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    I'm studying Computer Science and I'm in my 2nd Year 2nd Semester. This semester started horrible, however. I feel miserable. I walk to lectures and don't understand or remember anything. I really don't care anymore about anything related to IT, I feel like I'm just wasting time. I realized it's not for me. But my mom is pressuring me to finish this semester at least and then take a gap year. I don't even think I can finish this semester.

    Above it all, I been getting panic attacks and vomiting every time I start thinking about university and load of course work, that I probably can't do (so that's like 1-2 times per day). It's been like this for a month and a half now. I went to psychologist and she said, that it's my body's way of reacting to not following the decision I've made internally already.

    What should I do? I feel like I'm going insane.
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    Go with your mother to a psychologist. Let them talk. I mean the psychologist can explain your mom exactly what is going on with you. You'll feel better if you quit.

    What do you want to do in your life?
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    Go with your mother to a psychologist. Let them talk. I mean the psychologist can explain your mom exactly what is going on with you. You'll feel better if you quit.

    What do you want to do in your life?
    I think I want to work in an office. Either as a clerk or a manager, accountant.
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    You just need a bit of success. What were your year 1 marks like?
    Your Mum is keen for you to continue because she is fully aware that a computer science career is a good one that pays very well.
    Are you really that out of your depth? Have you asked the lecturers to explain things again?, gone on to websites and forums to get help or looked at alternative texts to get the understanding in a different way?
    I nearly dropped out of uni many years ago because quite simply I didn't like studying. I understood most of the content but was just lazy. I took a year out and finished the course. So glad I did as I have a career in the pharmaceutical industry and am just embarking on a master's with a now more mature approach to study.
    Not saying my situation is the same as yours but make sure you think it through. You have paid for accommodation and tutoring for the semester so you might as well see it through. Alternatively, look to switch courses. A year out makes sense especially if you get a job and see how boring mundane work is.

    With all the above said your health does come first and if it is causing you to ill then you will not pass any course. Personally I would go to your doctor, get signed off with stress and then ask to defer the year based on health. This will keep the option open for you to return and will also maintain your honours if accepted as extenuating circumstances.
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    You just need a bit of success. What were your year 1 marks like?
    Your Mum is keen for you to continue because she is fully aware that a computer science career is a good one that pays very well.
    Are you really that out of your depth? Have you asked the lecturers to explain things again?, gone on to websites and forums to get help or looked at alternative texts to get the understanding in a different way?
    I nearly dropped out of uni many years ago because quite simply I didn't like studying. I understood most of the content but was just lazy. I took a year out and finished the course. So glad I did as I have a career in the pharmaceutical industry and am just embarking on a master's with a now more mature approach to study.
    Not saying my situation is the same as yours but make sure you think it through. You have paid for accommodation and tutoring for the semester so you might as well see it through. Alternatively, look to switch courses. A year out makes sense especially if you get a job and see how boring mundane work is.

    With all the above said your health does come first and if it is causing you to ill then you will not pass any course. Personally I would go to your doctor, get signed off with stress and then ask to defer the year based on health. This will keep the option open for you to return and will also maintain your honours if accepted as extenuating circumstances.
    I have passed all the previous tasks, because I could rewrite or use secret notes or get help from course mates....
    I really don't have an interest in anything they teach and I believe that is the problem why I don't understand.
    I have free studies, so I haven't paid anything for them, haven't lost any money.
    And about switching courses, at the moment I feel like I won't ever go back to uni, because I'm terrified.
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    It sounds like you have already made your mind up. Why are you here? It seems like you are just trying to validate a choice you have already made. The question is why are you needing the validation? Is it deep down you know it's a bad choice?

    if it helps, a degree is great but is not essential to being successful. Find something you are actually interested in and get a career in it. It is not worth damaging your health over.

    Once you have explained it to all of your friends and family(and in your eyes disappointed everyone(they will not be as bothered as you)) then you will get over it and move on.
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    (Original post by F Creaven)
    It sounds like you have already made your mind up. Why are you here? It seems like you are just trying to validate a choice you have already made. The question is why are you needing the validation? Is it deep down you know it's a bad choice?

    if it helps, a degree is great but is not essential to being successful. Find something you are actually interested in and get a career in it. It is not worth damaging your health over.

    Once you have explained it to all of your friends and family(and in your eyes disappointed everyone(they will not be as bothered as you)) then you will get over it and move on.
    I need a validation, because I'm afraid, if I'm making a bad decision.
    Also - I told my family, that I want to quit. And now mother made a scene, screaming, my brother kept saying that I'm just laughing about the help my mom and grandma has put in, that what will I do with life, that I should just keep going.
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    They are right and all the questions perfectly legitimate. If your quitting you will have to explain this out and given the above described circumstances will need a plan.
    However, if you explain its affecting your health a good family will put this first.
    Taking a year out might be a good compromise to take the edge off these conversations. You can then look for a job and get a career to ease their concerns before quitting.
    Alternatively, just go travelling. Their opinions of your choices will be at an all time low so may as well take advantage.
    Your worst position will be taking a year out and then being unemployed for the whole year.
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    (Original post by F Creaven)
    They are right and all the questions perfectly legitimate. If your quitting you will have to explain this out and given the above described circumstances will need a plan.
    However, if you explain its affecting your health a good family will put this first.
    Taking a year out might be a good compromise to take the edge off these conversations. You can then look for a job and get a career to ease their concerns before quitting.
    Alternatively, just go travelling. Their opinions of your choices will be at an all time low so may as well take advantage.
    Your worst position will be taking a year out and then being unemployed for the whole year.
    Thank you! That actually sounds like the best idea.
 
 
 
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