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    Is it normal to feel somewhat resentful towards your degree in final year?
    I’m currently sitting on 2 very important upcoming deadlines (end of April) and the work I have to do just seems to be falling in on me and I cannot keep up with it - I’m not a procrastinator but these deadlines were sprung upon us and this is the closest I’ve come to upcoming deadlines and not known what it is I’m doing!
    I don’t hate my course by any means, it’s more that I feel like if I do badly or feel like I’ve submitted work not to my best standard I will just resent my degree at the end of it if it’s a grade I knew I could have gotten better in.
    (Btw it’s 2 x 3000 word reports due end of April, I’ve started both - done 700 words for each - but the content just isn’t flowing and it feels more rushed than work I’ve done in the past)
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    (Original post by Lily048)
    Is it normal to feel somewhat resentful towards your degree in final year?
    I’m currently sitting on 2 very important upcoming deadlines (end of April) and the work I have to do just seems to be falling in on me and I cannot keep up with it - I’m not a procrastinator but these deadlines were sprung upon us and this is the closest I’ve come to upcoming deadlines and not known what it is I’m doing!
    I don’t hate my course by any means, it’s more that I feel like if I do badly or feel like I’ve submitted work not to my best standard I will just resent my degree at the end of it if it’s a grade I knew I could have gotten better in.
    (Btw it’s 2 x 3000 word reports due end of April, I’ve started both - done 700 words for each - but the content just isn’t flowing and it feels more rushed than work I’ve done in the past)
    Thoughts?
    I think it's the stress being channeled in this form, just gotta keep going and get through it - it'll be over before you know it.
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    I guess it could be, is there a sense of relief when such a thing is over with? I honestly just feel like I’m writing utter rubbish at the moment so it’s pretty disheartening
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    Yeah I feel similar. I know it's gonna be over soon but I feel like I just can't do it anymore. I don't see how I can get all the work I need to do done in the next 82 days. And I don't think I am going to get a 2:1, and if I don't this amount of effort will not be worth it.
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    Honestly I thought it was just me - my brain feels like mush and every single thing I write now just feels pointless and utter rubbish!
    It’s like the work is never ending but the deadlines are hurtling towards me at once. Definitely don’t feel like I’m going to get the grades I hope for - which is sad because I genuinely am a person who always tries to put the effort in
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    Man, do I identify with this right now!

    I think it's a form of acute senioritis...with all the pressures of third year (feeling like you have to nail each grade to make an overall good one, the future looming over you, trying to keep on top of uni/work/everything else), I think it's very ease to start feeling resentful.

    One of the things I've been trying lately that seems to have worked is a form of optimistic nihilism. At the end of the day, all these pressures are internal. It's you that's putting the pressure on yourself to get perfect grades--your parents are always proud of you regardless, your lecturers are happy to see you graduate, and employers don't actually look too much on which uni you went to or what grades you made (what's more important is relevant experience and a cover letter to convince them that they need your unique skills). What that means is that all you have to do then, is do the best YOU can. Not, "the best that I can do based on everyone's perception of what I think I should be able to do."

    I think as well building good morning and evening habits has been helping me lately. I now sleep with my curtains open so that I wake up with the sun in natural sunlight--vitamin D is always good for a perk up, and I feel much more refreshed sleeping like this (no more lie-ins because I'm feeling unmotivated and depressed!). I make sure to keep my laptop and phone away in the evenings two hours before I plan to sleep, I journal about my day and how I'm feeling, and I try to get in time for my hobbies--NOT Netflix, but actual hobbies, like reading and knitting and doing some adult coloring books.

    I'm curious to see what you guys think of these suggestions, or what you guys do yourselves to try and keep your motivation and energy up! Remember at the end of the day there's also Uni wellbeing teams that should be available to you that you should definitely reach out to before you feel like every day is an insurmountable challenge.
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    Man, do I identify with this right now!

    I think it's a form of acute senioritis...with all the pressures of third year (feeling like you have to nail each grade to make an overall good one, the future looming over you, trying to keep on top of uni/work/everything else), I think it's very ease to start feeling resentful.

    One of the things I've been trying lately that seems to have worked is a form of optimistic nihilism. At the end of the day, all these pressures are internal. It's you that's putting the pressure on yourself to get perfect grades--your parents are always proud of you regardless, your lecturers are happy to see you graduate, and employers don't actually look too much on which uni you went to or what grades you made (what's more important is relevant experience and a cover letter to convince them that they need your unique skills). What that means is that all you have to do then, is do the best YOU can. Not, "the best that I can do based on everyone's perception of what I think I should be able to do."

