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    I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we’ve never achieved successful penetrative sex because it causes me so much pain.

    In my head, I’m ready, so I don’t know what the problem is. I don’t know if it’s the position, nerves getting the better of me, or a condition I have found called Vaginismus. The condition is where regardless of you mind-set, your pelvic muscles involuntarily tighten, making it impossible to have sex without immense pain and discomfort.

    I really don’t want it to be the case of Vaginismus as I don’t feel comfortable being examined by a doctor and all the ‘solutions’ I have come across are either extremely expensive, have a low success rate, or just take an extremely long time to work...

    My boyfriend has been so amazing and patient, but now he is getting frustrated and feels like I’m just not ready and he wants me to admit it. It’s not fair on either of us and I’m desperate for advice and possible solutions...

    Please help x
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    I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we’ve never achieved successful penetrative sex because it causes me so much pain.

    In my head, I’m ready, so I don’t know what the problem is. I don’t know if it’s the position, nerves getting the better of me, or a condition I have found called Vaginismus. The condition is where regardless of you mind-set, your pelvic muscles involuntarily tighten, making it impossible to have sex without immense pain and discomfort.

    I really don’t want it to be the case of Vaginismus as I don’t feel comfortable being examined by a doctor and all the ‘solutions’ I have come across are either extremely expensive, have a low success rate, or just take an extremely long time to work...

    My boyfriend has been so amazing and patient, but now he is getting frustrated and feels like I’m just not ready and he wants me to admit it. It’s not fair on either of us and I’m desperate for advice and possible solutions...

    Please help x
    See a doctor, that's your best chance of figuring it out. It won't just solve itself if you wait so might as well start doing something about it.

    The obvious problems except of vaginismus would be not having enough lubrication and preparation.

    Does just using one or two fingers with lube hurt? If it does, it's very likely vaginismus.

    If that doesn't hurt then have you taken time to prepare before it comes to penetration?
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    What kind of time frame are you thinking because I can't remember what it's called but I heard of this treatment where you penetrate with smaller and then bigger and then normal "penises". It's supposed to be quite effective because you kind of get used to it (I think you can find it by google searching treatments for vaginismus). But it might not be vaginismus at all so seeing a GP is probably best. Good luck
 
 
 
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