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    I'm an 18 year old female in my first year of university and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm doing an engineering degree as well so that says a lot because my course is like 90% male lol. I sometimes have crushes on guys but then when I get to know them I realise they're not right for me. I have never really felt that connection with someone, and idk if there's something wrong with me or I just haven't met the right person yet? It seems like everyone is getting into relationships at this stage so I don't have many options left lmao
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    Not many of these relationships last tbh
    I'm doing engineering too and most guys want girls from different courses
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    Let me come to UK and then you will have a readymade bf
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm an 18 year old female in my first year of university and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm doing an engineering degree as well so that says a lot because my course is like 90% male lol. I sometimes have crushes on guys but then when I get to know them I realise they're not right for me. I have never really felt that connection with someone, and idk if there's something wrong with me or I just haven't met the right person yet? It seems like everyone is getting into relationships at this stage so I don't have many options left lmao
    Don’t let the idea of university or those around you make you feel like you should be living life a certain way. It clearly just isn’t your time yet - you haven’t felt a connection because the right person hasn’t come along yet, simple. 18 isn’t old, 23 isn’t even old! you’d be surprised what can happen within the 3 years at university too!
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    Maybe your standards are too high.
    Expecting someone to have all the traits you want is unlikely.
    It takes time to develop feeling for someone, you need to see all aspects of their personality

    like maybe after 3 dates, you can decide if you see a future with this person
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm an 18 year old female in my first year of university and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm doing an engineering degree as well so that says a lot because my course is like 90% male lol. I sometimes have crushes on guys but then when I get to know them I realise they're not right for me. I have never really felt that connection with someone, and idk if there's something wrong with me or I just haven't met the right person yet? It seems like everyone is getting into relationships at this stage so I don't have many options left lmao
    At least you know they are not right for you, unlike some people who jump straight in. Be patient. I know this is old but Rome wasn't built in one day.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm an 18 year old female in my first year of university and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm doing an engineering degree as well so that says a lot because my course is like 90% male lol. I sometimes have crushes on guys but then when I get to know them I realise they're not right for me. I have never really felt that connection with someone, and idk if there's something wrong with me or I just haven't met the right person yet? It seems like everyone is getting into relationships at this stage so I don't have many options left lmao


    seek out a female dating coach or something

    something is going very wrong if you're course is 90% male and nobody is trying it on

    with such supply and demand in your favour you should be getting multiple offers

    ..or maybe your standards are too high.......
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    Everyone thinks at uni you should meet ‘the one’ which is rubbish. I didn’t meet someone I really liked and wanted to be with until I was 21 and came out of nowhere! Never thought I’d meet someone like him.
    Good luck, I hate to say it but I’m sure someone will come along and when you’re probably not looking!
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    seek out a female dating coach or something

    something is going very wrong if you're course is 90% male and nobody is trying it on

    with such supply and demand in your favour you should be getting multiple offers

    ..or maybe your standards are too high.......
    I never said I wasn't getting offers I just said I didn't connect with the guys who have approached me
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    (Original post by Lily048)
    Don’t let the idea of university or those around you make you feel like you should be living life a certain way. It clearly just isn’t your time yet - you haven’t felt a connection because the right person hasn’t come along yet, simple. 18 isn’t old, 23 isn’t even old! you’d be surprised what can happen within the 3 years at university too!
    23 is old in the context of first relationship . You dont want to become this abnormal person in capable of love because your standards are too high
    OP should just take plunge if not found anyone by age of 20
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    Because you're too ugly.
    no im not lol
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    (Original post by Lily048)
    Don’t let the idea of university or those around you make you feel like you should be living life a certain way. It clearly just isn’t your time yet - you haven’t felt a connection because the right person hasn’t come along yet, simple. 18 isn’t old, 23 isn’t even old! you’d be surprised what can happen within the 3 years at university too!
    thank you im hoping someone will come along eventually
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no im not lol
    You're in denial. If you were attractive enough you would have had a boyfriend at some point already and you certainly wouldn't be on TSR asking "Why haven't I found a boyfriend yet?"
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    (Original post by jay2013)
    You're in denial. If you were attractive enough you would have had a boyfriend at some point already and you certainly wouldn't be on TSR asking "Why haven't I found a boyfriend yet?"
    I've had interest from multiple guys it's just that I wasn't interested in them as anything more than a friend
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    I am pretty much in ur position but ima male ;-;
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    (Original post by hannah00)
    23 is old in the context of first relationship . You dont want to become this abnormal person in capable of love because your standards are too high
    OP should just take plunge if not found anyone by age of 20
    That’s such rubbish lol. 23 is NOT old, taking the plunge for the sake of it when you’re not feeling it will only make you doubt yourself and feel worse.
    Do whatever you want OP, don’t live by others judgements - “abnormal” lol grow up and stop being so judgemental, you’re the problem here, judges people like you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've had interest from multiple guys it's just that I wasn't interested in them as anything more than a friend
    Then you're obviously setting high expectations for a guy to be your potential boyfriend which can ultimately work against you.
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    (Original post by jay2013)
    Then you're obviously setting high expectations for a guy to be your potential boyfriend.
    I don't really know if people get into relationships with guys that they just get along well with, because to me that just feels more like a friendship? and I would want to feel a romantic connection to be in a relationship with someone but idk if that's how it works
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    (Original post by Lily048)
    That’s such rubbish lol. 23 is NOT old, taking the plunge for the sake of it when you’re not feeling it will only make you doubt yourself and feel worse.
    Do whatever you want OP, don’t live by others judgements - “abnormal” lol grow up and stop being so judgemental, you’re the problem here, judges people like you.
    lol its sad but true. Best to get it over an done with, than obbsessing over it

    its not about others judgement, its about leaving it too late and then you regret it later because now your expectations are too different from reality.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't really know if people get into relationships with guys that they just get along well with, because to me that just feels more like a friendship? and I would want to feel a romantic connection to be in a relationship with someone but idk if that's how it works
    That's one reason people get into relationships. Romance can evolve from close friendship. I've seen it happen.
 
 
 
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