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    This amazing orchestra has asked me to join them on their summer tour but I can't decide if I want to go or not. The orchestra's standard is very high, higher than what I am used to (I play the clarinet by the way) and I don't want to looks stupid/incompetent in front of all the other player. For those of you who don't know much about orchestras the wind players need to be a higher standard than other players because they have lots of solos. This orchestra wants grade 8 but I'm more of a grade 6 standard.

    Also I don't know A SINGLE person in this orchestra because they are really far from where I live, so it's quite intimidating to join a group of people who have known each other for years. Also the price is quite expensive but that's not my main concern. Having said all this the tour does looks amazing and it will be a good opportunity to make new friends, but I'm still undecided... can anyone give me some advice on what to do? I'm just so insecure and have no confidence...
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    This amazing orchestra has asked me to join them on their summer tour but I can't decide if I want to go or not. The orchestra's standard is very high, higher than what I am used to (I play the clarinet by the way) and I don't want to looks stupid/incompetent in front of all the other player. For those of you who don't know much about orchestras the wind players need to be a higher standard than other players because they have lots of solos. This orchestra wants grade 8 but I'm more of a grade 6 standard.

    Also I don't know A SINGLE person in this orchestra because they are really far from where I live, so it's quite intimidating to join a group of people who have known each other for years. Also the price is quite expensive but that's not my main concern. Having said all this the tour does looks amazing and it will be a good opportunity to make new friends, but I'm still undecided... can anyone give me some advice on what to do? I'm just so insecure and have no confidence...
    Talk to the people who asked and maybe someone on the clarinet section. I dont think they would ask unless they thought you were good enough.

    Talk to music teacher and your parents. Could be a great confidence and self esteem builder and very positive for you. Think about how much your lack of confidence and anxiety is causing you to find reasons to say no. If its a genuine Orchestra it could be great on many levels.

    You can make a better decision once you have had the input of others plus had a list of a few concerns answered.

    Imo think t through, but it looks as though it has enormous potential for you.
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    Talk to the people who asked and maybe someone on the clarinet section. I dont think they would ask unless they thought you were good enough.

    Talk to music teacher and your parents. Could be a great confidence and self esteem builder and very positive for you. Think about how much your lack of confidence and anxiety is causing you to find reasons to say no. If its a genuine Orchestra it could be great on many levels.

    You can make a better decision once you have had the input of others plus had a list of a few concerns answered.

    Imo think t through, but it looks as though it has enormous potential for you.

    Thank you so much for the reply!

    The people who asked me actually did not directly ask me, they don't even know me . I think they are just really desperate for more players to join their tour so they emailed out flyers to various youth orchestras around london and my conductor at my current orchestra forwarded the emailed to me because he thought I might be interested. And I obviously can't ask anyone on the clarinet section because I don't know anyone...

    I've been doing some stalking on their website and the repertoire they are playing seems very advanced, much more so than the orchestra I play with right now. Thank you for the suggestion about talking to my teacher, I will definitely speak her and ask her opinion.

    I wouldn't say I'm an unconfident person, I have no problem socialising but it's just daunting joining people on tour where everyone already knows everyone, being left out isn't really a great feeling. As I said this orchestra is FAR away from where I live so there's literally nothing I have in common with them (eg school stuff or people we know). And I genuinely think my ability isn't up to their standard, despite the fact that they said I don't need to audition, I think they are just desperate.

    You are right though, this could be a really great opportunity, Im just still unconvinced....
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    Thank you so much for the reply!

    The people who asked me actually did not directly ask me, they don't even know me . I think they are just really desperate for more players to join their tour so they emailed out flyers to various youth orchestras around london and my conductor at my current orchestra forwarded the emailed to me because he thought I might be interested. And I obviously can't ask anyone on the clarinet section because I don't know anyone...

    I've been doing some stalking on their website and the repertoire they are playing seems very advanced, much more so than the orchestra I play with right now. Thank you for the suggestion about talking to my teacher, I will definitely speak her and ask her opinion.

    I wouldn't say I'm an unconfident person, I have no problem socialising but it's just daunting joining people on tour where everyone already knows everyone, being left out isn't really a great feeling. As I said this orchestra is FAR away from where I live so there's literally nothing I have in common with them (eg school stuff or people we know). And I genuinely think my ability isn't up to their standard, despite the fact that they said I don't need to audition, I think they are just desperate.

    You are right though, this could be a really great opportunity, Im just still unconvinced....
    Talk to parents and then talk to the orchestra conductor or people in charge.

    Maybe a trial of a few days practice? If you are honest and they say ok then go for it as I feel you are keen to go, just a bit nervous because it pushes your boundaries and you dont want to be a burden. It could be great for you if you can just stick with it.
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    This amazing orchestra has asked me to join them on their summer tour but I can't decide if I want to go or not. The orchestra's standard is very high, higher than what I am used to (I play the clarinet by the way) and I don't want to looks stupid/incompetent in front of all the other player. For those of you who don't know much about orchestras the wind players need to be a higher standard than other players because they have lots of solos. This orchestra wants grade 8 but I'm more of a grade 6 standard.

