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    I'm kind of still figering it out if I should stay at home or not. I live about a 25min train from uni and then another 15-20min bus during from train journey after. I suffer from mental health but that doesn't stop me from socialising except I am a bit anti-social... I'm just worried if I don't get student accommodation, I won't make much friends and missing out of society activities. I work at my parents' takeaway about 4 or 5 times a week (voluntary work), which I'm having a problem on cause if I did stay at home, I would need to work. I don't mind working but then im missing on the full universty student experience. However, I would be late home. I calculated the cost roughly and it costs about the same, (excluding food for cooking if I did get accmodation). However , I thought about if I did get accommodation, I can build my independence and if I had break during my lectures or seminars, I would be close by. If I stayed at home, I don't really know where to go then on my breaks. A few good things though if I stayed at home is getting the emotional support from my family if suddenly my mental health worsened. Also, I wouldn't be in much debt and not having to make much changes. One issue thats also putting my slighty off by accommodation is the rent cost as my family are having some issues with finance. Ive already applied for student finance and DSA and now waiting for their reply. I haven't aplied for maintence loan as I'm unsure about the whole moving out situation. I was thinking at first to move out during my second year to save up but then I've heard it's better to live out first year to get to know people and and the uni itself.
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    I think it’s a good experience to live out. Yes money is a concern and also I know it’s scary to move out. But I think it’s absolutely important to learn how to be independent. I can understand that you’re worried because of mental health reasons as well but I think that’s all the more reason to try living out. You can learn more about yourself and try to create a support network outside of your family. Ofc family is always important but when you’re working and you may be moving around, who knows, you may need to reach out to others and also learn how to self care too.
    Also I feel like you can really make life long friends during this time. I’ve had a friend who lived out in first year and then moved back home for the remaining years of her degree. First year is just an experience that would be better whilst living out I think because you get to meet new people and truly bond, and usually first year is quite chill in terms of your degree so you can really explore University - perhaps get involved in societies you’ve never tried before.
    Also it sounds like Home isn’t too far tbh, so if you ever needed to go back, you’d be able to quite simply. Good luck!
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    I feel like I just gave a really romanticised story of what first year is like xD I just mean it can be fun, i gained independence and it’s an experience i am glad I had whilst living out of home.
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    (Original post by Minsun20)
    I'm kind of still figering it out if I should stay at home or not. I live about a 25min train from uni and then another 15-20min bus during from train journey after. I suffer from mental health but that doesn't stop me from socialising except I am a bit anti-social... I'm just worried if I don't get student accommodation, I won't make much friends and missing out of society activities. I work at my parents' takeaway about 4 or 5 times a week (voluntary work), which I'm having a problem on cause if I did stay at home, I would need to work. I don't mind working but then im missing on the full universty student experience. However, I would be late home. I calculated the cost roughly and it costs about the same, (excluding food for cooking if I did get accmodation). However , I thought about if I did get accommodation, I can build my independence and if I had break during my lectures or seminars, I would be close by. If I stayed at home, I don't really know where to go then on my breaks. A few good things though if I stayed at home is getting the emotional support from my family if suddenly my mental health worsened. Also, I wouldn't be in much debt and not having to make much changes. One issue thats also putting my slighty off by accommodation is the rent cost as my family are having some issues with finance. Ive already applied for student finance and DSA and now waiting for their reply. I haven't aplied for maintence loan as I'm unsure about the whole moving out situation. I was thinking at first to move out during my second year to save up but then I've heard it's better to live out first year to get to know people and and the uni itself.
    I also had mental health/anxiety issues and lived about a 20 minute drive from my uni (I’ve graduated now).

    My first piece of advice to you, is to not overestimate “the university experience”. The university experience is a tough one, and the one thing that sticks with you forever after you’ve left is your degree, so focus primarily on achieving your best academically. What you don’t hear about are the sleepless nights of students coming in drunk at 3am every night when you have a lecture that morning, the toughness of adapting to a new level and style of learning and studying for exams, or the fact that few flats actually “click” (everyone getting along with each other). Relationships are hard at university, especially when suffering from mental health problems, so don’t expect or put too much pressure on yourself in this regard. Base your esteem solely off of how your academic life is going. Think of relationships as a bonus, that require work to maintain, and try to be as mentally positive as possible. If you’re good enough to get into that university, you’re good enough to get a first. Trust me.

