Cancer Support Society

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer today. It's the first instance of cancer in my family and I'm a little unsure how to feel. She said that the doctor told her it was treatable with surgery and she's going for an MRI scan on tuesday to see what sort of surgery she needs. I don't know what stage cancer it is, or how long the treatment will take or if there will be complications... I'm a bit of a worrier anyway. I also have 3 university assignment deadlines next thursday which I'm worried I won't meet. Do you think this is a valid extenuating circumstance?

Yes. I got to redo an exam due in part because of my mum's breast cancer diagnosis (although I also lost one of my best friends to suicide a week after I found out about my mum's cancer and was also quite ill when I sat the exam). They caught her cancer early, but it was aggressive, so she had two surgeries and had a round of radiotherapy. She also takes tamoxifen to prevent it coming back, she is still in remission now (she was diagnosed in 2015). If you need to chat you're welcome to message me.

Yes it's definitely a valid circumstance. it's very difficult in that initial time where you don't have any information about treatment or what stage it is but you can't i suppose prepare for what you are facing but the fact they've mentioned surgery as an option is positive. I've lost one grandad to cancer and will lose the other grandad to it sometime this year (and my dad passed when I was young so i know how difficult it can be with ill family members) , just let yourself feel how you feel, there's no "right" way to feel. If you feel you can then talk to people about how you're feeling, it will help. If you need a chat, then feel free to PM me.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I'm sorry to hear about your family members with cancer, it must be difficult for you. I know that there are people out there going through a similar experience to me right now, so I'm not alone in this. Cancer is the most vile thing in the world.

100% a valid reason. You probably don't feel with it right now, I know that when my mum told me I kept forgetting and then it came back and you remember and it feels like you being told again so it will take a while to sink in. If you need any advice just message here everyone lovely
(What year are you if u don't mind me asking)

You didn't quote me, but I think you were talking to me here?

I'm in my first year at uni, and I know everyone says 'first year doesn't count' but obviously I still want to do well lol. I've applied for a deadline extension, so I'll just have to wait and see. Thank you for you kind words, and yeah it's a weird feeling. How is your mum now?

Hi there yes I was talking to you I'm.also in first year and luckly my mum is fine now I'm only back on here cos my nan has recently been diagnosed with advanced cancer. I have my exams in a week but am.just going to do them and hopefully get 50. How have you been dealing.with it.so.far?

My grandad died almost 7 years ago from cancer and everyone acts like he didn't exist. Me and my nan go to where we put his ashes and look at photos of him but I stg everyone else has pushed him away. After his funeral no one said another word about him and it's so unfair. He was like my best friend and did everything for me, and everyone wants to forget that.

Nan's cancer is hopefully clearing up now although she's got a review appointment soon when they'll send for more scans and things. Mum's got something ongoing which was a false alarm a few years ago but seems to have come back now so they're doing more tests and scans. Tense times I guess. Feels a bit difficult because I'm stuck at uni so can't help that much.

I've been quiet on here for a while but my nan died last week. I've gone back to uni now but I'm over 20 hours behind on lectures. I haven't grieved before and I'm not really sure how so yeah thats that.

I've been quiet on here for a while but my nan died last week. I've gone back to uni now but I'm over 20 hours behind on lectures. I haven't grieved before and I'm not really sure how so yeah thats that.

Nan's cancer is hopefully clearing up now although she's got a review appointment soon when they'll send for more scans and things. Mum's got something ongoing which was a false alarm a few years ago but seems to have come back now so they're doing more tests and scans. Tense times I guess. Feels a bit difficult because I'm stuck at uni so can't help that much.

Nan's cancer is hopefully clearing up now although she's got a review appointment soon when they'll send for more scans and things. Mum's got something ongoing which was a false alarm a few years ago but seems to have come back now so they're doing more tests and scans. Tense times I guess. Feels a bit difficult because I'm stuck at uni so can't help that much.

Good news today. Nan was given the all clear a few weeks ago.
Mum had an appointment today, she's clear of cancer after testing the lymph nodes.
They are still going to do some preventative treatment though so it's not the end of the road. Her hormones are a bit risky for cancer to spread in so it's hormone chemotherapy, as well as radiotherapy, injections and pills. She won't be fit and healthy again for some time.
Overall though, still great news.

Thought I'd give this a bump, to see if there is anyone needing support currently

My mum will be going for her annual check up soon. Kinda worried, but I'm sure she will be OK.

Awh, will be thinking of you both!

Check ups are always a bit scary, but they hardly ever turn out to be anything but precaution!