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    been with my gf for about a month now. we live like 5 mins away from each other and see each other once or twice a week. because we are both quite busy. this friday coming up i cant see her because im travelling to see family. and saturday her friend is sleeping at hers. so not gonna see her at the weekend. before we became official we were talking for like a month. we were seeing each other barely once a week. and she always had a reason or excuse to not see me when i tried making plans. i spoke to her about it and she said she wants to see me more than once a week. and we cleared things up. with this weekend coming up she said she was sad cos she wont get to see me. so we arranged to see each other on wednesday although it was only a few hours. we still seen each other. on the thursday we both couldnt go to work cos of the snow. baring in mind we only live 5 mins away. i asked her what she was doing today and she just said she was chilling and on her laptop. and that i should come round later. so at about 2pm ish i went to hers and was messaged her saying im outside and if she wants to go for a walk in the snow. she replied with, calling me a stalker and weirdo for being outside. so i got pissy and was like what are you on about. she just said she was joking. and i walked home, she never asked me to come in or stay. i then asked her why she was like that later on. and she said she just wanted a day by herself. am i **** for being worried that she would rather be alone than spend time with me. shes wants to text me all day, but we are both in our rooms texting each other. i just dont see the point. can anyone help and explain what shes thinking. cos i cant figure it out
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    It's perfectly natural to want time alone, even in a relationship.

    What's odd here is why she invited you over just to send you back? It could be argued that due to, presumably, your young age, anxiety is part of an issue. If she hasn't done anything as such before, take it lightly but do ask her politely to tell you to let you know from now on if she wants to be alone and that it's fine.
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    Its still early days. Give her some time to warm to you.
    Although she invited you round then called you a stalker? That's a **** move on her part
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    Don't Panic. Its only been a month, imagine being in my relationship 12 years and we live together. However we still both like time on our own now and then, although in our case that usually consists of just being in different rooms. On the subject of the stalker comment, why in earth did you text her from outside? That is a little stalkerish and even for my best friend I would make the same comment as a joke, but that's just my sense of humour. i expect all visitors to ring the doorbell, that's just good manners.
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    (Original post by hippieglitter)
    Don't Panic. Its only been a month, imagine being in my relationship 12 years and we live together. However we still both like time on our own now and then, although in our case that usually consists of just being in different rooms. On the subject of the stalker comment, why in earth did you text her from outside? That is a little stalkerish and even for my best friend I would make the same comment as a joke, but that's just my sense of humour. i expect all visitors to ring the doorbell, that's just good manners.
    i havnt met her parents yet. so didnt want the akwardness of going to the door
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    (Original post by ChillonthePorn)
    It's perfectly natural to want time alone, even in a relationship.

    What's odd here is why she invited you over just to send you back? It could be argued that due to, presumably, your young age, anxiety is part of an issue. If she hasn't done anything as such before, take it lightly but do ask her politely to tell you to let you know from now on if she wants to be alone and that it's fine.
    yea i had said something about it. and it took time for her to tell me she just wanted alone time. once i knew that it made sense and i understood that. i still was alittle worried, but was alot more worried when she didnt want me there and didnt say why. felt better when she said she wanted alone time. but yea i have asked her to just let me know when she wants alone time
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    (Original post by oglez92)
    Its still early days. Give her some time to warm to you.
    Although she invited you round then called you a stalker? That's a **** move on her part
    yea i think im into her more than she is into me. i get the early doors, so i am willing to be patient.
 
 
 
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