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    Im nearly 22 years old. Im with a girl thats nearly 23 and she is pregnant with an abusive ex's baby. Weve only been together since November. She wanted an abortion then changed her mind. Ive currently been supporting her with her decision but she has a past of her own which makes me doubt if she loves me too like she says or if im being punked. Its been good but i feel like im being emotionally hijacked about things sometimes. My family are notorious for being outlaws and are frowned on in this city. I came out of care and moved here and my last name causes me problems. I have to carry that ******** and it makes things hard in relationships ive been in. Its not all my family though and she doesnt want to make an effort with that because of associations with them. And she uses that to make me feel bad. When no one has wronged her. She makes it difficult to be with her sometimes. Ive supported her fully and met her family but its not fair to try make me choose between her and a family memeber who is serving a life sentence. I dont visit or write. I spoke on the phone for a minute or so but its suddenly a big deal a day later. She hung up the phone on me like i did something wrong. Im starting to think maybe i shouldnt be with her and listen to people who think i should be with someone who doesnt have kids and do it properly first time around. But i love her and dont want to be the bad guy by walking away from the people that matter. Please help. Advice?
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    Im nearly 22 years old. Im with a girl thats nearly 23 and she is pregnant with an abusive ex's baby. Weve only been together since November. She wanted an abortion then changed her mind. Ive currently been supporting her with her decision but she has a past of her own which makes me doubt if she loves me too like she says or if im being punked. Its been good but i feel like im being emotionally hijacked about things sometimes. My family are notorious for being outlaws and are frowned on in this city. I came out of care and moved here and my last name causes me problems. I have to carry that ******** and it makes things hard in relationships ive been in. Its not all my family though and she doesnt want to make an effort with that because of associations with them. And she uses that to make me feel bad. When no one has wronged her. She makes it difficult to be with her sometimes. Ive supported her fully and met her family but its not fair to try make me choose between her and a family memeber who is serving a life sentence. I dont visit or write. I spoke on the phone for a minute or so but its suddenly a big deal a day later. She hung up the phone on me like i did something wrong. Im starting to think maybe i shouldnt be with her and listen to people who think i should be with someone who doesnt have kids and do it properly first time around. But i love her and dont want to be the bad guy by walking away from the people that matter. Please help. Advice?
    How much have you spoken to her about how you really feel? Can you reach a compromise? In the end if not then she is not worth it if she is trying to change you/prevent you from seeing family as long as you’re not in danger. Do you have anyone else who is less involved in the situation to talk to?
 
 
 
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