    I think as well building good morning and evening habits has been helping me lately. I now sleep with my curtains open so that I wake up with the sun in natural sunlight--vitamin D is always good for a perk up, and I feel much more refreshed sleeping like this (no more lie-ins because I'm feeling unmotivated and depressed!). I make sure to keep my laptop and phone away in the evenings two hours before I plan to sleep, I journal about my day and how I'm feeling, and I try to get in time for my hobbies--NOT Netflix, but actual hobbies, like reading and knitting and doing some adult coloring books.

    I'm curious to see what you guys think of these suggestions, or what you guys do yourselves to try and keep your motivation and energy up! Remember at the end of the day there's also Uni wellbeing teams that should be available to you that you should definitely reach out to before you feel like every day is an insurmountable challenge.
    Thank you for your advice! I have to say it probably doesn’t help that I spend all day in my pyjamas doing work in my room on a bright laptop from morning till evening only breaking for food or time on my phone haha, but I do need to remember this is all my own pressure! Like you said, parents - unless they are super strict and harsh - only want to see you happy at the end of the day regardless of grade/outcome, I think it’s the fact that I know I’ll beat myself up if I don’t get the grade I want which is sad but true for many students!
    How do you have time socialising/away from work and not feel guilty for it? It’s the guilt that I SHOULD be doing work that gets to me eventually and sits me in front of my laptop screen all day long!
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    (Original post by Lily048)
    Thank you for your advice! I have to say it probably doesn’t help that I spend all day in my pyjamas doing work in my room on a bright laptop from morning till evening only breaking for food or time on my phone haha, but I do need to remember this is all my own pressure! Like you said, parents - unless they are super strict and harsh - only want to see you happy at the end of the day regardless of grade/outcome, I think it’s the fact that I know I’ll beat myself up if I don’t get the grade I want which is sad but true for many students!
    How do you have time socialising/away from work and not feel guilty for it? It’s the guilt that I SHOULD be doing work that gets to me eventually and sits me in front of my laptop screen all day long!
    I totally see why it's so so tempting to do that! I definitely notice that if I stay at home for too long, and especially if I'm without friends or what I like to call "ambient human noises" that I retreat further and further, get more unmotivated and depressed, and then I just can't get anything done (classic "well I'll just watch an episode of X to get going," which turns into "well okay just once more epsiode" and before I know it, it's 14:00, I'm not out of PJs, and I feel horrible and sack off the rest of the day).

    So the hard part is getting out of the house...like I said, having my curtains open and seeing daylight/sunlight has been a massive improvement already (I find it difficult to get back to sleep if I've been slapped in the face with sunshine first thing, and have banned myself from going back for naps by enticing myself with something sugary or a good breakfast!). Drinking a bottle or so of water right when I wake up, and putting makeup on/wearing something other than leggings is a good kickstart too. The library is a really good spot for me--and I try to mix it up by never sitting in the same place twice, which is a bit more "exciting"--as exciting as coursework can get anyway haha. The other thing that's worked is getting a friend to go with me--so if I know that they're going to be there from 11:00 and I promised to go with, then I put the pressure on myself to be there as I hate flaking on people! A select few also know that I'm struggling, and are good for encouraging me to go/not flaking out on me because of that.

    Once I'm at the library, I find it much easier to get actual, good productive work done. And that's what I end up using as the justification for taking time off. If I know that I've done the best I can do, then I tell myself--you can't possibly do any more today, and if you did it would be of lesser quality (I'm so tired at this point and done with the day that I'm more than happy to stop as well). It helps if you have distinct productive hours--I'm not productive any time before 9:00; it's just not going to happen. However, I'm happy to start work at 20:00 and keep going until 23:00 provided I'm alone in the LRC and not planning on having dinner with friends or something else fun. That way you can give yourself off outside/after those times!

    As for beating yourself up...I completely understand and I do it so much as well. Try to understand why you're so harsh on yourself though, and try to imagine what you'd say to a friend in your position. I bet there's an underlying external pressure that actually is unnecessary!
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    Omg that was so long, I'm so sorry!

    Just one more thing--I also find taking breaks away from my phone also helps. So I do 45 minutes of work, then 15 minutes of reading/creative writing/anything else that's a hobby. Like with using that rather than Netflix to relax, it gets me doing something that is much more fulfilling and therefore relaxing!
 
 
 
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