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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How come male who are not loyal get women and I can't despite being loyal?
    Do you also wear a fedora and introduce yourself to girls with the opener; "hello"?
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    I'm not sure what the solution is, but I can confirm that it's not necessarily anything to do with you. Without wanting to get graphic, what works when it's me often doesn't work when a girl does it. It's weird but true.
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    (Original post by Akbar InSnackbar)
    to all the people who doesn't understand that this is an OBVIOUS troll and was here for the LOLs doesn't understand life.....
    I don’t know why you would think this is a troll. I’m genuinley a really confused, frustrated, and dedicated girlfriend and I’m trying to get advice. It’s not that uncommon...
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    (Original post by Adz2042)
    ^ I wouldn't think the OP was a troll, but maybe she should not engage with sex so much for his desire.
    If he cannot bust a nut when you attempt to help him out, then his mind is clearly not focused on you, but on something else - hence he can easily do it when you're not with him.
    What is your reasoning for his mind not being focused on me? I’m genuinley wondering. I think his mind is focused on cumming because of the concern I’ve expressed for the lack of it. Ever since I mentioned it he hasn’t been able to *** so I’m thinking that might be it? I’ve started having sex almost every night and hardly ever am I in the mood for it, but I’m just worried about disappointing him. I try so hard and I’m genuinley feeling so drained I hope more people try and help me.
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    (Original post by MDesfontaine)
    one month abstinence. make him work for it. and maybe hes a submissive
    We have even switched up Dominance rolls sometimes and it still hasn’t worked...
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    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months, before we started dating he was definitley a player. He’s slept with around 30 women, and masturbates regularily. He’s never had this issue before with cumming. In the beginning it was hard to make him *** too, but we got there after 3 hours... I’ve tried so hard, foreplay, role play, new positions, sucking, stroking, everything I could thing of, and research. I asked him for tips and I’ve followed all of them, I’ve been more verbal, I’ve switched things up more, yet I haven’t been able to make him *** in a month. I’ve jacked him off for literally 3 hours once (because I guess he’s used to masturbating so it feels better for him) he still didn’t ***, that’s how dedicated I am. I’ve expressed my concerns that it’s just me, I’m very insecure. He has reassured me that he doesn’t know why he can’t *** but it’s definitley not me because I haven’t done anything wrong and that I’m great at sex. Then why when he masturbates he can come, but when I jack him off (listening to all his advice the whole time) he can’t? I feel so ugly and I feel like it’s completley me... what else could it be? We have also tried him stopping masturbating for a while and it still hasn’t worked. Sex has become a chore for me now, but I feel like I need to please him, yet I feel like I’m constantly left disappointed with myself, sad... I’m trying so hard whenever we have sex, and I also try to be more neutral and not try too! Just to switch it up! Nothing has worked, he smokes cigarettes and is on anti-depressants... which I know can prevent achieving climax, but he can make himself *** so it still doesn’t make sense. Whenever he makes me *** I feel like **** because I’m sad about it, please help me because I’m so upset...
    Ask him to abstain from masturbating and in any case to not do it before you have sex. If he's doing it 3-4 times beforehand it'll obviously get harder for him to reach that point.

