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URGENT HELP!! Freshmen Junior, Police threat from MY parents watch

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    This is URGENT! I need someone out there to listen to what I have to say and give me the advice and help I need! I am a junior, female, just turned 17 two months ago. My boyfriend is a freshman, going on 15. We are in a serious love relationship.
    My parents do not approve of the relationship due to the age difference. They told me not to talk to him twice before. Then I get punished for it, reason being why I never have my phone. Ever. We secretly kept the relationship going. He made me a secret email and we've used that for 5 months everyday all night talking. His parents love me. Mine hate him. Is age not just a number? This boy makes me happy, the first boy to admit he loves me, I am his everything, does not physically or hurt me emotionally, and meets my standards. I am torn!
    Yesterday somehow my mother found the secret email. Only she couldn't log in. I was forced to write down the password along with my secret Instagram too. I am not allowed any social media. My parents told me 17 i can date, just not a freshman. I was honestly and said. . . My mother owned nto like the email. Yes we have cute innocent talks but also flirting and nudes I was asked by him to send. My mother read everything. Showed my dad too. I was mortified an de felt guilty. When she found out she grabbed my face, pulled my hair and called me a slut, whore,sick, disgusting, i hate you, and more. This broke my heart.
    Mom threatened to take away my door, makep,things in my room, electronics, tell the principal, expose all messages on my social media to my friends, slutty, and MORE IMPORTANTLY, THREATENED TO GET ME HELP, THERAPY, MENTAL HOSPITALIZATION, AND MOSTLY CALL THE POLICE ON ME IF I DID NOT BREAK UP WITH HIM.
    On the way too school mom said I looked horrible, my outfit sucked, and she hopes it was all worth it with my bf. She said she hopes he shoots me with one of his hunting guns and strangles me. Mom only said that because my boyfriend said dad Is in jail for drunk driving and his birth mom recently got strangled by his step dad.
    At lunch I told him everything. I love this boy. He loves me. We are serious and want to build a future together. Yet he is scared, hurt, was crying, angry, when I told him everything. Then he said we could be friends. I told him i was not breaking up with him. We are fighting for this relationship. I want to be with him so badly. He doesn't want to see my mom put me through hell because of him. What can we do to be together? I cried all school day. I think we broke up but I am not certainly. I have yet to see him tomorrow if shows up on the half day. I am heart broken and miss him too much, all I want is him and his love. He means everything to me. So does my future, and no cops were called on me tonight by my parents. What a joke. Please help.
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    I mean, 15 is under the legal age limit. I get that you're close to his age, but it's probably best to wait until his 16 before doing anything.
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    (Original post by esralled)
    I mean, 15 is under the legal age limit. I get that you're close to his age, but it's probably best to wait until his 16 before doing anything.
    Also she said he’s “going on 15” which means he’s 14....

    Op, I don’t agree with your parents actions but their intentions are right. Having a sexual relationship (yes sending nudes is a sexual relationship. You’re sending pornography to a child.) with him could get you in a lot of trouble, no matter how innocent your intentions.

    Keep your head down until you can leave home, until then the safest thing you can do is to follow the rules they have set. Also don’t date 14 year olds.
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    People shouldn't get too worked up about this. It's almost certainly a fake, probably copied from an American site.
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    Yeah we got told in college that if you're under 16 or the legal age in your country, taking nudes and not sending is 1 crime since it's pornography of a child even if it's you and the police found out it would appear on your criminal record under child pornography even if it's yourself. sending it is another crime since your distributing it and then sending it to a minor and then it's on their phone which is another 2and he'll get the same as you. You can be in a relationship but wait until your legal age limit until any other things come into it. I know someone who had a sexual relation with someone else and he got convicted of being a rapist as she was under the legal age limit even if they gave consent it's not legal. Just keep stuff clean.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Also she said he’s “going on 15” which means he’s 14....

    Op, I don’t agree with your parents actions but their intentions are right. Having a sexual relationship (yes sending nudes is a sexual relationship. You’re sending pornography to a child.) with him could get you in a lot of trouble, no matter how innocent your intentions.

