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    I'm 18, I've always been bullied for being short, quiet and sometimes my make up because I never used to be that good at it. Family members also make comments. I was also diagnosed with anaemia and an anxiety disorder.
    I get paranoid about people talking about me, mainly if it's about the way I look like today I think 2 girls and this guy were talking about me, I have a lazy eye and was worried it might've been to do with that, these guys take the p*ss but I'm not sure if it's in a joking way like saying I'm part of the 7 dwarfs,
    I think people think that I'm ugly, they're judging me for the way I look and I get this feeling I get talked about behind my back a lot, this makes my anxiety kick off and makes me not want to go to college but I have too as I failed all my GCSEs, I just want to kill myself though.
    I'm fat, my face is asymmetric, lots of beauty spots, big forehead, face doesn't line up properly, nose is too small for my face, one eye is bigger than the other, lazy eye, one eyebrow higher, one side of my face chubbier and higher again, I'm pure ugly.
    I've never had any trouble with getting guys but they're not really attractive, I also seem to attract their horrible personalities as well as looks and me and other girls don't get on, have a hard time making friends, I don't have any confidence, compare myself to these girls, wish I was prettier, wish I was rich and had a better life or better grades.
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    ...I don't have any confidence, compare myself to these girls, wish I was prettier, wish I was rich and had a better life or better grades.
    Out of those 4 things, the only thing you couldn't control was your appearance. Why couldn't you be more confident and gain better grades? If you were more successful at school, translating into a good career path (could mean more money) who cares if you are pretty or not?

    You are in a vicious circle at the moment which you need to get out of. I know it's easier said than done but anxiety -> poor grades -> more anxiety. You cannot let this continue. Ignore other people who are negatively affecting you - it's hard but that's your only option.
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    hey come on don't be too hard on yourself

    put everything social away for now , where are you now in the education process ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18, I've always been bullied for being short, quiet and sometimes my make up because I never used to be that good at it. Family members also make comments. I was also diagnosed with anaemia and an anxiety disorder.
    I get paranoid about people talking about me, mainly if it's about the way I look like today I think 2 girls and this guy were talking about me, I have a lazy eye and was worried it might've been to do with that, these guys take the p*ss but I'm not sure if it's in a joking way like saying I'm part of the 7 dwarfs,
    I think people think that I'm ugly, they're judging me for the way I look and I get this feeling I get talked about behind my back a lot, this makes my anxiety kick off and makes me not want to go to college but I have too as I failed all my GCSEs, I just want to kill myself though.
    I'm fat, my face is asymmetric, lots of beauty spots, big forehead, face doesn't line up properly, nose is too small for my face, one eye is bigger than the other, lazy eye, one eyebrow higher, one side of my face chubbier and higher again, I'm pure ugly.
    I've never had any trouble with getting guys but they're not really attractive, I also seem to attract their horrible personalities as well as looks and me and other girls don't get on, have a hard time making friends, I don't have any confidence, compare myself to these girls, wish I was prettier, wish I was rich and had a better life or better grades.
    Tip No.1 - never care about what other people think.
    Most of the time people will talk behind your back or make negative comments about your appearance because they are either jealous of you or it makes them feel better in doing so.
    You are being so harsh on yourself... I am a short girl and no where near the definition of perfection but I'm happy. I can tell you are insecure but you just need to believe in yourself and give yourself that glimmer of hope and self-motivation.
    Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way, those girls you see on Instagram are staged and there are many blog posts stating how they 'stand in the mirror for 3 hours on end just to get one perfect shot to make themselves look as though they are living the perfect life'.
    Get your head down hun, dedicate yourself to revising and honestly you will be amazed at the things you can achieve. I went through a really down moment just before exams and i going a gym which also had a spa conjoined into it. Visiting whenever i could helped me release stress and tension, making me a calmer person with a higher concentration span. I also became a lot healthier (mentally and physically).
    Never be that harsh on yourself again hun because I promise you that things can only get better from now on and you being yourself is your best self (GIVE THOSE HATERS SOMETHING TO HATE ON) xxx
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    How short are you?
    Not sure exactly but definitely under at least 5'4, last time I checked which was a while back, 4'9 but may have grown since then but not a lot.
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    I’m sure you don’t look so bad OP. Humans... we are our worst critics. Beauty is subjective and I’m sure you’ll find a guy who thinks you are perfect for him.
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    Tip No.1 - never care about what other people think.
    Most of the time people will talk behind your back or make negative comments about your appearance because they are either jealous of you or it makes them feel better in doing so.
    You are being so harsh on yourself... I am a short girl and no where near the definition of perfection but I'm happy. I can tell you are insecure but you just need to believe in yourself and give yourself that glimmer of hope and self-motivation.
    Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way, those girls you see on Instagram are staged and there are many blog posts stating how they 'stand in the mirror for 3 hours on end just to get one perfect shot to make themselves look as though they are living the perfect life'.
    Get your head down hun, dedicate yourself to revising and honestly you will be amazed at the things you can achieve. I went through a really down moment just before exams and i going a gym which also had a spa conjoined into it. Visiting whenever i could helped me release stress and tension, making me a calmer person with a higher concentration span. I also became a lot healthier (mentally and physically).
    Never be that harsh on yourself again hun because I promise you that things can only get better from now on and you being yourself is your best self (GIVE THOSE HATERS SOMETHING TO HATE ON) xxx
    My height personally doesn't bother me as such, it's the fact that I am a target, even thought I can stick up for myself there are times like now I'm in such a bad place I don't have the confidence too. Xx
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    (Original post by ecolier)
    Out of those 4 things, the only thing you couldn't control was your appearance. Why couldn't you be more confident and gain better grades? If you were more successful at school, translating into a good career path (could mean more money) who cares if you are pretty or not?