    Also I don't know A SINGLE person in this orchestra because they are really far from where I live, so it's quite intimidating to join a group of people who have known each other for years. Also the price is quite expensive but that's not my main concern. Having said all this the tour does looks amazing and it will be a good opportunity to make new friends, but I'm still undecided... can anyone give me some advice on what to do? I'm just so insecure and have no confidence...
    If they asked you, then they must think you're good enough. Go for it!
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    Talk to parents and then talk to the orchestra conductor or people in charge.

    Maybe a trial of a few days practice? If you are honest and they say ok then go for it as I feel you are keen to go, just a bit nervous because it pushes your boundaries and you dont want to be a burden. It could be great for you if you can just stick with it.
    yeahh they've invited me to a rehearsal which I will definitely go to, so I can meet the orchestra and decide if I want to join them on the tour. Unfortunately I can't rehearse with them every week because it's 2 hours away from where I live.

    Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it!
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    If they asked you, then they must think you're good enough. Go for it!
    Well they didn't directly ask me, they just sent around posters to anyone who might be interested, they don't even know who I am... But thank you so much for the words of encouragement, I will have a serious think about it
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    yeahh they've invited me to a rehearsal which I will definitely go to, so I can meet the orchestra and decide if I want to join them on the tour. Unfortunately I can't rehearse with them every week because it's 2 hours away from where I live.

    Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it!
    Do they doubles? Could you stay overnight? Anyway that sounds a good way to make a decision plus talk to people you trust.
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    Do they doubles? Could you stay overnight? Anyway that sounds a good way to make a decision plus talk to people you trust.
    hey, I thought I'd let you know that I did end up going to the trial rehearsal. The people there were lovely and I made a few friends. I have decided to go on the tour! Thank you so much for encouraging me to go, I'm so glad I did it
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    hey, I thought I'd let you know that I did end up going to the trial rehearsal. The people there were lovely and I made a few friends. I have decided to go on the tour! Thank you so much for encouraging me to go, I'm so glad I did it

    This is great.. Presumably you talked to sme of the clarinettists and the conductor and they were fine?
    I think you will make great friends, have a lot of laughs and your playing plus confidence will come along. Do post back and tell us how it goes.
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    This is great.. Presumably you talked to sme of the clarinettists and the conductor and they were fine?
    I think you will make great friends, have a lot of laughs and your playing plus confidence will come along. Do post back and tell us how it goes.
    Yes I spoke to the conductor and the clarinettists, even though they were so much better than me they were really chilled and accepting. I will definitely let you how the tour goes!
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    Yes I spoke to the conductor and the clarinettists, even though they were so much better than me they were really chilled and accepting. I will definitely let you how the tour goes!
    Cant imagine it will be anything other than an adventure. Keep faith in yourself even if it gets tough. I expect your parents are very happy as well.
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    This amazing orchestra has asked me to join them on their summer tour but I can't decide if I want to go or not. The orchestra's standard is very high, higher than what I am used to (I play the clarinet by the way) and I don't want to looks stupid/incompetent in front of all the other player. For those of you who don't know much about orchestras the wind players need to be a higher standard than other players because they have lots of solos. This orchestra wants grade 8 but I'm more of a grade 6 standard.

    Also I don't know A SINGLE person in this orchestra because they are really far from where I live, so it's quite intimidating to join a group of people who have known each other for years. Also the price is quite expensive but that's not my main concern. Having said all this the tour does looks amazing and it will be a good opportunity to make new friends, but I'm still undecided... can anyone give me some advice on what to do? I'm just so insecure and have no confidence...
    I'd say just go for it. This is one of those opportunities you should grab. Who knows you might learn something new and meet new people which could be useful in the future. Either way it could be a useful experience and if you open up,may even build your confidence. If you don't enjoy it I'm sure you'll take something away from it possibly to prepare you in the future for something similar if things go badly. I suppose a good question to ask will be "will I regret not doing this in 10 years time." If the answer is yes, then do it.
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    Cant imagine it will be anything other than an adventure. Keep faith in yourself even if it gets tough. I expect your parents are very happy as well.
    yeah they are! they have always supported me with whatever I decide but they did encourage me to take every opportunity I that came my way.
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    I'd say just go for it. This is one of those opportunities you should grab. Who knows you might learn something new and meet new people which could be useful in the future. Either way it could be a useful experience and if you open up,may even build your confidence. If you don't enjoy it I'm sure you'll take something away from it possibly to prepare you in the future for something similar if things go badly. I suppose a good question to ask will be "will I regret not doing this in 10 years time." If the answer is yes, then do it.
    yeah I have decided to do it! I think one of the reasons why I lacked confidence is because at my current orchestra I am the only clarinettist so I would always get picked on if I make a mistake. But at this orchestra there are 3 clarinettists so I would have other people with me which makes me more confident in my playing
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    yeah they are! they have always supported me with whatever I decide but they did encourage me to take every opportunity I that came my way.
    Am excited and pleased for you.
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    yeah I have decided to do it! I think one of the reasons why I lacked confidence is because at my current orchestra I am the only clarinettist so I would always get picked on if I make a mistake. But at this orchestra there are 3 clarinettists so I would have other people with me which makes me more confident in my playing
    Thar'a great. I'm pleased for you
 
 
 
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