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    I’m 16, female, and me and this boy like eachother (I think) he has a really nice personality however for me he is not attractive and I don’t think he is good looking. I know looks aren’t everything but I can’t see me going out with someone who I’m not attracted to with their looks. Please don’t comment things calling me names for this or anything, I’m just asking advice for this who have been in similar situations and whether you think I should go for it or not.
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    You are not alone. I could not date someone I wasn't physically attracted to... I guess physical attraction has a different importance for different people but I don't think it means you're shallow. Just be friends...
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    Quite simply:

    If you don’t fancy him, don’t go out with him.

    If you do fancy him, go out with him.

    It doesn’t matter what your reasons are, as it’s personal and subjective.
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    Why is he not attractive? Maybe with a better style, haircut, working out and confidence he could blossom into someone more attractive.

    Guys less physically attractive tend to be nicer because they have a scarcity mentality regarding women but this can translate into being unduly protective and controlling
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    (Original post by Hirsty97)
    Why is he not attractive? Maybe with a better style, haircut, working out and confidence he could blossom into someone more attractive.

    Guys less physically attractive tend to be nicer because they have a scarcity mentality regarding women but this can translate into being unduly protective and controlling
    He’s smaller than me, quite immature when around his friends, a ‘young’ haircut, but he does have a good personality. Yeah I do see him as turning into being controlling if we did go out.
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    Simply if you don't like him physically wise and you know you won't later on, just stay friends. Because my friend once tried to date her really close guy friend but she was not attracted to him physically and it didn't work out in the end. Not saying the same thing will happen here but if you think that you just won't like him as much as he does, just remain friends.
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    (Original post by alicesmiloves)
    Simply if you don't like him physically wise and you know you won't later on, just stay friends. Because my friend once tried to date her really close guy friend but she was not attracted to him physically and it didn't work out in the end. Not saying the same thing will happen here but if you think that you just won't like him as much as he does, just remain friends.
    Oh really how come?? What happened?? And yes I’m thinking of doing that now, thankyou.
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    Oh really how come?? What happened?? And yes I’m thinking of doing that now, thankyou.
    Well long story short he had a crush on her since he met her and over time he fell in love with her and he kept insisting that she give him a chance to see if they would work out. She did but she wasn't really attracted to him. Fast forward to a month in, he started to become a bit controlling and rude to her because she couldn't spend all her time with him. she ended up breaking up with him and he still pursued her and insulted her and kind of became obsessive with her. That's why I say that if you don't really like him enough to date him, its better not to date him at all. and of course, no problem! Best of luck
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    (Original post by alicesmiloves)
    Well long story short he had a crush on her since he met her and over time he fell in love with her and he kept insisting that she give him a chance to see if they would work out. She did but she wasn't really attracted to him. Fast forward to a month in, he started to become a bit controlling and rude to her because she couldn't spend all her time with him. she ended up breaking up with him and he still pursued her and insulted her and kind of became obsessive with her. That's why I say that if you don't really like him enough to date him, its better not to date him at all. and of course, no problem! Best of luck
    Yeah I agree with that completely, I can tell he has a possessive nature so I think it’s probably best to stay as friends
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