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    If this continues, looks like a bleak end is inevitable. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't take the initiative...welp, you've tried. If he does, support him as much as possible. There's only so much you can do by yourself to maintain a relationship before becoming burnt.

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    (Original post by JDieMstr)
    If this continues, looks like a bleak end is inevitable. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't take the initiative...welp, you've tried. If he does, support him as much as possible. There's only so much you can do by yourself to maintain a relationship before becoming burnt.
    I’m confused... you’ve made this thread right?
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    HONESTLY i've tried to post this about five times and it keeps disappearing
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    (Original post by Jheinexx)
    I’m confused... you’ve made this thread right?
    Nope, OP just vanished with their thread content when I refreshed after making my post.
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    FOR REFERENCE, SINCE IT DISAPPEARS:

    so my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 15 months. i love him so, so much. he's fantastic - we're both nerds about superheroes and films, he's often very funny and is aligned with all my social standings, and he loves all of me and calls me beautiful, even the muffin top and the thick thighs. at the beginning of the relationship, i could imagine spending my life with him.

    but recently we've been growing apart, or at least i think so. we have less sex, message less (although i'll get onto why that is in a sec), and we get annoyed at each other for stuff a lot more often. i'm starting to think we're incompatible in a lot of ways - especially his work ethic. he's doing two btecs and will complain about coursework while playing overwatch, and i'll be sat there, with 3 coursework AND exam subjects AND an epq, listening to him.

    the main thing, though, i think, is that we're starting to like less similar things. we normally bond over films, but recently, he's been telling me all about the cloverfield films, which i havent even seen. (because i dont have the time, since i actually do my work!) he's also been telling me a lot about gta (and as a feminist, not totally pleased he enjoys it anyway), as well as fortnite, which i only play with him. i dont care about it though. whenever i message him, "oh, what are you up to?" it's always gta or fortnite, and so the conversation ends, because we have nothing to talk about. on the opposite end, i'm making an attempt to become more cultured; i'm reading more poetry and acclaimed literature (christopher isherwood, anyone?), seeing more shakespeare, learning to draw, starting to exercise, writing more, starting projects like making my own visual novel. often, i find that his messages just distract me or are annoying when i'm doing something without him.
    and finally, the crux. i'm going to uni this year. he is not. he says he'll apply for 2019, but i have serious doubts. i know that i'll become a different person in uni, and that i'll need to do work and socialising and i often wont have time for him anymore. but i love him! i really do. he's wonderful and sweet and kind and we want to get a dog called fish. but i just. don't know if he's the best thing for me, or if i'm too independent for him. (sometimes, i'll be out with a friend, and he'll know - if i dont reply to a message in an hour, he sends, "babe?" i think he also might be too reliant on me. i'm his first proper partner.)

    any advice here would be lovely. sorry for creating a new discussion for something that's been talked about so many times, i just wanted to get out the specifics.
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