He got what he wanted. Another notch on his bed-post. So now he's dropped the veneer of being nice to you. Who knows what's going on his mind? Whatever it is, it's not nice from your point of view. He really is acting like a jerk. Maybe he feels totally embarassed by the whole event, and doesn't have the maturity to have empathy for you at this time?
As for the way you lost your virginity - any man worth losing your virginity to would have done it totally different.
A whole undisturbed evening would have been devoted to it. Phones off and everything. Taking it very slowly at first. He'd have helped / made you orgasm before getting his penis anywhere near your vagina. He'd have asked how you wanted to handle your hymen: slow and over time, or get it over and done with. If the latter, it would have been missionary, with him on top and with you legs drawn upwards. He would have checked about birth control. He'd have have taken the right measures to ensure he was infection free in the months leading up to this. He'd have forced himself to stay awake after he ejaculated to either give you another orgasm, or just to be there for you.
All in all, he'd have done his best to make sure your first time was the special event it should have been.
What's done is done. Try to make your second time a special event, by doing it with the right man in the right way - slowly, tenderly, whilst also doing it passionately and with some love and skill from the man.