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Friendzone but still some love. Advice watch

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    Basically, I recently met a girl through a mutual friend of mine. At the time, it was just a small social group consisting of the girl and two guys (one being me). We were hanging out a lot as a group, maybe for a week or so, as the guy came on a holiday from North.

    Initially, I think the girl didn't like me so much, however as the days went by I started to notice that she had feelings for me. She admittedly told my friend that she had feelings for me and it wasn't until her friend asked me if I was single and ready to mingle that I knew she loved me. Her friend asked me about my thoughts on going on a date with this girl and I didn't want to crush her heart at the time. So I politely told the friend that I was single and not at a stage to be in a relationship. However, she kept budging until I politely told her to stop asking me.

    A few days later, I told this girl (who has feelings for me) that I would disappoint her badly if I was her boyfriend. I was upfront and honest with her and told her she was great for me, but I wasn't great for her. Admittedly she was a bit upset but I spent some time with her.

    We've been speaking to one another through messaging services but I just feel that although it is a friendzone, she is maybe overlooking it. I was planning to meet up with her some time this week but I'm not so sure now

    Any advice? I just want to hang out, no PDA nothing
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    You've already said that you don't want a relationship, she should have gotten the message.

    To ensure that she doesn't get the wrong idea, suggest that you invite a friend along. That's the best way to make it less of a date and more of a group hangout type of meetup.
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