    You are in a vicious circle at the moment which you need to get out of. I know it's easier said than done but anxiety -> poor grades -> more anxiety. You cannot let this continue. Ignore other people who are negatively affecting you - it's hard but that's your only option.
    Anxiety was my downfall, I was so broken inside I couldn't focus on GCSEs
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    Anxiety was my downfall, I was so broken inside I couldn't focus on GCSEs
    Can you perhaps retake them privately without going to a school?
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    hey come on don't be too hard on yourself

    put everything social away for now , where are you now in the education process ?
    I am in college doing level 1 functional skills
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    Can you perhaps retake them privately without going to a school?
    Don't have the money
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    I am in college doing level 1 functional skills
    just work hard on that , what about an apprenticeship
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    Don't have the money
    Well you need to find a way to break this cycle. All the positive talk from other posters are good, but realistically you need to dust yourself down, get yourself up and try again - what do you think you will need to motivate you?
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    just work hard on that , what about an apprenticeship
    I want to work with animals, I always have since I was 11, I can't find any in my area though and a lot of them you need GCSEs for
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    Concentrate on something that will help you progress no point focusing on what you can't change, cliche I know. For me, getting into the gym really helped my confidence. But everyone is different, your young and will grow into your looks, and 11/10 people aren't actually looking/talking about you believe it or not, you are your own harshest criticiser. Also focus on the positives, you're alive and well and able to get an education, so many girls would kill for that. X
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    I want to work with animals, I always have since I was 11, I can't find any in my area though and a lot of them you need GCSEs for
    i would talk to your college about that
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    (Original post by ecolier)
    Well you need to find a way to break this cycle. All the positive talk from other posters are good, but realistically you need to dust yourself down, get yourself up and try again - what do you think you will need to motivate you?
    Having anaemia makes you lose a lot of energy which is causing problems, same with tiredness, I've never had motivation, I'm exhausted emotionally, so tired of hating myself inside and out, I only live for my pets now so I have no idea how to think in a positive way, I'm tired of having to pick myself up
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    Having anaemia makes you lose a lot of energy which is causing problems, same with tiredness, I've never had motivation, I'm exhausted emotionally, so tired of hating myself inside and out, I only live for my pets now so I have no idea how to think in a positive way, I'm tired of having to pick myself up
    Yes I am a doc so I know about anaemia. Are you on treatment for that? It sounds you need more than talking to college. Have you spoken to your GP about your mood? Perhaps mental health support is appropriate.
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    Deal with it.
    Lol why comment such an irrelevant comment? Smh
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