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    I've discussed with my parents before, which was quite a bold leap into the void of awkwardness but I really need advice. Realistically, I'm a smart person, I got through highschool with straight passes, I don't neccessarily struggle in social situations with people I know. It's the complete opposite with people I don't know, I struggle to make small talk & I'm genuinely never interested in trying to. I distanced myself from highschool friends, which I consider a stupid decision but I'm somewhat glad because their personalities changed massively, for the worse.

    I set myself goals too far to achieve, I'm so ashamed of who I am now. I'm a social introvert, I think? Once I left highschool, I made plans to start a college course, I didn't really see it going anywhere and so I didn't attend the interview, the main issue with this, is that I have next to no work experience & my parents are struggling financially to support my decisions, but they try to sugarcoat it and give me alot of freedom (so I can make the decisions myself & learn from them) and I took advantage of it, and so it's been almost a year, and I'm still living at home, unemployed, with absolutely zero social life and it's so stupid. I self diagnosed myself with social anxiety and depression, I'm pretty sure with good reason?

    I literally have ZERO friends, I speak to nobody, I remember a few friends tried to get in touch but I only considered them friends in my final year of highschool to stay civil, I actually quite disliked them. I noticed they were trouble and I didn't really wanna be associated with it, maybe I'm just a boring person? I got invited to parties & I rejected offers because I felt I'd ruin the fun.

    To be honest, I'm quite an approachable person, I have a positive exterior and I bottle everything up until I break. I keep everything to myself, I'm not a delinquent, I have alot of self respect. The funniest part to my pathetic life is the fact I've only ever been in one relationship, which didn't last long. I can't see my doctor about my mental health, because it's hard for me to share in person.

    There's tons of other things I can list but I doubt people are even gonna read this far.

    I just need advice, I'm lazy, but I'm motivated ????
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    Go to the doctors are get your blood checked. You might have low T.
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    (Original post by rickyrossman)
    Go to the doctors are get your blood checked. You might have low T.
    i'm only 16, could it not be hormonal related?
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    I think u just gotta sort ur life out from scratch. If I was unemployed and I had no friends I’d be depressed and have SA too
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    (Original post by Dominoes)
    I think u just gotta sort ur life out from scratch. If I was unemployed and I had no friends I’d be depressed and have SA too
    thanks for the advice, its a pretty dumb situation i got myself in but i'm gonna try my best to get out and socialise more, 99% of the time i am my own enemy. lol.
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    (Original post by sushitrash()
    i'm only 16, could it not be hormonal related?
    Yes certainly. Your problems stem from a lack of energy/fatigue. I'm not a physician but I'd say it sounds more like a medical issue than a mental health thing. If I was you I'd get some blood tests done and I'd discuss them with a doctor. Not having high testosterone can make you unconfident and socially anxious. The good news is if thats the problem all you need to do is change your diet and start exercising.
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    (Original post by rickyrossman)
    Yes certainly. Your problems stem from a lack of energy/fatigue. I'm not a physician but I'd say it sounds more like a medical issue than a mental health thing. If I was you I'd get some blood tests done and I'd discuss them with a doctor. Not having high testosterone can make you unconfident and socially anxious. The good news is if thats the problem all you need to do is change your diet and start exercising.
    thankyou so much that's really reassuring, appreciate the advice ill try to arrange something 😃
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    (Original post by sushitrash()
    thankyou so much that's really reassuring, appreciate the advice ill try to arrange something 😃
    Yeah go to your gp and tell him/her you constantly feel tired and have no motivation. Then say its weird cos you're only 16, and ask for a blood test. More than likely they'll agree with you and they'll arrange it. Also tell him/her about your sleep habits, current diet (hopefully not 100% fast food), exercise habits and stress levels.

    More than likely, the tests will show you have average testosterone levels. But bare in mind doctors have been decreasing the average every 3 years. These days its fairly common for a young boy to have the same testosterone levels a 80 year old man had in the 1950s. Technology/sedentary lifestyle and bad diet are the culprits.
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    I had some similar problems when I was about your age (that makes me sound so old, I'm 22 now btw) and it was a really difficult time for me so first of all let me say I totally get what you're going through and I know how it can make someone feel, so well done for reaching out to try and get help and change the situation! That's not easy, so you should be proud of yourself.
    Secondly, the way I dealt with feeling like this was to go to my parents, who then helped me to get access to mental health services - I'm from the UK so at the time it was access to the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services. Although that specific doctor wasn't able to help me much, it started me off trying to find a professional who understood me, and not long after that I started seeing a clinical psychologist who began Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with me (as well as a course of antidepressants) - and I firmly believe both of these things saved my life.
    Obviously treatment is a totally personal thing, and what worked for me might not work for you - but the point of my response was that, you have options right now - and one of those options will be perfect for you and can help you manage everything you're feeling.
    I hope this was helpful in some way!!
 
 
 
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