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I need help, i keep going soft before sex... please help watch

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    Alright I've been dating this girl for around 6 months, we're both 18. In December was our first time doing anything sexual and I was a virgin at the time but she wasn't. I was very nervous cause I knew we were about to have sex and when i took off my pants i was soft. But I got hard and we had sex. I didn't think of anything of it until a few weeks after she brought it up and said it was really awkward and since then my mind has been ****ed. Sometimes before we have sex I go soft. Like we'd be laying down together or kissing and I get hard and right before i put it in I go soft and we've had sex a number of times it's just when she talked about my first time I've been in a terrible mental state. I need help I don't know what to do. I now have these thoughts about maybe you're gay but they're dumb thoughts because i read other forums where it said maybe they go soft cause a closet gay. But if i was gay i wouldn't get hard in the first place by just being around her or kissing her. Also, if i get it in it stays hard completely like it won't go soft. I just don't know what to do and I'm stressing out cause I feel like i could lose her and I don't want too. If you have any questions feel free to ask. Thank you
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    It's the pressure, nerves, thought of judgement getting to you.

    Have more fun with it, more foreplay, maybe a drinkypoo or two. Change it from a stressful thing to a playful thing. Also playing out a fantasy might help; sex can become quite the bore if you don't spice it up.
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    (Original post by Notoriety)
    It's the pressure, nerves, thought of judgement getting to you.

    Have more fun with it, more foreplay, maybe a drinkypoo or two. Change it from a stressful thing to a playful thing. Also playing out a fantasy might help; sex can become quite the bore if you don't spice it up.
    How do i get rid of these thoughts tho???
 
 
 
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