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    was wondering if its just me but i dislike my identity alot but because of how it involves itself in my relationships and parent pressure especially regards to islam and how they will get involved if i found someone i find it weird how family and honour matters so much in islam and just tired

    anyone feel the same?
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    im 18 btw!
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    Hey! Southasian Muslim here I feel like me and my friends in the same situation have talked about this soo much I can't believe how prevalent this issue still is
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    (Original post by Randomer0126)
    Hey! Southasian Muslim here I feel like me and my friends in the same situation have talked about this soo much I can't believe prevalent this issue still is
    thanks for the reply i feel depressed most of the time because i want to live my life but family always interfere
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous;76365454]thanks for the reply i feel depressed most of the time because i want to live my life but family always interfere[/QUOT

    Keep persevering and make sure you've got someone (like friends you can trust) to support you if you're unable to talk to your family its important to have different relationships with different people. By interfering do you mean life choices or like finding a partner?
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    [QUOTE=Randomer0126;76365548]
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    thanks for the reply i feel depressed most of the time because i want to live my life but family always interfere[/QUOT

    Keep persevering and make sure you've got someone (like friends you can trust) to support you if you're unable to talk to your family its important to have different relationships with different people. By interfering do you mean life choices or like finding a partner?
    yeah life choices and parents interfering with relationships i know its haram but i kind of want to do my own thing
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    Desi mentality is just very messed up
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    ahhh oh well it's just relationship , just wait till ur married
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    yeah i really hate it its just really annoying and its making me depressed. i want to live my own life but parents keep interfering
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    ahhh oh well it's just relationship , just wait till ur married
    they force my sister to get married and tried to find her suitors without her permission and im scared i will be next
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    they force my sister to get married and tried to find her suitors without her permission and im scared i will be next
    mmm so what , my parents are probably going to do the same

    it's not all that bad
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    mmm so what , my parents are probably going to do the same

    it's not all that bad
    Lol they have no right to send my sisters photo around i hate my culture and i hate that my parents are getting involved
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol they have no right to send my sisters photo around i hate my culture and i hate that my parents are getting involved
    they're not gonna send it to randoms on the internet , most likely to ppl they know

    ik you might be uncomfortable with all this , but to ur parents they're doing it because they're afraid that if they let you choose you might be with a man that dosen't care/love you and that will just use you .
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    they're not gonna send it to randoms on the internet , most likely to ppl they know

    ik you might be uncomfortable with all this , but to ur parents they're doing it because they're afraid that if they let you choose you might be with a man that dosen't care/love you and that will just use you .
    i dont want arranged marriage and my parents arent supposed to get involved because of islam and desi culture. im 18 i think i can make a sensible decision i really dont know what to do im having suicidal thoughts and feel depressed because my culture and religion
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i dont want arranged marriage and my parents arent supposed to get involved because of islam and desi culture. im 18 i think i can make a sensible decision i really dont know what to do im having suicidal thoughts and feel depressed because my culture and religion

    Have you tried talking about how you're feeling about all this to your parents ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    was wondering if its just me but i dislike my identity alot but because of how it involves itself in my relationships and parent pressure especially regards to islam and how they will get involved if i found someone i find it weird how family and honour matters so much in islam and just tired

    anyone feel the same?
    I'm south Asian Muslim and in the same situation as you PM me if you wanna talk
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    (Original post by Randomer0126)

    yeah life choices and parents interfering with relationships i know its haram but i kind of want to do my own thing
    same I don't know how to go about it all like it's hard I'm afraid I'll be judged as well by other Muslim girls I've been warned about how they criticize you
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    (Original post by Ray_Shadows)
    Have you tried talking about how you're feeling about all this to your parents ?
    they dont care
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    same I don't know how to go about it all like it's hard I'm afraid I'll be judged as well by other Muslim girls I've been warned about how they criticize you
    its just making me depressed culture and religion and i try and pray but my parents are ruining my life by getting involved etc
 
 
 
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