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    So i started university four months ago and i finished my first semester.I still cant find people who i can really truly call my friends.There are people who i hang out but i always feel left out when i am with them.The reason I hang out with these is that I dont want to be alone because people will think i am a total loser.
    My problem is that i do everything that helps to find friends but it never works.I am extrovert ,i start conversations and i always have high spirits but it doesnt help.
    Everyone around me are clicking with each other and that scares me alot because i feel i will never have friends .
    So is there any hope at making friends?
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    some people find it hard to make friends, but other dont.its life and its horribler i know. try inviting some people out for drinks (if your comfortable doing that of course) or ask someone on your course for study help. thats a good way to make a new friendship
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    (Original post by Alexandra 2001)
    So i started university four months ago and i finished my first semester.I still cant find people who i can really truly call my friends.There are people who i hang out but i always feel left out when i am with them.The reason I hang out with these is that I dont want to be alone because people will think i am a total loser.
    My problem is that i do everything that helps to find friends but it never works.I am extrovert ,i start conversations and i always have high spirits but it doesnt help.
    Everyone around me are clicking with each other and that scares me alot because i feel i will never have friends .
    So is there any hope at making friends?
    Are you keeping in contact with the people you meet? Facebook? Exchange numbers etc? That seems to be key (from personal experience)
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    Like Blue_Cow said, keeping in contact and establishing intimacy (getting past small-talk and work talk) is key to maintaining more fulfilling relationships.

    You can always try branching out a little if you truly feel that you're not clicking with the people around you! Try meeting friends of friends and so on.
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    You don't need friends to succeed in uni and your course mates opinions of you shouldn't affect how you live your life. If you feel like you don't fit in with a group of people move on and maybe join some societies if you really need to form connections.Stay strong and this too shall pass.
 
 
 

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