I sent a nude and now I'm scared

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Anonymous #1
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I sent a nude to a guy I've never met before, it was a STUPID MISTAKE. He kept asking for nudes, even when I told him no so many times. He didn't listen.
He asked for a bra and undie picture and a picture of my vagina so I did give to him. Now regret it so much. I'm scared people will find out it's me. Please help me. :,(
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Could you see your face
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how old r u
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you shouldnt have sent it if you werent comfortable about it
and he should have respected the fact you said no

i mean you cant do anything about it now, its done now, lets just hope he isnt a d*ck and leaks them
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How old are you? Why did you send them if you were scared?
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We've all done; few of us have had our lives ruined because of it.
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Anonymous #3
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Why couldn't you just block him? Did you see something you like about him or did you see a possible future with him? If you didn't show your face or it doesnt have your avatar then you're okay. Else, youre're Screwed.
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Please tell us you hid your face because if you didn’t you’re in deep ****, you don’t know him and he can easily leek those pics to someone you know. I just don’t understand what made you send them in the first place when you are telling us you weren’t comfortable with it
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Why couldn't you just block him? Did you see something you like about him or did you see a possible future with him? If you didn't show your face or it doesnt have your avatar then you're okay. Else, youre're Screwed.
(Original post by claudiorafael)
Please tell us you hid your face because if you didn’t you’re in deep ****, you don’t know him and he can easily leek those pics to someone you know. I just don’t understand what made you send them in the first place when you are telling us you weren’t comfortable with it
Or OP isn't in deep **** and nothing will happen. That's a possibility too.

Calm down, virgins. Stop trying to panic OP.
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you can start by taking full responsibility for your actions, then reflect on said actions and then learn from your actions to ensure that you do not make the same mistake again.

anyway, OP, as long as you didn't show your face, no one can identify that it's you.
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Oh well
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Anonymous #4
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Such a relatable feeling. The guilt and shame will eat you up but the adrenaline will make you do it again soon… kidding but you’ll get over it. It’s just guilt and shame, if its on snapchat you have nothing to worry about, it doesn't exist anymore unless he screenshot it. If you sent it on anything else.. ugh you're so stupid, you better go on a date with him so you can steal his phone and delete it… or just steal his phone and keep it, whatever type you are I dont judge.
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It didn't arrive, can you resend?
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:lol: good
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Go to the police. Coercion is an offence.

If you're under 18, definitely go to the police. If you're under 16, DEFINITELY, ABSOLUTELY, 100% WALK INTO THE STATION RIGHT NOW.
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(Original post by esralled)
Go to the police. Coercion is an offence.

If you're under 18, definitely go to the police. If you're under 16, DEFINITELY, ABSOLUTELY, 100% WALK INTO THE STATION RIGHT NOW.
What? Calm down.

Op says they've never met him. We don't know if anything in the photos is identifiable and it may be that the OP could block him and never hear from him again.

Taking a look at this coercion offence, the guidelines state:

The pattern of behaviour has to have a “serious effect” on the victim - this means that they have been caused to EITHER fear that violence will be used against them on “at least two occasions”, OR they have been caused serious alarm or distress which has a substantial adverse effect on the victim’s usual day - to - day activities

I'm not sure that applies here.
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Lol whats wrong with people. No sexual education. And why would you care, if anyone get's excited on it they're a bunch of malaka. In a sexually obssessed society people are hella stressed if their nudes leak.

Just take it logically what could happen.
1) You walk into police station on 2nd of March and they help and all is good...maybe not or maybe your parents find out :|, still the best option nonetheless
2) Police won't help you or won't help you in time, you man up join a muay thai gym and beat up anyone who comments nonsense.
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Okay so a quick question:

Are you under 18?

I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that you are. In this case, you have technically distributed pictures depicting a minor that are of a sexual nature. Yes they are of yourself but the law isn't concerned about that (it's unfair if you ask me, but it keeps children safe so it's for a good reason). Read this link here https://childlawadvice.org.uk/inform...pages/sexting/.

So basically if this was me I would not want to escalate it further. What I would do though is let the person who you sent the images know (again assuming you're under 18) that they are in possession of pictures depicting a minor that are of a sexual nature, which is something that police wouldn't take lightly. That would most likely scare them into deleting the images, especially if they think that you might go to the police.

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But if you're over 18 then you just have to hope he doesn't distribute them. 'Revenge porn' as they call it. This is illegal and can carry a sentence, so maybe letting him know that would scare him into not sharing them?

Also I just hope you didn't include your face in them, that's never ever something you should do.

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Best of luck anyway.
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Hi

I don't think you need to worry. The worst thing (literal worst) is everybody you know sees you naked - we are all the same underneath, and it is so easy to access naked photos online these days that no one will care too much and everyone will have forgotten within a fortnight.

People send photos to strangers all the time, hell sometimes they even sell them! There is no need to create unnecessary stress for yourself.

I personally would
1. Tell my mum/ someone who loves me, won't judge me, and that I trust
2. I might block the person depending on the situation

If a boy sent you a ****-pic he isn't going to sit at home and cry because you might spread it around is he? This is the patricharcy again being really unfair.

I hope for a world with a more positive view on body positivity.

Hope this has made you feel slightly better.
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Don't ever send anyone nude photos ever
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