Is this a sign that people don't really care? Watch
I have got about 5 friends who always reply to me online, and start conversations with me etc. so that's great, but unfortunately most of them live abroad.
However, I find it difficult to meet people... I'm doing a year abroad and I've met two friends through an online group. When I see them they are nice, but they will never contact me first to ask to meet up, it's always me. The last time I was supposed to meet them both, they both messaged a couple of hours beforehand saying they were ill and that we'd rearrange, and I haven't heard anything since.
I tried to speak to some old schoolfriends online. They replied, but after 2 messages they stopped replying. I wasn't writing massive essays or just talking about myself etc. I was even talking about going to visit them or doing things for them.
As I mentioned I'm abroad and have previously been abroad for a few years but have not had a single visitor (friends) in 5 years. People say Oh i'll definitely come to see you! But no plans are ever made.. I know things are expensive etc. but then I see them going to other places and to visit people etc.
I think social media plays a large part too in how I feel. On peoples' birthdays I see people posting those collage pictures etc .on their wall with gushy posts, happy birthday to the most amazing friend I could ever ask for etc. etc.. but nobody would even consider doing that for me.
I know some people who just have so many friends; everyone wants to know them and they have hundreds of likes on fb etc.. I don't think that people have reasons to hate me; it's more that they just don't really care and I'm not important/interesting enough.
I know I am ranting but I just wonder what is wrong with me. I know you don't need tons of friends to be happy but I'm sick of having messages ignored or people not contacting me for months unless I do first.
Anyone else feel like this? Thanks
It's just that I have a friend, he must literally know more than a hundred people. He has friends in countries all over the world and it just seems like everyone wants to know him. I'm happy for him, and despite his popularity and living far from me, he still finds time to talk to me nearly every day.
I suppose I have to leave these people in the past. I don't know why they even bother coming to meet me since i'm the only one who suggests.. maybe out of boredom .Anyway, I will just have to try and get out there more and meet others