Age Gaps Watch
Generally speaking when a 16-18 year old see's someone 4-5 years older the initial difference in maturity and self reliance causes issues. The main issue here is something I called the "boy racer effect". The people (usually girls) who seek older people for being more mature are almost identical to those 14-16yo girls who will see boys who are 'more mature' who hang around maccies in their Saxo or Corsa. As they get older they realise that individual is not actually more mature, just further down their natural life stage than themselves. Individuals who use the same reasoning into their 20's and 30's are intrinsically doing it for the same reason. They see those who are later in their life as more mature and secure, however they don't realise that if they stuck with someone their same age, by the time their partner reached that age, they would generally have the same wealth, knowledge, experience, etc etc. You also notice that the people they're attracted to tend to be praying on that individuals own immaturity or lack of self reliance. 'However' once they get past the 3-6 year mark the age difference does diminish it's strain on the relationship.... but that being said, they're still more likely to break up than people with a closer age difference.
However when you start looking at 10-20-30 year differences the relationship is doomed from the start. Initially there is increase happiness compared to normal, usually explained by the rebellious nature of the relationship, that however does wear off. Also people will hit life stages at difference times and will eventually be incompatible. Generally when one person is in their mid 20's to mid 30's and decide they want kids, the other is going to be either too old to have kids, getting ready to retire or may already have kids of their own and don't want any more. Also being in your 20's, 30's & 40's and wanting a social life, when your partner is starting to want to stay in more and is becoming more and more frail, it does put a downer on things. There's a reason you don't see many wives who are in their 30's or 40's and still with their husband who may be in his 60's or 70's.
I actually knew one guy who was in his 20's and saw a lady in her late 30's and originally wasn't fussed by the age difference and entered the relationship not wanting children. By the time he was about 30-32 he wanted to have kids, she didn't want anymore (she already had a daughter) and also no longer could have children as she was now early/mid 40's.
TLDR version: The larger the age gap, the more likelihood (it's a statistical fact) that the relationship will fail. The 'ideal' gap is 2 years or less although generally speaking you're not playing with extremely decreased odds until you reach something like 5 years. I think you get to something like 10 years plus, you have to be (quite literally) in the 1% group for it to actually work out. And yes the stats are that bad.
I think it's about life stages, if you're in school then you should go out with someone else in school and etc etc
I think with age gaps it's life goals and maturity that is relevant
We were just in two completely different places in our lives, and there was no getting around that.
maximum 5-7 if you are both as mature as each other
actual statistics have proven that anything over 10 years has a less than 50% chance of survival.
Like I said, I usually have this limit of 5 years and preferably like someone older but there is something about him that intrigues me. I guess what I'm trying to say without being a cliche. Sometimes age is just a number 🤷🏻*♀️