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    Hi all,

    So I am a 20 year old guy who is in his first year at university, which I commute to just for the record.

    Uni has been good, I have been getting decent grades and even landed a really good job at my uni, so I am not doing too bad.

    I am happy with my life as I feel as if I have direction, but after all these years I feel like I am fed up of being stuck in a rut, and I feel as if I'll never experience some things in life.

    Allow me to elaborate:


    I've only ever had one GF which was last year, and that only lasted three weeks.

    I have never been good with girls but every time I try, they literally lose interest in me almost instantly; it will start off well but always fade away, has happened so many times and I am fed up of it to be honest.

    In my own right, I have never been called ugly or unattractive. Also, I am still a virgin but that's not something that bothers me.

    I have tried dating apps but they never come to anything.


    Like I said, uni has been good. However I worry about it a lot, especially when essays are due.

    I have always had this cloud of doubt over me, which I blame on my secondary school as I had some terrible teachers. One openly told me I was never going to make it to university.

    At times I find myself overthinking. For example; on my commute home on the train or when I am relaxing in my room. But there is seemingly nothing I can do to avert it.

    In general, I have lived a bit of restricted life; never been abroad, had a proper relationship and it took me years to make proper friends.

    I just want to be able to stop thinking about everything but do not know how?

    Sorry if I seem really stupid or even arrogant, as I am not in a bad position at all.

    Any advice by any means would be appreciated!


    have more belief in yourself
    continue to prove the doubters wrong
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