what to do anymore. Would it be a mistake if I considered getting back in touch with her?

    I value all opinions, so please be honest.



    so you're willing to wait till the end of the year and have her do this until then?


    sorry mate, but you are a cuck...........
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    so you're willing to wait till the end of the year and have her do this until then?


    sorry mate, but you are a cuck...........
    Lol. Very amusing... I just don't think it would be fair to rush into another relationship when I'm still in love with someone else. Ultimately, all I can do is listen to my heart.

    EDIT. And technically speaking, I would only be a 'cuck' if I'd stayed with her when I found out and made no big deal of it. The fact that I gave her an ultimatum and ended it shows that I would never put up with that sort of thing.
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    I'm in love with a prostitute that's under my bed
    Get along with the voices inside of my head
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    (Original post by thomas1002)
    I highly doubt that she's seeing someone new. She didn't seem to want to get too involved at all with me at first and now I know why, because she knew I might eventually find out. I think I was an exception to the rule. As long as she's still working I don't think she'll enter another relationship. As for her having a troubled past, I think that's highly likely. She has some bad scars on her back that look like she was beaten with a belt or something at some point (she said it was caused by a childhood condition she had where scars didn't heal, but I'm not sure I believe that anymore).

    I think you're right about her looking for an excuse to end it because she didn't want to get hurt. The week before I found out we had a big argument because I bought her a box of chocolates for no reason at all (I just felt like getting her a gift). She said it was me subtly asking for gifts in return. I was offended by this and we argued. She later apologised but said I should stop buying her so many gifts because it's rushing things. It's ironic, because she was the one who advanced the relationship in August when she asked me to come stay with her for a couple of weeks at her family caravan in Wales. We lived together for those two weeks and then for another week in October. She cooked all my meals everyday (she's a great cook). So it wasn't as though she wasn't committing herself. I just think she started to feel guilty about lying and that's why she started looking for a way out. When I found out it was like my whole world had imploded. Before I knew it it was over... It just all happened so fast. I think that's why I'm having difficulty moving on.

    I really appreciate everything you've said so far. You seem to genuinely care, so I thank you for that.
    You’re more than welcome, I understand your feelings despite never having been in such a situation myself (not yet, at least) and I’m glad that what I’m saying is somewhat helpful.

    Nothing about her seems to add up, does it? You seem to be trying to fix her; I can tell that you only have good intentions, but some things just can’t be fixed. Obviously I don’t know her, but from what you’ve said I would say that there are various underlying issues (issues with herself, not with you) which she needs to recognise and attempt to solve.

    As for the box of chocolates, once again you clearly only had good intentions. Once again, that shows that she probably has a history involving some form of trauma; from my own experiences I would say that it’s your spontaneity that frightened her, rather than the affection you showed towards her. You cannot blame yourself for this, and you should start to see that some things just can’t be fixed. You seem to be a compassionate person, and the fact that you still care and would be willing to give her another chance shows that you felt a real bond there.
    The lack of closure, and of course the lack of answers about her is probably driving you insane I think. At least if you spoke to her, that would be sorted for you.
    I think she has some kind of inner conflict going on.
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    so shes been cheating on you and your considering taking her back? this women has no respect for herself or her body. she lied to you about it and you want to get back with her?? dude move on and find someone better. who wants to date a whore anyway???
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    I think you are best off out of it
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    (Original post by xoxcm)
    You’re more than welcome, I understand your feelings despite never having been in such a situation myself (not yet, at least) and I’m glad that what I’m saying is somewhat helpful.

    Nothing about her seems to add up, does it? You seem to be trying to fix her; I can tell that you only have good intentions, but some things just can’t be fixed. Obviously I don’t know her, but from what you’ve said I would say that there are various underlying issues (issues with herself, not with you) which she needs to recognise and attempt to solve.

    As for the box of chocolates, once again you clearly only had good intentions. Once again, that shows that she probably has a history involving some form of trauma; from my own experiences I would say that it’s your spontaneity that frightened her, rather than the affection you showed towards her. You cannot blame yourself for this, and you should start to see that some things just can’t be fixed. You seem to be a compassionate person, and the fact that you still care and would be willing to give her another chance shows that you felt a real bond there.
    The lack of closure, and of course the lack of answers about her is probably driving you insane I think. At least if you spoke to her, that would be sorted for you.
    I think she has some kind of inner conflict going on.
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    I understand what you're saying. I think she made up many lies during our relationship in order to make credible excuses to cover up her working as an escort. The lack of answers is driving me mad. I just want to understand her, I suppose... In all of this I can honestly say that I've never really beat myself up, though. I know that she's the damaged party, not me. And yes, I suppose I do want to fix her in that regard. But you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I'll open the lines of communication again on her birthday and take it from there. If it doesn't work out, I'll just have to teach myself to let go.

