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    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
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    It must be your incredible humbleness that drives them away.
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    (Original post by PlayWithMarkers)
    It must be your incredible humbleness that drives them away.
    Haha! Perhaps! I don't want to scare anyone away, I'm open to meeting people but don't want to hurt anyone when I know my place
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
    I understand where you're coming from, but I honestly think if they're "intimidated" by you then they're not worth it. You should find a guy who's able to appreciate you, just my opinion haha.
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    PREACH!!!! Only one guy has called me that word, lucky i stayed away From them after that. But I totally agree!
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    I understand where you're coming from, but I honestly think if they're "intimidated" by you then they're not worth it. You should find a guy who's able to appreciate you, just my opinion haha.
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
    I know how you feel sort of...
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    PREACH!!!! Only one guy has called me that word, lucky i stayed away From them after that. But I totally agree!
    Exactly. Know your worth and don't settle for anything else! 🙌
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    (Original post by Baza2002)
    I know how you feel sort of...
    How do you know?
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
    Good grief no. Do you want to go through life as stupid or intelligent. As intelligent you have choices.
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    They could feel like you're wayyyy out of their league.

    I wouldn't say it's worth hiding your achievements for (aka, dumbing yourself down and not being who you are). The easy thing to say is just get more sociable with similar people.

    It's difficult to tell or not whether you're being boastful, that in itself is a big drive-away factor. I only say this because its very rare that anyone with a shred of modesty/humility will actually say "I'm attractive" to introduce themselves, as if it were an issue.
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    How do you know?
    I am known as the smart one and get straight A's/7s (usually) and do my work all the time. I also steer people my age away from me but because I am quiet. The only difference is I don't do art and I'm not attractive.
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    also do u watch rick and morty
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    I wouldn’t worry. I’ve been in a similar position. My partner and I are now becoming future lawyers for some of the biggest and best firms in the world. You end up finding who’s right for you.
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
    watch this:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YKnbVtHgSg
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    Yes, I prefer women with the brainpower of a slug.
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    (Original post by splrtgrt)
    They could feel like you're wayyyy out of their league.

    I wouldn't say it's worth hiding your achievements for (aka, dumbing yourself down and not being who you are). The easy thing to say is just get more sociable with similar people.

    It's difficult to tell or not whether you're being boastful, that in itself is a big drive-away factor. I only say this because its very rare that anyone with a shred of modesty/humility will actually say "I'm attractive" to introduce themselves, as if it were an issue.
    Absolutely! Not in a boastful way at all! I've noticed that many peers dumb themselves down. Or I'm constantly asked for the homework, assignments,what's the answers? At the end of the day i feel used. Luckily I've managed a group of girls who are similar. By attractiveness its more of what I'm told "your pretty" "you're beautiful" that thing. And yes I love that show haha
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    I wish you two luck on your journey!
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    I wouldn’t worry. I’ve been in a similar position. My partner and I are now becoming future lawyers for some of the biggest and best firms in the world. You end up finding who’s right for you.
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    No.

    But snobbery is (not saying you necessarily are).
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    (Original post by Sadflower)
    I know what you're thinking: "Isn't being intelligent and book smart an amazing quality?!" Well, yes, but sometimes I feel being labeled the smart one, the artist, the one who always dresses nice for school, attractive, straight A's and does her work all the time steers guys my age (junior in high school) away from me because I am somehow better than them or "intimidating"
    Turn on but a massive turn off if coupled with arrogance.

    Book smart:
    Doesnt make you good company.
    Doesnt make you wise.
    Doesnt make you nice.
    Doesnt make you street smart.

    Great start, but there is a lot more to a person.
 
 
 
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