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    Does/did anyone have this problem? I've never really had a good group of friends during my secondary school years, and the ones that I made in year 10/11 all left to go to different schools. I kinda regret staying on at my sixth form because I just feel really sad and lonely. I have literally one friend and like other people, I talk to but wouldn't classify them as friends.I just feel like I'm wasting my teenage years whilst everyone is going out to parties and having fun whilst I'm just sitting at home. I've tried talking to new people but everyone has already established their friendship groups. How do you get through these two years quickly? Does it get better? Do you make real friends at university? I really want to get good grades and go to university but I just feel really demotivated and lonely that I can't get anything done
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    (Original post by acoolgall)
    Does/did anyone have this problem? I've never really had a good group of friends during my secondary school years, and the ones that I made in year 10/11 all left to go to different schools. I kinda regret staying on at my sixth form because I just feel really sad and lonely. I have literally one friend and like other people, I talk to but wouldn't classify them as friends.I just feel like I'm wasting my teenage years whilst everyone is going out to parties and having fun whilst I'm just sitting at home. I've tried talking to new people but everyone has already established their friendship groups. How do you get through these two years quickly? Does it get better? Do you make real friends at university? I really want to get good grades and go to university but I just feel really demotivated and lonely that I can't get anything done
    You’re not the only one, a lot of people are having the same problem.
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    Its a **** situation tbh i moved sixth forms and within 2 days i moved back to my old one because its very hard to make new friends at our age and people have already formed friendship circles. If you want to make friends now then make some effort to be outgoing and likeable, if not then remember at uni we'll all be in the same situation - we'll know literally no one, so therefore will be so easy to make friends, and also theres a lot more ppl at uni. Everything will deffo get better
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    I have the exact same problem (currently in year 13 btw).

    There are many people I can talk to and can have a good laugh with, but there only 2 people in the entire year group that I have a proper friendship with. There is a good chance that I will won't talk to anyone I currently know, because I haven't established any long-term friendships whilst I'm here. I have a feeling that most people will go their separate ways when they go to university anyway

    I think I also made the wrong decision in staying in the same school. I lost the opportunity to meet new people in a different school and have a fresh start.

    I also have mild depression and anxiety, which probably explains it all

    Based on your feelings of being 'lonely', 'demotivated' I would suggest just checking with your GP whether or not you have mental health issues. It's a lot more common than you think.
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    (Original post by C_Yap)
    I have the exact same problem (currently in year 13 btw).

    There are many people I can talk to and can have a good laugh with, but there only 2 people in the entire year group that I have a proper friendship with. There is a good chance that I will won't talk to anyone I currently know, because I haven't established any long-term friendships whilst I'm here. I have a feeling that most people will go their separate ways when they go to university anyway

    I think I also made the wrong decision in staying in the same school. I lost the opportunity to meet new people in a different school and have a fresh start.

    I also have mild depression and anxiety, which probably explains it all

    Based on your feelings of being 'lonely', 'demotivated' I would suggest just checking with your GP whether or not you have mental health issues. It's a lot more common than you think.
    I wished my secondary had a sixth form because then I would stay with my friends. But because I don’t and I’m got a fresh start I don’t talk to a lot of people and even if I do it’s like they don’t want to speak to me.
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    (Original post by b7621b)
    Its a **** situation tbh i moved sixth forms and within 2 days i moved back to my old one because its very hard to make new friends at our age and people have already formed friendship circles. If you want to make friends now then make some effort to be outgoing and likeable, if not then remember at uni we'll all be in the same situation - we'll know literally no one, so therefore will be so easy to make friends, and also theres a lot more ppl at uni. Everything will deffo get better
    I completely agree.

    Just to add to your point:
    OP, at university and beyond, you will always be meeting new people and will no longer be confined to making friendships within your year group. People are way more mature at university and are more open.
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    have you tried making friends outside of school, through clubs or activities? that way you can concentrate on studying at sixth form and relax with friends from outside of school at the weekends etc
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    (Original post by C_Yap)
    I have the exact same problem (currently in year 13 btw).

    There are many people I can talk to and can have a good laugh with, but there only 2 people in the entire year group that I have a proper friendship with. There is a good chance that I will won't talk to anyone I currently know, because I haven't established any long-term friendships whilst I'm here. I have a feeling that most people will go their separate ways when they go to university anyway

    I think I also made the wrong decision in staying in the same school. I lost the opportunity to meet new people in a different school and have a fresh start.

    I also have mild depression and anxiety, which probably explains it all

    Based on your feelings of being 'lonely', 'demotivated' I would suggest just checking with your GP whether or not you have mental health issues. It's a lot more common than you think.
    yeah, it's just that my school is really clique and I always feel everyone is judging me about everything I do. I also find it really hard and get nervous to talking to people you already kinda know just because they already have an opinion on you
 
 
 
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