Turn on thread page Beta

I have been at University for 7 months and I haven't gone to a single party or club watch

    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    I decided last year that I should go to University and move away from home as I knew that if i was to stay at home my social life would remain none existent. I have been here for 7 months first year is almost over and I have not gone to a single club or party. Every single day is go to uni then go back to my bedroom. Weekends and holidays are the same stay in my room and do nothing. Normally I feel like this would send other people insane but for me this is normal. I have never really had a social life. It has always been go to school go home go to sixth form then home and now its simply go to uni and go home. I have realised it isnt the place which makes me this way its honestly just me. I have become so used to being in my room and not having to socialise that now socialising has just become difficult and stressful. I have been invited to attend a pres next weekend. I forced myself to say yes. But now i am ******** it. I would much prefer to hibernate away from everybody and eat away my pain. I accept that my life is extremely sad and pathetic but its so much easier for it to be this way than to force myself to do something which will most likely be terrible. How can I make this pres more managable. I literally know nobody
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    It’s okay to like being introverted, there is nothing wrong with that at all.
    In terms of the pres, try not to build it up too much in your head (easier said than done I know) but look upon it as something average, go in expecting an average time but hoping for the best. I recommend not over planning it, just knowing time and place and what to bring is enough for you just turn up and have a good time. Try having a little drink beforehand to calm any nerves (don’t go OTT though). Get in touch with the person that asked you and see if you can coincide a get together beforehand or even offer to buy them drinks out so you’ll have to go around together. Don’t cling on to them though, opportunities to be social and potentially make new friends will surround you, so learn some ice breakers and conversation starters so you feel like you have some ammo going into it. Best of luck, you’ll most definitely be fine
    Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
    Offline

    4
    ReputationRep:
    lol legit me
    • Political Ambassador
    Offline

    22
    ReputationRep:
    Political Ambassador
    (Original post by ISmellLikeBeef69)
    I decided last year that I should go to University and move away from home as I knew that if i was to stay at home my social life would remain none existent. I have been here for 7 months first year is almost over and I have not gone to a single club or party. Every single day is go to uni then go back to my bedroom. Weekends and holidays are the same stay in my room and do nothing. Normally I feel like this would send other people insane but for me this is normal. I have never really had a social life. It has always been go to school go home go to sixth form then home and now its simply go to uni and go home. I have realised it isnt the place which makes me this way its honestly just me. I have become so used to being in my room and not having to socialise that now socialising has just become difficult and stressful. I have been invited to attend a pres next weekend. I forced myself to say yes. But now i am ******** it. I would much prefer to hibernate away from everybody and eat away my pain. I accept that my life is extremely sad and pathetic but its so much easier for it to be this way than to force myself to do something which will most likely be terrible. How can I make this pres more managable. I literally know nobody
    You sound introverted, nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to party if you don’t like it. Try go out a little more though, if not with people at least on your own. Join a gym or something.
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    Nothing wrong with that, although maybe get out a bit more like the Night King says. But it doesn’t have to be a party. You could for example go bowling or to the cinema with your flatmates.
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by ISmellLikeBeef69)
    I decided last year that I should go to University and move away from home as I knew that if i was to stay at home my social life would remain none existent. I have been here for 7 months first year is almost over and I have not gone to a single club or party. Every single day is go to uni then go back to my bedroom. Weekends and holidays are the same stay in my room and do nothing. Normally I feel like this would send other people insane but for me this is normal. I have never really had a social life. It has always been go to school go home go to sixth form then home and now its simply go to uni and go home. I have realised it isnt the place which makes me this way its honestly just me. I have become so used to being in my room and not having to socialise that now socialising has just become difficult and stressful. I have been invited to attend a pres next weekend. I forced myself to say yes. But now i am ******** it. I would much prefer to hibernate away from everybody and eat away my pain. I accept that my life is extremely sad and pathetic but its so much easier for it to be this way than to force myself to do something which will most likely be terrible. How can I make this pres more managable. I literally know nobody
    Dude don’t worry, you’re just introverted - like me . If you ever decide to try and meet someone new at uni, I’ve found doing this in small tutorials and labs to be much easier because there are likely people in the same position - and it’s less intimidating than a lecture theatre.
    Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play
    • Community Assistant
    Online

    21
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    You're fine. I've never been clubbing either, it's not my thing.
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by ISmellLikeBeef69)
    I decided last year that I should go to University and move away from home as I knew that if i was to stay at home my social life would remain none existent. I have been here for 7 months first year is almost over and I have not gone to a single club or party. Every single day is go to uni then go back to my bedroom. Weekends and holidays are the same stay in my room and do nothing. Normally I feel like this would send other people insane but for me this is normal. I have never really had a social life. It has always been go to school go home go to sixth form then home and now its simply go to uni and go home. I have realised it isnt the place which makes me this way its honestly just me. I have become so used to being in my room and not having to socialise that now socialising has just become difficult and stressful. I have been invited to attend a pres next weekend. I forced myself to say yes. But now i am ******** it. I would much prefer to hibernate away from everybody and eat away my pain. I accept that my life is extremely sad and pathetic but its so much easier for it to be this way than to force myself to do something which will most likely be terrible. How can I make this pres more managable. I literally know nobody
    Take something non-alcoholic as well so you don't feel you might get drunk.
    Offline

    22
    ReputationRep:
    Well if you have a high 2:1 or near all firsts, then your fine, if your dont there is cause for concern.


    Get out and do stuff that doesnt involve drinking....you should feel apart of group work etc...
    Offline

    5
    ReputationRep:
    nerd
    • Community Assistant
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    (Original post by ISmellLikeBeef69)
    I decided last year that I should go to University and move away from home as I knew that if i was to stay at home my social life would remain none existent. I have been here for 7 months first year is almost over and I have not gone to a single club or party. Every single day is go to uni then go back to my bedroom. Weekends and holidays are the same stay in my room and do nothing. Normally I feel like this would send other people insane but for me this is normal. I have never really had a social life. It has always been go to school go home go to sixth form then home and now its simply go to uni and go home. I have realised it isnt the place which makes me this way its honestly just me. I have become so used to being in my room and not having to socialise that now socialising has just become difficult and stressful. I have been invited to attend a pres next weekend. I forced myself to say yes. But now i am ******** it. I would much prefer to hibernate away from everybody and eat away my pain. I accept that my life is extremely sad and pathetic but its so much easier for it to be this way than to force myself to do something which will most likely be terrible. How can I make this pres more managable. I literally know nobody
    There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and pres are not the only way to socialise.

    However at the same time if you want to change (and it sounds like you do) you'll need to put in the effort. That will be difficult at first and you will feel like this for a while. But unless you try, nothing will change. That doesn't mean you have to go drinking or clubbing if you don't watn to though. I don't personally like drinking or clubbing and instead I socialise through societies and other activities. Despite that, I've still never spoken to half the people in my class and don't know that many people. Nothing inherently wrong with that though.

    Don't force yourself to do things you don't want to do. Pre drinks is probably not the best way to start as you're dropping yourself in the deep end. But you need to do something if you want to socialise with people. You won't ever meet people just sat in your room.
    • Community Assistant
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    (Original post by lokixyy123)
    nerd
    Was that an attemp to insult the OP? As though being a nerd is a bad thing?
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: March 9, 2018
Poll
Should predicted grades be removed from the uni application process

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.