    Thanks again. I really do appreciate all your advice.
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    If my girlfriend was a prostitute I would consider it like her cheating on my for a job. stay away from her
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    Time out and try to move on. This will take time to heal.
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    How much she charging?
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    I think the answer is no. Difficult as it is, the relationship has ended and hope you find someone soon who you end up caring for.
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    Once a whore always a whore.. you've had a lucky escape mate
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    (Original post by thomas1002)
    Long story short...I'm in love with an escort.

    We met last year during the summer in North Wales where she was on holiday with her family. I'm 23 years old and she's 25. I've dated quite a few women/girls in the past, but I never really felt anything for them. They were all loose relationships. With this woman, though, it was different from the beginning. There was a spark there that had never been present before. Skip forward 5 months and I'm considering asking her to marry me (intending for a lengthy engagement). I could tell she wasn't ready, though, because she kept saying that rushing things would be bad for both of us, so I never asked her... Then I found out she was an escort and confronted her about it by making a fake booking on the site (Adultwork) and turning up to meet her. She was devastated and practically ran away. I contacted her a few days later and asked her to quit if she wanted us to be together. She said it would be best if we just end it here, because if we carry on we'll both get hurt. She says she's planning to quit her job at the end of the year when she gets her Master's degree, but I'm not sure I believe her. We haven't contacted each other at all in 3 months now.

    The problem is...I can't move on. I just can't stop thinking about her. I know if it wasn't for her damn job they'd be no problem. My friends don't seem to understand. They think it's no big deal if she's just sleeping with men for money and nothing more, but I just can't accept it I don't think. My only female friend thinks I was wrong to ask her to quit... I just don't know what to do anymore. Would it be a mistake if I considered getting back in touch with her?

    I value all opinions, so please be honest.
    All the women in this country have sex with loads of men so if you are breaking up with her for that then you will never get anyone lol
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    You're getting what most people pay for for free...
    On the other hand if she does that it could be considered cheating...
    i think that you should give her the benefit of the doubt about quitting this year and maybe remain good friends with her until then without over stepping because it is her life after all
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    Your female friend sounds like a sket😂
    It's like saying let's have a gf while she makes money by banging other men but don't ask her to quit because it's rude! Lmaooo honestly there's better ppl.
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    It was okay to ask but you should of asked before you started dating. If you still love her then go after her. Ppl get into this kind of business for different reasons so una.
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    (Original post by thomas1002)
    Long story short...I'm in love with an escort.

    We met last year during the summer in North Wales where she was on holiday with her family. I'm 23 years old and she's 25. I've dated quite a few women/girls in the past, but I never really felt anything for them. They were all loose relationships. With this woman, though, it was different from the beginning. There was a spark there that had never been present before. Skip forward 5 months and I'm considering asking her to marry me (intending for a lengthy engagement). I could tell she wasn't ready, though, because she kept saying that rushing things would be bad for both of us, so I never asked her... Then I found out she was an escort and confronted her about it by making a fake booking on the site (Adultwork) and turning up to meet her. She was devastated and practically ran away. I contacted her a few days later and asked her to quit if she wanted us to be together. She said it would be best if we just end it here, because if we carry on we'll both get hurt. She says she's planning to quit her job at the end of the year when she gets her Master's degree, but I'm not sure I believe her. We haven't contacted each other at all in 3 months now.

    The problem is...I can't move on. I just can't stop thinking about her. I know if it wasn't for her damn job they'd be no problem. My friends don't seem to understand. They think it's no big deal if she's just sleeping with men for money and nothing more, but I just can't accept it I don't think. My only female friend thinks I was wrong to ask her to quit... I just don't know what to do anymore. Would it be a mistake if I considered getting back in touch with her?

    I value all opinions, so please be honest.
    I think u made the right decision breaking up with her- if she's hiding that one thing, what else could she be hiding???
    u say she's "planning" showing she's in doubt whether or not to. it means she values her job more than she values u mann
    wakeup and PLEASE don NOT go back to her!!! move on cause I bet all find someone loyal
    wishing u da best
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    find another .. that is the only solution.. this prostitutes have a special knack to seduce and attract boys that you wont get from normal girls.. but eventually you both get connected. good luck. No need to get back with prostitute again they will do the same at another point.
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    find another .. that is the only solution.. this prostitutes have a special knack to seduce and attract boys that you wont get from normal girls.. but eventually you both get connected. good luck. No need to get back with prostitute again they will do the same at another point.

    Why bump this thread from February?
 
 
 
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