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    (Original post by Amandabrown3177)
    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months, before we started dating he was definitley a player. He’s slept with around 30 women, and masturbates regularily. He’s never had this issue before with cumming. In the beginning it was hard to make him *** too, but we got there after 3 hours... I’ve tried so hard, foreplay, role play, new positions, sucking, stroking, everything I could thing of, and research. I asked him for tips and I’ve followed all of them, I’ve been more verbal, I’ve switched things up more, yet I haven’t been able to make him *** in a month. I’ve jacked him off for literally 3 hours once (because I guess he’s used to masturbating so it feels better for him) he still didn’t ***, that’s how dedicated I am. I’ve expressed my concerns that it’s just me, I’m very insecure. He has reassured me that he doesn’t know why he can’t *** but it’s definitley not me because I haven’t done anything wrong and that I’m great at sex. Then why when he masturbates he can come, but when I jack him off (listening to all his advice the whole time) he can’t? I feel so ugly and I feel like it’s completley me... what else could it be? We have also tried him stopping masturbating for a while and it still hasn’t worked. Sex has become a chore for me now, but I feel like I need to please him, yet I feel like I’m constantly left disappointed with myself, sad... I’m trying so hard whenever we have sex, and I also try to be more neutral and not try too! Just to switch it up! Nothing has worked, he smokes cigarettes and is on anti-depressants... which I know can prevent achieving climax, but he can make himself *** so it still doesn’t make sense. Whenever he makes me *** I feel like **** because I’m sad about it, please help me because I’m so upset...
    He is probably banging some other girls and has drained his balls by the time he ****s you. This is what you get for dating a “player” as you put it yourself. There is no way a guy goes days without cumming and then can’t during sex.
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    (Original post by Amandabrown3177)
    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months, before we started dating he was definitley a player. He’s slept with around 30 women, and masturbates regularily. He’s never had this issue before with cumming. In the beginning it was hard to make him *** too, but we got there after 3 hours... I’ve tried so hard, foreplay, role play, new positions, sucking, stroking, everything I could thing of, and research. I asked him for tips and I’ve followed all of them, I’ve been more verbal, I’ve switched things up more, yet I haven’t been able to make him *** in a month. I’ve jacked him off for literally 3 hours once (because I guess he’s used to masturbating so it feels better for him) he still didn’t ***, that’s how dedicated I am. I’ve expressed my concerns that it’s just me, I’m very insecure. He has reassured me that he doesn’t know why he can’t *** but it’s definitley not me because I haven’t done anything wrong and that I’m great at sex. Then why when he masturbates he can come, but when I jack him off (listening to all his advice the whole time) he can’t? I feel so ugly and I feel like it’s completley me... what else could it be? We have also tried him stopping masturbating for a while and it still hasn’t worked. Sex has become a chore for me now, but I feel like I need to please him, yet I feel like I’m constantly left disappointed with myself, sad... I’m trying so hard whenever we have sex, and I also try to be more neutral and not try too! Just to switch it up! Nothing has worked, he smokes cigarettes and is on anti-depressants... which I know can prevent achieving climax, but he can make himself *** so it still doesn’t make sense. Whenever he makes me *** I feel like **** because I’m sad about it, please help me because I’m so upset...
    Amandabrown, what I'm going to tell you, you could and should get from your boyfriend by talking to him about it.

    The testicles and male glands are not a magical ever lasting semen fountain. They need to recharge between ejaculations.
    If a male has released recently it becomes more difficult to make him come again.

    Ask any man when he last had an orgasm and if it was his right hand or someone else, chances are he will lie convincingly about it.

    Poor cardio vascular conditioning affects the ease with which a man can get and maintain an erection. How old is your boyfriend and how does he respond to strenuous exercise? Smoking damages the cardio vascular system over time.
    The medication that he's on, may well be affecting his libido too.


    The reason that he can climax when he masturbates, whilst you can't finish him off is because he has a feedback loop, you don't. His nervous system is telling him where to hold his penis, how tightly to grip, how far and how fast to move his hand. His brain instantly knows what feels good to him. You are not plugged directly into his nervous system.

    When you give him a hand job, do you do it dry? If so, try using plenty of lube next time. The feeling of a dry hand or fingers on the tip of an exposed penis is a turn off. Nearest equivalent for you would be of a penis being inserted into your anus dry.

    Talking of anal, have you tried fully lubed anal with him? The tightness of your sphincter and the intimacy of anal may bring him off when vaginal or oral wouldn't.


    And as Pigster quite rightly said in post #2, you do sound like an adventurously sexy, loving, caring young woman.
    There is something special about bringing your partner to the heights of sexual pleasure, isn't there?
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    He should try no masturbating for 1-2 months minimum. I wouldn't be so sure he's being honest about the porn.

