(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm really worried about moving from home at uni. My two options I'm toying back and fourth to is one that is an hour at most from home travel wise, and another one that is 3ish hours away from home. Neither of these might seem far to anyone but the latter feels far for me. The one that's further away is a really good uni for my course (and in league tables), it's one of my favourite cities to visit, and it's a lot more lively. But it's going to be a lot more expensive to live, the halls are a lot, the city costs a bit more (like drinks etc), it's a campus university so would have to pay for travel too (money is a worry for me). The closer uni is not amazing in league tables, but second best out of my options. The halls and living will be so much cheaper, and if I feel down it will be so much easier to visit my family, and also my boyfriend as he lives close. But the city is A bit boring, the 'vibe' of it isn't really me, in comparison to the first uni. This one is also an unconditional offer, however the other one has conditions, but that I should easily get. The only reason I am really getting indecisive is because the thought of moving away is killing me at the moment. sometimes I've been getting really down thinking about moving away from my family and boyfriend and I tend to get quite ill sometimes (not all the time) and I know I could get help easily at the closer uni from family. I know at the end of the day it's only me who can decide where to go but the fact that it's getting me down so much I want to know what other people think. (For the record I really like both of the courses and campuses). Has anyone else gone through this and would you recommend just going for the further one and i should be fine and just need to get over it? Or if it's worrying me that much should I go to the closer uni. Thanks !!
Don't worry about the league table rankings for the moment, and think about these questions:
1) Which location would you be happier living in for 3 years?
2) Which course (looking at the modules, lecturers, study spaces, resources, opportunities offered etc.) would you feel more inspired by?
3) Which university can you picture yourself at?
4) In which location would it be easier to find part time work (if money becomes a worry)? i.e. proximity to businesses that routinely hire students
5) Have you ever been seriously affected by homesickness in other situations?
6) What in particular is worrying you about moving away from home? Is it just the issue of illness and missing your family?
If you tossed a coin right now to decide, what feelings would you have about each outcome? Would you be disappointed/excited/relieved/anxious? The option that creates the least negative feelings is likely to be the best for you. The main thing is that you don't make a decision on a whim that you might regret later.