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    I've been with my girlfriend for two months now, and I couldn't be happier. She's integrated me into her life and family, and we're both so happy.
    The trouble is, there's something really bothering me. Between June 2016 and September 2017, I had a fight with depression and went through a very difficult time. During that time, my current girlfriend was with a guy. Although those feelings are dissipating, I'm still jealous of this. I know she said he loved him, they slept over at each others houses, went on holiday together. These are all things I want to happen to me.
    We have a holiday planned soon, so maybe that'll make me feel better. I guess I want her to say that she loves me.

    Is it normal for me to feel like.this?

    I've spoke to her about this. She says it's normal. I don't believe there's any feelings. He abused and mistreated her.

    When will these feelings go?
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    (Original post by oglez92)
    I've been with my girlfriend for two months now, and I couldn't be happier. She's integrated me into her life and family, and we're both so happy.
    The trouble is, there's something really bothering me. Between June 2016 and September 2017, I had a fight with depression and went through a very difficult time. During that time, my current girlfriend was with a guy. Although those feelings are dissipating, I'm still jealous of this. I know she said he loved him, they slept over at each others houses, went on holiday together. These are all things I want to happen to me.
    We have a holiday planned soon, so maybe that'll make me feel better. I guess I want her to say that she loves me.

    Is it normal for me to feel like.this?

    I've spoke to her about this. She says it's normal. I don't believe there's any feelings. He abused and mistreated her.

    When will these feelings go?
    It is indeed irrational to be jealous of someone's past but not unheard of. Give it time.
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    (Original post by oglez92)
    I've been with my girlfriend for two months now, and I couldn't be happier. She's integrated me into her life and family, and we're both so happy.
    The trouble is, there's something really bothering me. Between June 2016 and September 2017, I had a fight with depression and went through a very difficult time. During that time, my current girlfriend was with a guy. Although those feelings are dissipating, I'm still jealous of this. I know she said he loved him, they slept over at each others houses, went on holiday together. These are all things I want to happen to me.
    We have a holiday planned soon, so maybe that'll make me feel better. I guess I want her to say that she loves me.

    Is it normal for me to feel like.this?

    I've spoke to her about this. She says it's normal. I don't believe there's any feelings. He abused and mistreated her.

    When will these feelings go?
    I had the exact same thing when starting out with my girlfriend dude...But trust me it disipates quick...I was always jealous of the fact they were very active sexually, in the shower, on kitchen tables etc but as soon as I started experimenting with her myself the jealousy became less and I realised that I'm the one with her and not him any more. yes your girl may have loved another dude at one point but she's with you now and there's a reason for that...don't let her past mess up your future.
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    It's natural to feel some jealously towards your current partner's ex as there's a danger of comparing yourself to them. But remember she's with you for a reason.
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    Thanks everyone. It's comforting to know I'm not alone.

    I'm glad that me and her can talk about this so openly. Once we've been on our holiday together, she's said I love you, and she feels comfortable enough to stay over, it'll be better.

    She's also said that "you're the first man I've dated". Also, "I'm so scared of losing you"
 
 
 
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