    You should also both have sex for a while with the sole aim of having fun. Go down or do whatever until you're bored and then order a pizza. Just take away all expectations of orgasm.
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    (Original post by Amandabrown3177)
    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months, before we started dating he was definitley a player. He’s slept with around 30 women, and masturbates regularily. He’s never had this issue before with cumming. In the beginning it was hard to make him *** too, but we got there after 3 hours... I’ve tried so hard, foreplay, role play, new positions, sucking, stroking, everything I could thing of, and research. I asked him for tips and I’ve followed all of them, I’ve been more verbal, I’ve switched things up more, yet I haven’t been able to make him *** in a month. I’ve jacked him off for literally 3 hours once (because I guess he’s used to masturbating so it feels better for him) he still didn’t ***, that’s how dedicated I am. I’ve expressed my concerns that it’s just me, I’m very insecure. He has reassured me that he doesn’t know why he can’t *** but it’s definitley not me because I haven’t done anything wrong and that I’m great at sex. Then why when he masturbates he can come, but when I jack him off (listening to all his advice the whole time) he can’t? I feel so ugly and I feel like it’s completley me... what else could it be? We have also tried him stopping masturbating for a while and it still hasn’t worked. Sex has become a chore for me now, but I feel like I need to please him, yet I feel like I’m constantly left disappointed with myself, sad... I’m trying so hard whenever we have sex, and I also try to be more neutral and not try too! Just to switch it up! Nothing has worked, he smokes cigarettes and is on anti-depressants... which I know can prevent achieving climax, but he can make himself *** so it still doesn’t make sense. Whenever he makes me *** I feel like **** because I’m sad about it, please help me because I’m so upset...
    I am a bit like your boyfriend - I can make myself *** but when having sex be it oral or more, I find it very difficult to come. Personally I masturbate quite aggressively and do a certain thing to make me *** and thats why i can do it myself, but then sex just can't achieve that for me, no matter who it is. If this is what is happening with him, then don't take it personally at all.
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    (Original post by Amandabrown3177)
    What is your reasoning for his mind not being focused on me? I’m genuinley wondering. I think his mind is focused on cumming because of the concern I’ve expressed for the lack of it. Ever since I mentioned it he hasn’t been able to *** so I’m thinking that might be it? I’ve started having sex almost every night and hardly ever am I in the mood for it, but I’m just worried about disappointing him. I try so hard and I’m genuinley feeling so drained I hope more people try and help me.
    If he cannot release the fluid when you attempt to help him, then something is wrong.
    See Dunnig Kruger response on the topic. Some valid points in there.
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    don't think to much that's what causes it
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    (Original post by DavidJES)
    He is probably banging some other girls and has drained his balls by the time he ****s you. This is what you get for dating a “player” as you put it yourself. There is no way a guy goes days without cumming and then can’t during sex.
    We literally live together and he’s never not home unless he’s at school. He has no time to cheat on me and wouldn’t.
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    (Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
    Amandabrown, what I'm going to tell you, you could and should get from your boyfriend by talking to him about it.

    The testicles and male glands are not a magical ever lasting semen fountain. They need to recharge between ejaculations.
    If a male has released recently it becomes more difficult to make him come again.

    Ask any man when he last had an orgasm and if it was his right hand or someone else, chances are he will lie convincingly about it.

    Poor cardio vascular conditioning affects the ease with which a man can get and maintain an erection. How old is your boyfriend and how does he respond to strenuous exercise? Smoking damages the cardio vascular system over time.
    The medication that he's on, may well be affecting his libido too.


    The reason that he can climax when he masturbates, whilst you can't finish him off is because he has a feedback loop, you don't. His nervous system is telling him where to hold his penis, how tightly to grip, how far and how fast to move his hand. His brain instantly knows what feels good to him. You are not plugged directly into his nervous system.

    When you give him a hand job, do you do it dry? If so, try using plenty of lube next time. The feeling of a dry hand or fingers on the tip of an exposed penis is a turn off. Nearest equivalent for you would be of a penis being inserted into your anus dry.

    Talking of anal, have you tried fully lubed anal with him? The tightness of your sphincter and the intimacy of anal may bring him off when vaginal or oral wouldn't.


    And as Pigster quite rightly said in post #2, you do sound like an adventurously sexy, loving, caring young woman.
    There is something special about bringing your partner to the heights of sexual pleasure, isn't there?
    We use lots of lube for handjobs. He gets out of breath easily when going up hills due to smoking, he’s only 20 years old. I feel really sad about this whole situation. My sex drive has drastically gone down but I’m having sex with him whenever he wants to and he still hasn’t *** in so long whenever we have sex. I’m so discouraged...
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    Obvious troll. How do people keep falling for these kind of threads...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How come male who are not loyal get women and I can't despite being loyal?
    How do you know you're loyal if you don't have a partner? :curious:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Obvious troll. How do people keep falling for these kind of threads...
    The fact that people keep thinking I’m a troll just means this is adnormal, I’m honest to god not a ****ing troll I’m so devastated at what’s happening to me! Why is everyone calling me a ****ing troll when I’m just trying to get some help
 
 
 
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