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    So I’m a boy and my best friend is a girl (let’s call her Emily), which I think is great because we always have so much to talk to about and always relate to each other so well. I am in all of her classes (she does 2) and she’s in all of mine apart from one (I do 3). She joined this college after going to a private school (all of her old friends stayed there) and because of this she didn’t know many people at this new college. It’s been a few months and I’ve realised she doesn’t put any effort into making friends at all. Because of this and our classes she only hangs out with me all day every day, even at lunch, I feel too bad leaving her alone otherwise (I do enjoy spending time with her though!). I’ve tried introducing her to people but she doesn’t seem interested.
    Now onto the real problem. Recently I’ve been going to parties and gatherings a lot and have had multiple girls come up to me and ask if me and Emily are getting together / going out. I’ve even had girls come up to me and say they would’ve hooked up with me if I wasn’t with Emily. This is quite frustrating for me especially becauseI wasn’t as popular with girls during my secondary school years.
    I really like Emily and enjoy all the time with her but she really does stop me from being able to do anything with anyone else inside and outside of college and she doesn’t know it. I don’t want to tell her really because I feel like she’ll just stop being friends with me (she’s quite dramatic like that). any idea on what I could do ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I’m a boy and my best friend is a girl (let’s call her Emily), which I think is great because we always have so much to talk to about and always relate to each other so well. I am in all of her classes (she does 2) and she’s in all of mine apart from one (I do 3). She joined this college after going to a private school (all of her old friends stayed there) and because of this she didn’t know many people at this new college. It’s been a few months and I’ve realised she doesn’t put any effort into making friends at all. Because of this and our classes she only hangs out with me all day every day, even at lunch, I feel too bad leaving her alone otherwise (I do enjoy spending time with her though!). I’ve tried introducing her to people but she doesn’t seem interested.
    Now onto the real problem. Recently I’ve been going to parties and gatherings a lot and have had multiple girls come up to me and ask if me and Emily are getting together / going out. I’ve even had girls come up to me and say they would’ve hooked up with me if I wasn’t with Emily. This is quite frustrating for me especially becauseI wasn’t as popular with girls during my secondary school years.
    I really like Emily and enjoy all the time with her but she really does stop me from being able to do anything with anyone else inside and outside of college and she doesn’t know it. I don’t want to tell her really because I feel like she’ll just stop being friends with me (she’s quite dramatic like that). any idea on what I could do ?
    Thanks.
    Although you don’t want to do this, I think yo should tell her how you feel. It’s not good to bottle it all inside and feel resentment for your best friend. As for the girl problem, all I can say is that you should make it clear that you and Emily aren’t going out.
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    Just make it clear you're not together. Flirt with someone or get off with them in front of Emily and then when she doesn't freak out people will get the idea that you're a free agent.
 
 
 
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