Who's in the wrong here? Watch
im really upset because me and the other guy are truly just friends, and have really tried to prove this to my ex, and have invited him to come hang with us and also we only hang out when at college so he can see nothing is going on.
sometimes he is okay about my friend and for a while was hanging out with us and they got along, and other times he freaks out down the phone and yells at me that he wishes me and the guy had never became friends and that ive really ****ed him up. he has followed us around in college to check up on us.
am i being a ****? this guy makes him really anxious, he really freaks out when me and him hang out and gets incredibly paranoid, but i just feel i should be able to be friends with whoever i want, and if i was secretive about the friendship hed be even more upset if he found that i was still friends with this guy.
i just cant help this feeling that this is my ex's own anxieties, and not something ive done, but at the same time my ex has made me feel incredibly guilty, and im so scared that my friendship with this guy is what will push him over the edge. im worried that im being selfish and that i should be doing what will help my ex, and then we can get back together.
advice is needed please.
- Very Important Poster
However, I’ve been a similar situation and during that time I was still really good friends with my guy bestfriend but I was just a little less touchy compared to when I was single.
But that doesn’t mean you’re in the wrong, your ex should be able to deal with you having other male friends and I’m sorry if he can’t understand that then maybe it’s okay for you to let him go.
It seems as if he’s super insecure and he needs some time to work on that. You could help him through continuing to reassure him of his role in your life and so on. Just let him know that your still gonna be there for him, no matter what he thinks and give him time.
I’m sure everything will work out in the end, good-luck and I hope this helped. xx
He broke up because he didn't trust you. It's fine to have friends of the opposite sex, your ex couldn't accept that and broke things off due to his insecurities. You'll find someone who trusts you more, don't worry about it.