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    I’ve recently got in a relationship with a guy (he’s 19 and I’m 21) and I’ve realised we’re very different in that he’s very independent and me not so much. I still live at home with my parents and my mum cooks all the time so I never learnt to cook. I’ve had it pretty easy and now realise I don’t have a lot of life skills and rely on my parents quite a bit. Meanwhile my boyfriend lives alone and doesn’t really get on with his family. He’s extremely independent and it makes me feel really dumb that he’s younger than me yet he has all these skills. I feel so embarrassed telling him I don’t know how to cook etc. Do you think he cares? I just feel very inadequate compared to him and feel like we’re very different in that aspect
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    Maybe instead of caring about his opinion you should develop your life skills and gain some independence, if he's worth staying with he should be happy to help you learn without judging.
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    So...I don’t know if you are just my ex gf from three years back seeking advise back in time but if you’re not then you’re in for a treat here! I was in an exactly same relationship. My gf was 21 at the time, living with parents, she had low or non existent ambitions, no skills or passion specifically, didn’t know how to cook or didn’t have anything extraordinarily good going in her life. I was quite surprised at first to discover these things. But it meant for me I had a blank canvas if she’d let me colour it and she did. She let me take the lead and she learnt stuff with me, we developed skills together, she developed many skills, including cooking, got her first job with my encouragement and help, she even felt confident to pursue her interests in writing stories etc., she became more outgoing and overall a better person. Nothing in her however disappointed me or made me feel better or worse in any way. So if he likes you he won’t focus on it all. So do not worry! Just don’t let him think the way you do right now and you quit overthinking it too.
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    Of course it can work. If he's not willing to accept you for you then there's no point being with him anyway.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Of course it can work. If he's not willing to accept you for you then there's no point being with him anyway.
    new age bull the best partners help you change for the better after opening your eyes to what needs to change.
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    (Original post by agentfourty7)
    So...I don’t know if you are just my ex gf from three years back seeking advise back in time but if you’re not then you’re in for a treat here! I was in an exactly same relationship. My gf was 21 at the time, living with parents, she had low or non existent ambitions, no skills or passion specifically, didn’t know how to cook or didn’t have anything extraordinarily good going in her life. I was quite surprised at first to discover these things. But it meant for me I had a blank canvas if she’d let me colour it and she did. She let me take the lead and she learnt stuff with me, we developed skills together, she developed many skills, including cooking, got her first job with my encouragement and help, she even felt confident to pursue her interests in writing stories etc., she became more outgoing and overall a better person. Nothing in her however disappointed me or made me feel better or worse in any way. So if he likes you he won’t focus on it all. So do not worry! Just don’t let him think the way you do right now and you quit overthinking it too.
    Ye I love this lol. Totally agree with your post.

    It's rewarding when you have depressed friends and they achieve things because you inspired them. I'm a very driven and passionate person and I inspire everyone around me. Loads of my friends are people with *****y lives and mental health problems that pretty much talk to me to feel better and be inspired. Feels good seeing them become successful.

    I have enough ambition for a whole family of people. Idc if my GF doesn't as long as she loves and supports me lol.


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    new age bull the best partners help you change for the better after opening your eyes to what needs to change.
    Agreed. Healthy couple inspire each other.
 
 
 
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