I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a very strong relationship. We're working towards one day getting married and moving in together.
The issue is, he isn't academically strong. His grades aren't going very well and I believe that he's really smart but his grades don't show it so I'm scared he won't be able to get into the universities I want to go to. I want to apply to Oxbridge, and some other Russell Group Unis that have higher entry requirements and he's saying that he will apply to the same ones as me but I'm worried that if he applies to ones I do then he might not get in and then he'd have to do a gap year.
I want to be with him but at the same time I want to study at one of the best unis and I don't know what to do. Everytime I mention applying to different unis he panics because we already have a long distance relationship and we had university as our way of finally being together. Should I apply to ones he's more likely to get into?
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- Thread Starter
- 17-02-2018 16:07
- 17-02-2018 16:12
You are so young and you should absolutely no matter what settle for less just to be with him. If you are capable of getting into oxbridge/Russell group he should be supporting you all the way and be happy for you, not whining like a little baby.
You have your whole lives to be together, if you can’t make it through going to different unis them I’m sorry but it just isn’t meant to beLast edited by del1rious; 17-02-2018 at 16:12. Reason: TDA Post Edit
- 17-02-2018 16:14
Live your life for yourself not for your boyfriend. You're very young to be putting all your eggs in one basket. What if you choose an average uni just to be with him and then a few months in you two break up? Put your needs first and choose universities that you like. The UK is pretty small with hundreds of universities, I'm sure if he wants to he can find one suitable for him that isn't too far away. E.g if you like Durham, he could go for Newcastle or Northumbria. Don't settle on your education and future because of a boy.
- Section Leader
- 17-02-2018 16:15
- 17-02-2018 17:43
Apply for ones YOU want to apply too.
Put your boyfriend out the picture when it comes to thinking about your career and future.
People who love and support you will remain in your life no matter how difficult life gets.
As for your boyfriend, suggest he be more realistic in ones if he's aiming high, as you need to look at grades and ucas points.
If you two both end up going to different universities its not the end of the world, the fact you are still together now is a testament to how strong you are as a couple for lasting in a long distance rship.