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    Me and my boyfriend broke up around a week ago and I can't help but continue to blame myself/convince myself that I led him to break up with me.
    For a while I've been unhappy, over little things like not seeing him much or not feeling very loved, little effection etc, so of course I have been telling him this.
    Despite this the week or so before our break up I realised, life is too short, I want to be with him so I'm in control of my own happiness. Therefore I was happier in the relationship.
    Then he broke up with me with of course 'I'm not making you happy anyway' now I just wish I didn't moan at him and tell him I'm unhappy all the time when I knew deep down it was my own fault! I tried to tell him I was beginning to feel happy but now he says he's not. Could me telling him I'm unhappy of made him unhappy?
    I know it sounds ridiculous but I just always blame myself and think 'if I hadn't of done this we would still be together' I love him and miss him and know this is going to be hard! Shall I just go no contact or tell him my regrets??
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    Me and my boyfriend broke up around a week ago and I can't help but continue to blame myself/convince myself that I led him to break up with me.
    For a while I've been unhappy, over little things like not seeing him much or not feeling very loved, little effection etc, so of course I have been telling him this.
    Despite this the week or so before our break up I realised, life is too short, I want to be with him so I'm in control of my own happiness. Therefore I was happier in the relationship.
    Then he broke up with me with of course 'I'm not making you happy anyway' now I just wish I didn't moan at him and tell him I'm unhappy all the time when I knew deep down it was my own fault! I tried to tell him I was beginning to feel happy but now he says he's not. Could me telling him I'm unhappy of made him unhappy?
    I know it sounds ridiculous but I just always blame myself and think 'if I hadn't of done this we would still be together' I love him and miss him and know this is going to be hard! Shall I just go no contact or tell him my regrets??
    Thanks X
    I'm not fully convinced, I think you are just missing him or someone and that actually the relationship had nothing and you were bored of it, and you're trying to convince yourself that it wasn't like that in reality out of sadness.

    You did the right thing, you communicated your problems, but it didn't work because he took it the wrong way.

    I would just leave it to be honest, you don't want to make a fool of yourself and kick yourself for it for a long time.
 
 
 
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