    My second piece of advice is to try it for a semester. Put yourself out of your comfort zone and TRY it. I assume you can live at home again if it doesn’t work out. By trying it, you’ll give yourself the chance to experience university life. It may work out for you, it may not, but that’s okay, it’s not for everyone and you shouldn’t pressurise yourself into thinking you need to do it. It didn’t work out for me, but I just returned to live at home after the first semester was over. Even if you hate it and it’s the worst experience of your life, you’ll come out of it a stronger and wiser person.

    In short, give it a go, but don’t feel too bad about leaving uni accommodation if you have to. Don’t put too much social pressure on yourself, and remember, your degree is your biggest friend. This is what will be with you for life.
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    (Original post by Minsun20)
    I'm kind of still figering it out if I should stay at home or not. I live about a 25min train from uni and then another 15-20min bus during from train journey after. I suffer from mental health but that doesn't stop me from socialising except I am a bit anti-social... I'm just worried if I don't get student accommodation, I won't make much friends and missing out of society activities. I work at my parents' takeaway about 4 or 5 times a week (voluntary work), which I'm having a problem on cause if I did stay at home, I would need to work. I don't mind working but then im missing on the full universty student experience. However, I would be late home. I calculated the cost roughly and it costs about the same, (excluding food for cooking if I did get accmodation). However , I thought about if I did get accommodation, I can build my independence and if I had break during my lectures or seminars, I would be close by. If I stayed at home, I don't really know where to go then on my breaks. A few good things though if I stayed at home is getting the emotional support from my family if suddenly my mental health worsened. Also, I wouldn't be in much debt and not having to make much changes. One issue thats also putting my slighty off by accommodation is the rent cost as my family are having some issues with finance. Ive already applied for student finance and DSA and now waiting for their reply. I haven't aplied for maintence loan as I'm unsure about the whole moving out situation. I was thinking at first to move out during my second year to save up but then I've heard it's better to live out first year to get to know people and and the uni itself.
    In terms of finance, have you done some research to find out if there are any bursaries/grants available from the university for you?
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    (Original post by Blue_Cow)
    In terms of finance, have you done some research to find out if there are any bursaries/grants available from the university for you?
    I am applying for maintenance loan. I was going to apply for DSA but I am having difficulty getting the evidence as I recently switched from CAMBS, (child and adolescent mental health services) to IAPT, (adult mental health services). I used to see someone from CAMBS but i tried to contact them and they told me to contact IAPT. I contacted IAPT and said they couldnt write an assessment for me as I am not seeing anyone. I am currently doing computerised CBT work.
    I have contacted the university about my circumstance and they said they can put something through for my academic side for when I am starting. I sent them a letter from when I was with CAMBS. I have emailed Student finance DSA team.
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    (Original post by Minsun20)
    I'm kind of still figering it out if I should stay at home or not. I live about a 25min train from uni and then another 15-20min bus during from train journey after. I suffer from mental health but that doesn't stop me from socialising except I am a bit anti-social... I'm just worried if I don't get student accommodation, I won't make much friends and missing out of society activities. I work at my parents' takeaway about 4 or 5 times a week (voluntary work), which I'm having a problem on cause if I did stay at home, I would need to work. I don't mind working but then im missing on the full universty student experience. However, I would be late home. I calculated the cost roughly and it costs about the same, (excluding food for cooking if I did get accmodation). However , I thought about if I did get accommodation, I can build my independence and if I had break during my lectures or seminars, I would be close by. If I stayed at home, I don't really know where to go then on my breaks. A few good things though if I stayed at home is getting the emotional support from my family if suddenly my mental health worsened. Also, I wouldn't be in much debt and not having to make much changes. One issue thats also putting my slighty off by accommodation is the rent cost as my family are having some issues with finance. Ive already applied for student finance and DSA and now waiting for their reply. I haven't aplied for maintence loan as I'm unsure about the whole moving out situation. I was thinking at first to move out during my second year to save up but then I've heard it's better to live out first year to get to know people and and the uni itself.
    Hey!
    I’m going to university next year, and talking to people who actually go to university they all tell you to go into student accommodation. It leads to more opportunities you will feel more integrated into the university. And alike to me if you do deal with mental health or find socialising hard, then go in accommodation with a few people in it. That way you aren’t overwhelmed by people. You can also state that you suffer from things like that in the accommodation process. Also cost wise, if you search up student loans you should be okay with it all, especially if you have a job. And if you are going to uni nearby you can always go home if you just want some alone time during the weekend.
    I believe it will be a better experience for you ☺️
    I hope this helped a little!
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    (Original post by Blue_Cow)
    In terms of finance, have you done some research to find out if there are any bursaries/grants available from the university for you?
    Yes I have looked into grants. I am applying for maintenance and DSA.
 
 
 

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