    Keep your head down until you can leave home, until then the safest thing you can do is to follow the rules they have set. Also don’t date 14 year olds.
    Hey girl! Thank you for the advice. At this moment in my life I am completely torn and do regret it now that I sent those pictures. Even when he asked me to continuously. If I truly had a choice I would rather date someone older than me or my age. When I met him, I didn't know it would become more until he asked me to homecoming. Where I was his first kiss. He wanted to kiss me. Sadly there is that attraction we have for each other. As stupid as it was, i did try to beg him to take me back and apologize. I almost wish i never told him my parents were threatening me at home. Then maybe I could have still had him. We sit together in class. It was soooo awkward! But he was sitting with a different kid, a boy. So I sat down in my spot and said hi and he hardly looked up at Me. Ouch. So I said it again. And said "you're not going to sit with me?" I could feel hot tears coming since I truly do feel alone and adore him. And he was just shaking his head trying not to make contact, digging through his bag, I felt like trash. Less than a person. It was such an ugly color I felt. So I sat with a girl. That girl told me he kept looking over at me in class. I don't want to come across like a psychopath because I know in my heart I am not that person but I'm breaking inside. I researched how to get an ex back and found I could do a thirty day no contact situation. It's proven effective that he will have a taste of life without me and come back. I feel I hear nothing in that time period, then sending nostalgia stuff like reminders will do. At least that's what I read. Idk it's like a five step process but a long one. Spring break is coming up so do I wait thirty or the week before the break. I thought maybe I could serenade him and he will appreciate and show his feelings. He serenaded me at homecoming. I have a guitarist friend who can play and I will sing the same song. I'm scared to sing. In front of his football buddy's too. I'm not musical, I'm artistic, I know he's afraid of my mom, not me. He should know I was th one dating him, not my mom. I hope I can sing it and try to win him back. This is all my fault my parents say. What do you think
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    Thank you for letting me know! My friends tried to research it but we got nothing! Thanks!


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    Yeah we got told in college that if you're under 16 or the legal age in your country, taking nudes and not sending is 1 crime since it's pornography of a child even if it's you and the police found out it would appear on your criminal record under child pornography even if it's yourself. sending it is another crime since your distributing it and then sending it to a minor and then it's on their phone which is another 2and he'll get the same as you. You can be in a relationship but wait until your legal age limit until any other things come into it. I know someone who had a sexual relation with someone else and he got convicted of being a rapist as she was under the legal age limit even if they gave consent it's not legal. Just keep stuff clean.
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    (Original post by ageshallnot)
    People shouldn't get too worked up about this. It's almost certainly a fake, probably copied from an American site.
    You'd be amazed by how worked in my family members are. I've never felt so alone. This's is my reality
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    (Original post by esralled)
    I mean, 15 is under the legal age limit. I get that you're close to his age, but it's probably best to wait until his 16 before doing anything.
    Yikes! By the time he's sixteen I would be in collage! But thanks you for listening
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    You'd be amazed by how worked in my family members are. I've never felt so alone. This's is my reality
    Why are you in the same class as someone three years younger than you?

    Where do you come from?
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    should have listened to the people who gave birth to you
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    He's 14 and you're 17. I know to you it just seems like a 3 year age difference but he's still under the legal age of 16 so yes you can get into legal trouble. Just wait till he's 16 and you're 19 if you like this boy so much
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    (Original post by ageshallnot)
    Why are you in the same class as someone three years younger than you?

    Where do you come from?
    I'm in Arizona, this is my second year in Spanish. As a sophomore I took Spanish 1-2, and now I am taking 3-4. I thought the same thing when I saw younger students. Apparently it is because they took Spanish in their 8th grade
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    (Original post by GalGirl101)
    He's 14 and you're 17. I know to you it just seems like a 3 year age difference but he's still under the legal age of 16 so yes you can get into legal trouble. Just wait till he's 16 and you're 19 if you like this boy so much
    I appreacite that, thank you so much!
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    Haha, yeahhhh I wish I could have done that originally
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    should have listened to the people who gave birth to you
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    i know how you feel my parents made made me brake up with my girlfriend courtney she is 13 turning 14 and im 14 turning 15 and shes in 6th grade because she was held back and im a freshman in highschool. the day we met in person she jumped in my arms out of excitement. of course my parents didnt agree with that. and then we kissed and they didnt agree. we hugged they didnt agree. we never sent nudes but we did almost have sex but i told her no because she was still a young girl. but i dont understand how my parents think hugging and kissing is disrespectful to them. honestly if you love this boy stay with him because if i still lived in ohio i would have never broke up with courtney
 
 
 
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