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    PLEASE HELP!! I welcome any advice!

    So I am currently doing a Level 2 apprenticeship that finishes in 2019. I have accepted an offer to study at University of St Andrews in Sept 2018.

    -How do I quit?(never had a job before)

    -What would you do in my position?

    -Will they give me a bad reference for essentially 'lying' to them?

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    After college I had to get a job to help my mum pay rent and move to a cheaper place etc. In the interview I said I didn't want to go to uni (because I thought they wouldnt hire me otherwise and I needed money). The pay is good and it has helped but I hate going to work at this place and I can't imagine having a career there. But everyone keeps talking about career progression and I feel that I have only encouraged the belief that I want a long term career there because i'm not strong enough to say otherwise atm. I feel like a bad reference will tarnish my future job prospects.

    I suffer from social anxiety and depression and its been getting worst the more I think about confronting my manager but I know it has to be done. But the longer I dont say anything the worst this will get
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    (Original post by Benjamin118)
    PLEASE HELP!! I welcome any advice!

    So I am currently doing a Level 2 apprenticeship that finishes in 2019. I have accepted an offer to study at University of St Andrews in Sept 2018.

    -How do I quit?(never had a job before)

    -What would you do in my position?

    -Will they give me a bad reference for essentially 'lying' to them?

    Back Story:
    After college I had to get a job to help my mum pay rent and move to a cheaper place etc. In the interview I said I didn't want to go to uni (because I thought they wouldnt hire me otherwise and I needed money). The pay is good and it has helped but I hate going to work at this place and I can't imagine having a career there. But everyone keeps talking about career progression and I feel that I have only encouraged the belief that I want a long term career there because i'm not strong enough to say otherwise atm. I feel like a bad reference will tarnish my future job prospects.

    I suffer from social anxiety and depression and its been getting worst the more I think about confronting my manager but I know it has to be done. But the longer I dont say anything the worst this will get
    don't worry about what the manager thinks about you. just politely inform the firm that you are giving the required period of notice. you do not have to tell them why.
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    (Original post by Benjamin118)
    PLEASE HELP!! I welcome any advice!

    So I am currently doing a Level 2 apprenticeship that finishes in 2019. I have accepted an offer to study at University of St Andrews in Sept 2018.

    -How do I quit?(never had a job before)

    -What would you do in my position?

    -Will they give me a bad reference for essentially 'lying' to them?

    Back Story:
    After college I had to get a job to help my mum pay rent and move to a cheaper place etc. In the interview I said I didn't want to go to uni (because I thought they wouldnt hire me otherwise and I needed money). The pay is good and it has helped but I hate going to work at this place and I can't imagine having a career there. But everyone keeps talking about career progression and I feel that I have only encouraged the belief that I want a long term career there because i'm not strong enough to say otherwise atm. I feel like a bad reference will tarnish my future job prospects.

    I suffer from social anxiety and depression and its been getting worst the more I think about confronting my manager but I know it has to be done. But the longer I dont say anything the worst this will get
    You don't need a reference from them if you're going to uni. Once you have a degree nobody will care what job you did before going there and you'll have references from your tutors. You could just email or call them to say you're not going to go in again and walk away. When you have a degree you don't need to put every job you've ever done on your CV.
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    You don't need a reference from them if you're going to uni. Once you have a degree nobody will care what job you did before going there and you'll have references from your tutors. You could just email or call them to say you're not going to go in again and walk away. When you have a degree you don't need to put every job you've ever done on your CV.
    Totally true
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    It’s easy to make these sort of things into a big deal in your mind, the reality of it is probably not as bad.
    I have too gotten jobs by saying I’m not going to University (with the intention of going) but I was just honestly fed up of employers not hiring me for that reason, I needed the money plain and simple.
    As the others have said, write a well written letter (look online for correct structure and layout) explaining your actions but not in depth. You do not have to get personal with short term employers - they don’t have to know what the whole truth is.
    Ask if you can speak to your manager/supervisor in private to hand over the letter whilst stating that you are in a sticky situation and you believe that quitting would be for the best at this point in time.
    Scary, I know. But University is way more important and you’ll forget about this job within a few months anyway!
    Good luck ☺️
    (If you desperately don’t want a bad reference, try stating in your letter that you hope the company understands and there’s - in better words - no bad blood and you loved working there, stops them having something to get at at least!)
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    (Original post by Benjamin118)
    PLEASE HELP!! I welcome any advice!

    So I am currently doing a Level 2 apprenticeship that finishes in 2019. I have accepted an offer to study at University of St Andrews in Sept 2018.

    -How do I quit?(never had a job before)

    -What would you do in my position?

    -Will they give me a bad reference for essentially 'lying' to them?

    Back Story:
    After college I had to get a job to help my mum pay rent and move to a cheaper place etc. In the interview I said I didn't want to go to uni (because I thought they wouldnt hire me otherwise and I needed money). The pay is good and it has helped but I hate going to work at this place and I can't imagine having a career there. But everyone keeps talking about career progression and I feel that I have only encouraged the belief that I want a long term career there because i'm not strong enough to say otherwise atm. I feel like a bad reference will tarnish my future job prospects.

    I suffer from social anxiety and depression and its been getting worst the more I think about confronting my manager but I know it has to be done. But the longer I dont say anything the worst this will get
    Hey. I think that its really good how you got a job to help your mum. There are a number of ways to quit but I think you should do what suits you. Afterall getting an offer to study at Uni is great, when the time is right just politly ask to get a few minutes alone with your boss. Explain everything to them in your own time and if they are a human being then they should understand. Good luck and do it how it suits you rememeber!!! Also don't leave it too late or it will bad. all the best
 
 
 
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