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    So I got back together with my ex who cheated on me a while ago is that stupid of me
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    unless they've seriously matured as a person and circumstances have proved it's then yeah that's a bad idea, and tbh even then you probably shouldn't go back to them
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    (Original post by Bkovitch)
    So I got back together with my ex who cheated on me a while ago is that stupid of me
    Yes probably. Depends on the circumstances.
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    So I got back together with my ex who cheated on me a while ago is that stupid of me
    If you got back together with them when there was no evidence of them being significantly changed for the better as person, then yes, that was probably a very daft move. Because otherwise you will have gotten back with the person exactly as they were before (a cheater) and by consequence, that also means that you've also returned to a situation (which was an unhappy one that suffered infidelity etc) that is likewise fundamentally unchanged from before.

    Some relationships can survive cheating, but many don't because the cheating is often symptomatic of deeper problems within the individual themself (and those can be hard to address and change) as well as broader problems in the relationship (also challenging). It needs more than just a will (love & desire) to make things work out; a lot of things have really got to change for the relationship to stance any real chance of longer term survival.

    Simply aimlessly getting back together based on emotions and with no real objective mindset or revelations discovered in mind etc, is no plan at all (and will only invite more of the same troubles that caused the relationship to end the first time round).

    (So only you can answer this question- only you can know if you're both being really honest with not only each other, but yourselves too)
 
 
 
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