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    I recently realized that the person who I am friends with isn't a very good friend for example she would never pick up my phone calls and would never call back or message me if I did not message her.There are 3 of us her and her other friend they always speak in their mother tongue despite all 3 of us sharing English as a language.The two of them always walk home together spend lunch,break and frees together and if I wasn't there it would not matter to her.I feel like a 3rd wheel like my presence is accepted but not very desired.I know her for 3 years while the other girl knows her for 2.They always message each other and go to each other's houses while she most of the time about 90% declines any invites from me and she never wants to go out with me and do stuff together.

    We have been friends for 3 years and I realized that she isn't a very good friend because when I withdraw from everyone's company due to my depression she would never reach out to me.She is always pissed off and doesn't seem to accept my flaws (I have Aspergers so socialising is not my strongest point).If someone does not like me for me and constantly gets pissed off for me doing things which in my mind are acceptable and making me feel not good about myself.

    Should I confront her and message her :I don't think you are a very good friend or speak to her in person and say that or avoid her all together and give her the silent treatment if she speaks to me?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I recently realized that the person who I am friends with isn't a very good friend for example she would never pick up my phone calls and would never call back or message me if I did not message her.There are 3 of us her and her other friend they always speak in their mother tongue despite all 3 of us sharing English as a language.The two of them always walk home together spend lunch,break and frees together and if I wasn't there it would not matter to her.I feel like a 3rd wheel like my presence is accepted but not very desired.I know her for 3 years while the other girl knows her for 2.They always message each other and go to each other's houses while she most of the time about 90% declines any invites from me and she never wants to go out with me and do stuff together.

    We have been friends for 3 years and I realized that she isn't a very good friend because when I withdraw from everyone's company due to my depression she would never reach out to me.She is always pissed off and doesn't seem to accept my flaws (I have Aspergers so socialising is not my strongest point).If someone does not like me for me and constantly gets pissed off for me doing things which in my mind are acceptable and making me feel not good about myself.

    Should I confront her and message her :I don't think you are a very good friend or speak to her in person and say that or avoid her all together and give her the silent treatment if she speaks to me?
    You wont achieve anything by confronting. very little chance of an apology or change. If she isnt a very good friend then just have less to do with her and be on the lookout for new friends. I realise the aspergers may make it difficult, but at the moment you arent getting much out of the friendship with her and Some friendships just run their course apsergers or not.a blow up/ argument wont solve anything either.

    Have you been in contact with many aspergers support groups or forums?
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    You wont achieve anything by confronting. very little chance of an apology or change. If she isnt a very good friend then just have less to do with her and be on the lookout for new friends. I realise the aspergers may make it difficult, but at the moment you arent getting much out of the friendship with her and Some friendships just run their course apsergers or not.a blow up/ argument wont solve anything either.

    Have you been in contact with many aspergers support groups or forums?
    None my school has not provided any support despite numerous emails from my parents and doctors.
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    None my school has not provided any support despite numerous emails from my parents and doctors.
    Are you 6th form or GCSE?
    The difficult thing with Aspergers is you arent in the best position to tell because of your difficulty in reading social situations. I will see if I can find any support groups or forums that you might find handy. What you need t understand is there are others and some learn a method of coping and flourishing, so you just have to find out how other people manage . For the moment then just decide to either let her go and drift or abandon completely. This happens to people without aspergers as well, so you arent alone. I just have a very bad feel about confronting and its likely to make things worse based on what you have said.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Are you 6th form or GCSE?
    The difficult thing with Aspergers is you arent in the best position to tell because of your difficulty in reading social situations. I will see if I can find any support groups or forums that you might find handy. What you need t understand is there are others and some learn a method of coping and flourishing, so you just have to find out how other people manage . For the moment then just decide to either let her go and drift or abandon completely. This happens to people without aspergers as well, so you arent alone. I just have a very bad feel about confronting and its likely to make things worse based on what you have said.
    I am in sixth form I had been diagnosed very late (near end of GCSE’s) . I usually keep to myself as I tried to socialse but wasn’t very successfully I feel like my conversation don’t flow very well despite me trying very hard to find common ground with people and it takes a lot of energy too.
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    I think you should confront her. She sounds like a rude person and you need a better friend.
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    I think you should confront her. She sounds like a rude person and you need a better friend.
    I confronted her she played the victim card and heartlessly dismisses that she is not a good friend and said my mental health issues should be kept to myself.
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    You're friend sounds heartless and terrible. You need better friends
 
 
 
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