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    SO my 'bf' was a huge bully, he got under my skin and criticsed me about soo many things, from my salary, my basic knowledge, my way of living, and things that I used to like about myself and be proud of. It's like he wanted me to feel like a loser all the time. I'm finding it hard to get over it and not let it all get to me. I have so much baggage because of him and don't feel worthy of anything anymore.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    SO my 'bf' was a huge bully, he got under my skin and criticsed me about soo many things, from my salary, my basic knowledge, my way of living, and things that I used to like about myself and be proud of. It's like he wanted me to feel like a loser all the time. I'm finding it hard to get over it and not let it all get to me. I have so much baggage because of him and don't feel worthy of anything anymore.
    Him doing that says far more about him than it does you. Don't trust the opinions of a bully.
    Still, things like that do leave a lasting mark even if you know they're just some ass. My suggestion would be to keep on reminding yourself how awesome you actually are and all the things you have to be proud of. Sometimes a positive things diary (or whatever you want to call it) can help. You write down good things about you, things people have said, things you have done, what you have noticed about yourself etc. That can help to solidify the more positive feelings which will eventually get all those silly negative ones to shove off.
    And with any negatives, remember that nobody is perfect and little negatives don't make you any less of an amazing person. It's totally fine to have those negatives. Actually it would be pretty weird if you didn't. What matters is how that affects you.
    Counselling or therapy can also help with this sort of thing because you can explore the feelings and have a bit of a discussion around them which tend to make working on them easier.

    Best wishes.
    I'm going to pop this into the Mental Health section for you btw
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    Him doing that says far more about him than it does you. Don't trust the opinions of a bully.
    Still, things like that do leave a lasting mark even if you know they're just some ass. My suggestion would be to keep on reminding yourself how awesome you actually are and all the things you have to be proud of. Sometimes a positive things diary (or whatever you want to call it) can help. You write down good things about you, things people have said, things you have done, what you have noticed about yourself etc. That can help to solidify the more positive feelings which will eventually get all those silly negative ones to shove off.
    And with any negatives, remember that nobody is perfect and little negatives don't make you any less of an amazing person. It's totally fine to have those negatives. Actually it would be pretty weird if you didn't. What matters is how that affects you.
    Counselling or therapy can also help with this sort of thing because you can explore the feelings and have a bit of a discussion around them which tend to make working on them easier.

    Best wishes.
    I'm going to pop this into the Mental Health section for you btw
    Thanks, it's just hard when beennconvinced by then that younger somehow a failiure, even though In have a really well paid job, fairly intelligent, he just made me feel even unworthy of his time and attention. But I'm trying to not let it get to me and going therapy
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