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    Right to start off I’m a female and I’m 17. I have a boyfriend and we’ve been dating for nearly 5 months now. He’s amazing. He treats me so good and he’s a real gentleman. He’s very clingy which can get irritating sometimes as I do like my own space but I overlook it as I think it’s just me being a b*tch. The thing is, he’s done no wrong but I think I want to be with a girl. I’ve always dreamt of being with a girl relationship wise and well I want to experiment. How do I break up with him without hurting him. I know he’s going to be really depressed and I’m gonna hate myself for it but I’m not 100% happy in the relationship and I don’t think it’s fair on him. He’s going to university soon and so he will be moving far away and I won’t see him much which I believe would have affected me anyways. So do I use this as an excuse to break up with him? He knows I’m bisexual but I don’t want to tell him I want to be with a girl instead of him because he’s so caring and nice. I would love to remain friends with him but I’m not sure what to do. Please help.
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    Be honest with him. He's awesome as a friend but not your ideal partner right now. He's going to be moving away soon and you don't want to do long distance(?). You want to experiment and find yourself sexually before fully committing.
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    its seems like its just a phase or maybe have 1 threesome?

    perhaps date another guy who has it better together and you would have more fun with. I also had something similar, turns out I was just dating a guy who wasnt that good in bed

    if you want children in the future and traditional wedding with a husband, then your going to need a guy
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    Thank you for the advice. I don’t really want to do long distance no because I’m not sure if I can cope with it tbh. He’s good in bed and like I enjoy it but I want to experiment with woman. I don’t want to leave it till we’ve been together ages because I know that’s what I want. A threesome wouldn’t work I don’t think because I’d get jealous of the other girl lmao
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    (Original post by monsterdance)
    Thank you for the advice. I don’t really want to do long distance no because I’m not sure if I can cope with it tbh. He’s good in bed and like I enjoy it but I want to experiment with woman. I don’t want to leave it till we’ve been together ages because I know that’s what I want. A threesome wouldn’t work I don’t think because I’d get jealous of the other girl lmao
    Assuming you're OP, it really sounds like you're in a difficult situation but I still feel you may be best to part ways. Do it amicably and honestly, then you may be able to get back together in future if you wanted. Heck you could even just not be together and become friends with benefits instead so you still get.. Then in the meantime experiment with others.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    its seems like its just a phase or maybe have 1 threesome?

    perhaps date another guy who has it better together and you would have more fun with. I also had something similar, turns out I was just dating a guy who wasnt that good in bed

    if you want children in the future and traditional wedding with a husband, then your going to need a guy
    "Traditional wedding" 10/10 homophobia
    You can have kids in other ways if you're gay btw.
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    (Original post by AspiringUnderdog)
    "Traditional wedding" 10/10 homophobia
    You can have kids in other ways if you're gay btw.
    I was thinking the same, it was a very biased post in favour or traditional rubbish. Traditional... needs to stop as it tries to make gay relationships feel wrong.
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    Well it's possible you could be bi - that is a thing

    Ultimately, if you're not happy in the relationship it's best to end it and look for greener pastures. Whether that's with a woman depends on you - but you can explore that once you end this relationship. It would also be much worse for your mental health and wellbeing if you remain in a relationship you're not committed to, while sliding deeper into the closet

    As above, disregard the obviously ridiculous comment about marriage and childcare.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    its seems like its just a phase or maybe have 1 threesome?

    perhaps date another guy who has it better together and you would have more fun with. I also had something similar, turns out I was just dating a guy who wasnt that good in bed

    if you want children in the future and traditional wedding with a husband, then your going to need a guy
    In the modern world there is no need for OP to have a male partner to have kids or get married.

    It sounds like OP isn't in the right relationship, and needs to experiment with girls and/or with other guys - being bisexual is a 'thing'.
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    (Original post by artful_lounger)
    Well it's possible you could be bi - that is a thing

    Ultimately, if you're not happy in the relationship it's best to end it and look for greener pastures. Whether that's with a woman depends on you - but you can explore that once you end this relationship. It would also be much worse for your mental health and wellbeing if you remain in a relationship you're not committed to, while sliding deeper into the closet

    As above, disregard the obviously ridiculous comment about marriage and childcare.
    She is bi, she said
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    Maybe he would be fine with you sleeping with other girls open relationship type thing
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    What have you said about this to him?

    If he knows, he can go 'I want monogamy' or 'I'm happy for you to see someone else, provided it's a woman' or 'only if we see them together' or 'only if you don't see anyone else more than once' or.. but in any case, you know where you are.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I’m bisexual but I don’t want to tell him I want to be with a girl instead of him because he’s so caring and nice. I would love to remain friends with him but I’m not sure what to do. Please help.

    Realistically there is a very slim chance you're going to be able to break up with him, get with a girl, and have everything hunky dory between you an your now ex and be friends


    tbh, you're better off imo just breaking up with him and telling him you are confused and think you might be gay or something ....and then going your separate ways ...and then getting with a girl
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    (Original post by 8472)
    Be honest with him. He's awesome as a friend but not your ideal partner right now. He's going to be moving away soon and you don't want to do long distance(?). You want to experiment and find yourself sexually before fully committing.
    We trying babe!
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    We trying babe!
    Miss nice time?
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    Wanna trying me?
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    the way you said "he's amazing" kinda sounds like he fulfils some objective criteria of what makes a good partner instead of what you need right now.

    i would say that if youre going to break up, you should do it before his a levels so he has time to emotionally recuperate and prepare for his exams

    best of luck!
 
 
 
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